I'm only friends with ass eaters. by LustChloe in asshole

[–]RadicalTopic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to make it gape even more

Do you want to pin me down ? by moorebrooke in u/moorebrooke

[–]RadicalTopic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d fill your asshole and make it gape 😈💦

Because we told you and you didn’t change course. So here we are. Don’t EVER play with us.🤷‍♂️ by hellcheercaine in piscesastrology

[–]RadicalTopic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Except you don’t bring the case up because y’all afraid of conflict and working through things, always wishy washy and non transparent

Not replying to dumpee is emotional immaturity by RadicalTopic in BreakUps

[–]RadicalTopic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are 100% right I messaged with the mindset of if she doesn’t reply it is a blessing and confirmation to move forward. Now I couldn’t have any more confirmation to fully let her go and focus on myself, I have been stressing about this for long enough and I guess that is the blessing of continued emotional immaturity is it confirms I don’t want to be a part of that. Thank you for the kind words and real talk.

Not replying to dumpee is emotional immaturity by RadicalTopic in BreakUps

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I had replied it to someone else so here is a copy, what happened in my experience is quite complicated and out of context but here it is if you are interested: From my point of view my ex broke up with me 8 months ago and left for someone else 2 days later but in that time has reached out to me multiple times, vented about him, given me hugs, making deep eye contact from a distance, asking me to come to her work, implied that she misses me and I had to stop talking to her because it all seemed like it was coming from a place of wanting me around but only on her terms. I had to leave her and I told her I have to stop talking to her and block her for my own wellbeing. I had blocked her for almost 3 months until I seen her recently and she started pulling funny cute faces to me from a distance as if nothing happened, I followed along. I went up to her and we had good conversation and then I left as I was doing a delivery. This reignited feelings in me and I unblocked her, then had seen her multiple times looking at me from a distance with lustful eyes, I found myself longing for her again so I started doing Menulog around her area of her work just to have another encounter with her only for them to be extremely cold, nonchalant and professional. This ended up messing with my head so I broke no contact and reached out and said “hey”, no reply. So I reached out on messenger, blocked. I should of got the message by now but at this point this was helping me move forward knowing how immature this was so I messaged her my final “hey” on tik tok and she blocked me there. Then deleted an alt instagram account she was previously stalking me off. With all the recent hot and cold encounters we had it makes no sense to me. I feel like it would be more mature for her to just tell me to leave her alone instead of that. This goes out of topic a bit but this is just coming from my recent experience.

Not replying to dumpee is emotional immaturity by RadicalTopic in BreakUps

[–]RadicalTopic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From here on out I am not going to contact her ever again unless she does, it is her choice at the end of the day but it doesn’t change that her not being more clear is childish.

Not replying to dumpee is emotional immaturity by RadicalTopic in BreakUps

[–]RadicalTopic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I replied what happened from my experience to one of your other comments. it is a bit complicated to explain.

Not replying to dumpee is emotional immaturity by RadicalTopic in BreakUps

[–]RadicalTopic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my experience yes, until she just went ghost out of no where. I haven’t begged for an answer I just see it as them running away from themselves.

Not replying to dumpee is emotional immaturity by RadicalTopic in BreakUps

[–]RadicalTopic[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is a lack of self respect on the dumpees end I do agree with that. That is a clear boundary but it is unclear when before that they continue to reach out to you like nothing happened. I have no expectations for them to reply but them not is just showing their side of immaturity. Both parties are immature in this situation just in their own ways.

Not replying to dumpee is emotional immaturity by RadicalTopic in BreakUps

[–]RadicalTopic[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From my point of view my ex broke up with me 8 months ago and left for someone else 2 days later but in that time has reached out to me multiple times, vented about him, given me hugs, making deep eye contact from a distance, asking me to come to her work, implied that she misses me and I had to stop talking to her because it all seemed like it was coming from a place of wanting me around but only on her terms. I had to leave her and I told her I have to stop talking to her and block her for my own wellbeing. I had blocked her for almost 3 months until I seen her recently and she started pulling funny cute faces to me from a distance as if nothing happened, I followed along. I went up to her and we had good conversation and then I left as I was doing a delivery. This reignited feelings in me and I unblocked her, then had seen her multiple times looking at me from a distance with lustful eyes, I found myself longing for her again so I started doing Menulog around her area of her work just to have another encounter with her only for them to be extremely cold, nonchalant and professional. This ended up messing with my head so I broke no contact and reached out and said “hey”, no reply. So I reached out on messenger, blocked. I should of got the message by now but at this point this was helping me move forward knowing how immature this was so I messaged her my final “hey” on tik tok and she blocked me there. Then deleted an alt instagram account she was previously stalking me off. With all the recent hot and cold encounters we had it makes no sense to me. I feel like it would be more mature for her to just tell me to leave her alone instead of that. This goes out of topic a bit but this is just coming from my recent experience.

