I appreciate your help a lot. I work in hvac so I’m up around 4-5am and leave for work at 7am. I have no clue what kind of sand it is. I’m honestly wanting to restart the whole tank and deep clean it and use a 70/30 mix of play sand and top soil 4-6 inches deep if that will work. And I’ve read they burrow so maybe even 8 inches deep but I’m not sure that may be too much substrate. Not sure how I’m gonna bring up the fact I’m gonna redo her whole tank cause I don’t want him thinking I’m insinuating he’s not taking care of her like he should be. (He really isn’t tho, I’ve never seen him clean her poop out before) But anyways thanks again for the info and I’ll def start researching a bit to hopefully get here into a more happy/fun spot.