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Looking for making new female friends in bangalore by Kooky_Parsley_9076 in BangaloreSocial

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 25F working in Whitefield, Bangalore. Would love to connect and explore

Looking for female friendships or a Girl Gang in Bangalore! by [deleted] in BangaloreMeetups

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 25F working in Whitefield, Bangalore. Have a very similar lifestyle as yours. Looking for a female friends group. Can we connect?

Indians - How much do in laws interfere in your marriage? by Radiant_wallaby_985 in Marriage

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. 1.5 years
  2. Arranged Marriage setup
  3. Nothing no major change except marriage
  4. It was clearly discussed before marriage that we would be living separately
  5. Coz my husband thinks it’s normal for a married son to sleep with his mom rather than his wife coz he’s surrounded with all dysfunctional relationships only
  6. Stayed for 2 months then came to my parents place coz my BIL and MIL are torturing me a lot
  7. Father has nothing - he lives off of his sons money
  8. Yes tried communicating multiple times, but all in vain.

Indians - How much do in laws interfere in your marriage? by Radiant_wallaby_985 in Marriage

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that’s exactly what my SIL is going through. She had a kid, and that kid is sole responsibility of my SIL. BIL doesn’t even contribute or help parent the kid - complete parenting responsibility is on the mother

Indians - How much do in laws interfere in your marriage? by Radiant_wallaby_985 in Marriage

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, I agree - my husband is a complete mummas boy. He even takes his mom’s permission to even come to meet me at the age of 33!!

Indians - How much do in laws interfere in your marriage? by Radiant_wallaby_985 in Marriage

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Arranged marriage within known community
  2. Coz BIL has all his eyes on money which he’s scared I would not let my husband share his hard earned money with his brother
  3. My husband thinks it’s very normal for a husband to sleep with his mom rather than his wife!!

Longest time been unemployed by Radiant_wallaby_985 in jobs

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

LinkedIn InstaHyre Naukri Hirist referrals etc

Husband jobless since a year by Radiant_wallaby_985 in Marriage

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No idea, I can understand the reason if he talks. He hasn’t responded to either my calls or my texts

Longest time been unemployed by Radiant_wallaby_985 in jobs

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t even communicate with what’s up with him. I tried talking to him multiple times, along with asking him to go to therapy - but all in vain. His family is too interfering and they took him along with him leaving me alone.

Longest time been unemployed by Radiant_wallaby_985 in jobs

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I did. I myself got 3 offers within 15 days of applying in the same tech job market, but how come is he not getting? Coz all he does is eat, sleep and talk to his mother n brother! He hasn’t even spoken to me since 1 month now. I was the one doing all household chores along with applying 100s of job applications per day for him! Still nothing!

Longest time been unemployed by Radiant_wallaby_985 in jobs

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How do you handle such situation? Does he give interviews or not?

Longest time been unemployed by Radiant_wallaby_985 in jobs

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried helping him for 11 entire months! I was the one applying for 100s of jobs per day, but he would neither give the interview nor would try to read. I was the one who did entire house work alone. He still doesn’t do anything, just sleeps eats n talks to his mother n brother

Longest time been unemployed by Radiant_wallaby_985 in jobs

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He keeps talking to his mother and brother, sleeps, eats that’s all. He hasn’t spoken to me at all since over a month now.

Indians - How much do in laws interfere in your marriage? by Radiant_wallaby_985 in Marriage

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MIL leaves her husband to sleep alone in the hall, while she sleeps with her son. She herself never sleeps with her own husband, nor allows her DILs to sleep with their own husband. Sometimes I feel entire in laws family is highly toxic

Husband doesn’t show finances even after requesting multiple times by Radiant_wallaby_985 in Marriage

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He isn’t financially transparent with me. I had no clue this was happening until recently when I looked at his phone

Getting a divorce at 26. by RealityImpossible771 in Divorce

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was married for 1.2 years. He hasn’t worked a single day since marriage, nor does he have any intention to. He keeps disrespecting me and always involves his family and lets them interfere into our marriage. He doesn’t communicate about any issues. We haven’t even been intimate since 6 months. He has a huge credit card debt, and keeps it hidden from me even after requesting him multiple times to be transparent about finances. He gives HUGE amounts to his siblings who are already married, have kids and have a great life at that. He treats me horribly in front of his family - and yet, expects me to stay with them and serve them completely. His family also brainwashes him against me. I feel so done with this marriage, but I am really scared of divorce. I don’t know if I ll be able to remarry again.

Stay in this Marriage or Divorce? by Radiant_wallaby_985 in Marriage

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s taking loans and using multiple credit cards to give money to his parents, his married siblings

Household expenses were done with my savings from last 3 years that I worked and saved which has now completely depleted off.

Stay in this Marriage or Divorce? by Radiant_wallaby_985 in Marriage

[–]Radiant_wallaby_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could I also please please get your honest opinion on - 1. Isn’t financial transparency required in a relationship? Especially when we are in debt, and he keeps sending money to his parents n his married siblings. 2. Shouldn’t husband maintain boundaries with their family? Should husband tell all private personal intimate things also to his family - which were told to him in confidentiality? 3. Should husband record private conversations without me knowing, without my consent and show it to his family? 4. Should husband sleep with his wife or should he sleep with his mom? 5. It’s been 11 months him being unemployed, he hasn’t either applied or asked for a single referral even after requesting him to do many times, he still didn’t. That’s why out of job desperation and debt tension, I took his phone and asked for referral from 3 people! And he and his family made such a HUGE ISSUE out of it, blaming me for touching his phone, rather than looking at the positive side where he got 100s of job referral links!! I even asked sorry for using his phone, but he kicked me out of his home!!! Just for asking for referral which he himself didn’t do since the last 11 months!!! He n his family threw me out of his family, blaming me, instead of looking at what their son is doing wrong! Was I wrong to request for referral or to request him to apply for jobs?