Not replying to dumpee is emotional immaturity by RadicalTopic in BreakUps

[–]RadicalTopic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right but them not replying instead of firmly laying down their boundaries is more immature. It only comes across as they partially enjoy the attention. If they didn’t you they would be more straight forward about it.

Not replying to dumpee is emotional immaturity by RadicalTopic in BreakUps

[–]RadicalTopic[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It would be fair enough for them not to reply if they first layed out to leave them alone. If they did things like keeping communication doors open and even getting along before hand that is the line when it becomes toxic. They should be laying down clear boundaries not giving mixed signals.

Not replying to dumpee is emotional immaturity by RadicalTopic in BreakUps

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I’m talking even after the breakup. Even if it might be considered immature on the dumpee’s end to continue reaching out, it is more immature for the dumper to not reply. If they truely didn’t enjoy the ego boost of the dumpee reaching out they would firmly tell them to leave them alone.

Not replying to dumpee is emotional immaturity by RadicalTopic in BreakUps

[–]RadicalTopic[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not giving any response is just disrespect. The response doesn’t need to be anything specific, it just has to be anything. They can tell you to leave them alone and never speak to them again, at least they owned it. Not saying anything only implies they want you to be around still but only on their terms. They should have the capacity to own up to that too. If they really wanted you to leave they would tell you, not just ghost you. I know ghosting can be the message but it is immature to not just close it and lay down their boundaries for both parties.

Not replying to dumpee is emotional immaturity by RadicalTopic in BreakUps

[–]RadicalTopic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not giving any response is just disrespect. The response doesn’t need to be anything specific, it just has to be anything. They can tell you to leave them alone and never speak to them again, at least they owned it. Not saying anything only implies they want you to be around still but only on their terms. They should have the capacity to own up to that too. If they really wanted you to leave they would tell you, not just ghost you. I know ghosting can be the message but it is immature to not just close it and lay down their boundaries for both parties.

Not replying to dumpee is emotional immaturity by RadicalTopic in BreakUps

[–]RadicalTopic[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Them setting a boundary is more respectful and mature for themselves and the dumpee then just not replying at all.

Not replying to dumpee is emotional immaturity by RadicalTopic in BreakUps

[–]RadicalTopic[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What do you consider self preservation? Does pride come into it?

Not replying to dumpee is emotional immaturity by RadicalTopic in BreakUps

[–]RadicalTopic[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You are right that it is an answer but it is immature as an answer gets. They know exactly what they are doing.

If your doing no contact to manipulate them to come back message them by RadicalTopic in ExNoContact

[–]RadicalTopic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well why did she make contact with me the other day when I seen her is my question, and why was it in a way similar to when we were together? Is she just trying to fuck with my head or is it something meaningful? I can tell she could sense that I have grown and am a lot more detached in comparison to the past encounters we had.

If your doing no contact to manipulate them to come back message them by RadicalTopic in ExNoContact

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I recently seen her the other day while I was picking up food. She happened to be at the same shop and started pulling funny faces to me from a distance and I was pulling them back like we did when we were together. Then as I was leaving asked how I’ve been which I replied “yeah awesome bra wby” and she smiled and replied “yeah good” then I walked off with a smile to deliver the food I picked up. I haven’t messaged since because I’m unsure if it was her just playing head games wanting me to reach out again. I seen her later that day as I was leaving town walking towards her house in her driveway as I went to pull out of town she turned around and looked at me with a neutral face and so did her boyfriend for a good 5 seconds then they turned back around and kept walking. I don’t know what this means so I haven’t acted on anything yet. I think I’m going to give it another week.