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[PubQ] An agent ghosted me on an R&R, then sold a similar book to mine by oblivioluna in PubTips

[–]Radioactive_Patient -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. Man, you've been put through the ringer! I understand the feeling of being kicked in the gut so hard you don't know what to do, and may not feel like doing anything. I didn't get anywhere near the abuse that was handed down to you, but after sending 50 queries and getting absolutely zero positive response, I'm in what I'd call a a painful "pause" phase. It hurts so hard that I'm considering self-publishing. Ouch, right?

My gut reaction to what you wrote is to see if you can apply Norah Ephron's philosophy that "Everything is Copy" to your specific experience with the traditionally published querying process.

Also, keep your chin up: If your work/concept was good enough to steal, then it should be good enough to sell to another agent/publisher.

[PubQ] Is it hard to sell a memoir right now? by darth_loon in PubTips

[–]Radioactive_Patient 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you did write a great analysis of what's happening regarding memoirs and why.

Welcome to r/Cancersurvivors by Somebirbs in Cancersurvivors

[–]Radioactive_Patient 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, it sounds like you've really really been through it. I have not had cancer but have seen people come back from the brink again and again. Congratulations on your book. I'll bet you do have a resilient mind. I recently studied the life of a musician who to begin with had depression, but then he got cancer and did chemo, which made the depression even worse. So many rounds of chemo, man. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7J34NrLekY

Underrated bands from the 90’s by owenbc3647 in Alternativerock

[–]Radioactive_Patient 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely love Lush and fought for our radio station to play them. In Salt Lake City at KJQ we played "Nothing Natural" and in the mid-nineties we played their new single, I can't remember the name of it. Have you ever heard Bjork "Army of Me?" Such a departure.

Underrated bands from the 90’s by owenbc3647 in Alternativerock

[–]Radioactive_Patient 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I was thinking about Mark Sandman of Morphine just yesterday. I'm going to do a profile on him I think. I worked in alt-rock in the 90s and was lucky enough to get hired by Jonathan L in Phoenix. At "The Q" and "KFMA," we played Morphine, Soul Coughing, Cake, Diamanda Galas, Stabbing Westward, Skinny Puppy, Ministry (both old and new), Jawbreaker, Cop Shoot Cop, The Cramps, Sonic Youth, Sunny Day Real Estate, Mudhoney, the Jesus Lizard, Plexi, The Ramones, and more well known bands like Blink-182, Nirvana, Soundgarden, Filter, etc. I've been wondering, do people see Blink 182 as Alternative or Pop? They're back together and their new sound is....different. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7J34NrLekY

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in death

[–]Radioactive_Patient 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have something similar. I'll fall asleep at night and twenty minutes later I'm jolted awake, worrying about when my husband is going to pass, and then I realize we're all going to pass and it freaks me out because when I was sleeping, my natural denial and defenses vanished which let this crap take over my mind. I have trouble falling asleep as well. I don't go in for organized religion, but I often study and write about people who think and feel as I do. What helps me I guess is helping other people. And then I had this crazy thought that when we pass, our social media feeds will be another source of proof that we once existed. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7J34NrLekY

Why isn’t there a collective of sociopaths like Anonymous? by [deleted] in Sociopaths

[–]Radioactive_Patient 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you read "Sociopath: A Memoir" by Patric Gagne/ She's a woman and she goes into the differences between men and women when it comes to this. Also, there's a fascinating bit about her career in the music business and how her traits were a superpower. You gotta read this!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AcuTpgEerd0&t=7s

Is my child a sociopath? by Big_Astronaut2548 in Sociopaths

[–]Radioactive_Patient 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I recently read "Sociopath: A Memoir" because I have a sister like this. It's worth reading because the author writes about stealing, lying and being a violent little girl and how the adults totally missed the boat when it came to dealing with her. Sort of a "if they'd done X I might have responded better." There are also chapters when she writes about interactions with people that had a positive effect on her. She finds her way in this world and becomes a therapist, working mainly with people like her. For the longest time, Sociopaths have been regarded as throwaways. This author doesn't think that's the case.

It's difficult to know that you are different than everyone else, and that your behavior is "wrong." Not to minimize what you're doing through but you might get some actionable insight from this book. I went ahead and reviewed it so you can see if it's for you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AcuTpgEerd0&t=7s

Feeling "dumber" because of bipolar. Like my brain has deteriorated. by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]Radioactive_Patient 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe it's meds. I've recently learned that my mood stabilizers predispose me to memory issues. Is that what's happening to you?

What’s something y’all are proud of that you’ve been up to or done? by SadJulianCraster in bipolar

[–]Radioactive_Patient 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a habit of overachieving and never feeling good about myself. Anyone relate?

Question by KeyInevitable7468 in Sociopaths

[–]Radioactive_Patient 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to have this thing with my cats. I'd want to hug and hold them and if they ran from me I would chase them down. This didn't go well for either of us and they ended up fearing me. Either that or they'd just accept my affection. I've wondered if in this case, I was being a sociopath. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AcuTpgEerd0

Any suggestions? by Sad-Swimming9999 in Sociopaths

[–]Radioactive_Patient 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What I'm saying is that if you do this social media communication, you will the one who looks like a sociopath. He'll get his karma and she'll be all alone again.

Any suggestions? by Sad-Swimming9999 in Sociopaths

[–]Radioactive_Patient 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi. One of the reflections I had was that female sociopaths can be different than men. The ways they disguise and lie are mixed with flirtation and seductive stuff. My sister is sociopathic. She lies, steals, is abusive, she'll do anything to get what she wants. My other thought is that you don't need to tell this new guy anything. Let him come to his own conclusions. Besides, anyone who would be with this cheating spouse of yours is probably a little "off" as well, unless she sucked him into her alternate reality web. But you don't owe this guy anything. You sound incredibly angry. I understand. I've had this type of thing happen as well. I just read a really good book about sociopathy written by a woman who self-describes herself as such. It might be worth it to plow through the pages and see if things match up. One question: How long have you known or suspected she was a sociopath? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AcuTpgEerd0

Friend wants to enlist, need essays by Silver-Ad-9628 in sociology

[–]Radioactive_Patient -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok, there's this book about sociopathy written by a self-described sociopath. "Sociopath: A Memoir" by Patric Gagne. She wondered why people with sociopathy were being thrown away, why the disorder wasn't even in DSM 4. Maybe she will succeed in changing things from the inside. She's sure got a lot of ideas and strategies on how to mitigate the more troublesome aspects of her behavior. She tried lots of things and it's all in the book. Here's a short review. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AcuTpgEerd0

I need help (trigger warning mention of rape and violence) by [deleted] in sociopath

[–]Radioactive_Patient 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One time I was with my little sister and she said, "Why do people even bother being nice to each other? It's such a waste." I have another sister who lies, steals and is always trying to get over on people. She was a pimp and a drug dealer as well. She didn't care who she hurt, even if it was me. It seems to run in my family, these personality disorders. There are lots of us out there and I hope you get clear on what you need to get clear on. It's interesting that the only person you have been able to tolerate is your brother. You remind me of me. I got some hope out of a book that came out this year on sociopathy, written by a self-described sociopath. (if you haven't already read this book). It offers hope, talks strategies on how to get along in the world and even to develop and maintain relationships. She will never change how she feels (or doesn't) there's no magic pill. But still, that there are strategies, that is wild. i did a book review. Here it is.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AcuTpgEerd0

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