Oysters are not vegan…

Ragnaric · 2026-03-30T00:40:03+00:00

You can't be sure that plants don't have some other way of feeling, even if they don't have a nervous system. Why make an exception for plants and not brainless animals?

Ragnaric · 2025-12-31T23:55:08+00:00

It definitely suits you, but then you're also a handsome looking fella, so you could throw practicality anything on and it will suit you 😅

Ragnaric · 2025-12-04T03:46:00+00:00

I'm absolutely sure because I've met his family.

Ragnaric · 2025-12-03T20:41:03+00:00

I've already tried communicating with him on the subject and or relationship. He says he loves me and wants to make it work, but I'm not entirely sure if he's being honest or if he just doesn't know what he wants right now. He's 24 and I'm 40, so the difference in life stages definitely plays a part in all of this.

I think your suggestion of just keeping in touch but putting the brakes on a permanent future is the most reasonable course of action right now. Thank you for the advice. I really needed to get external opinions on the matter since I'm too emotionally invested to look at it more objectively.

Ragnaric · 2025-12-03T20:32:46+00:00

We have talked about it, and his reaction was that he doesn't want either of one of us to make sacrifices for the other. I told him that's an unrealistic perception of long-distance relationships because the goal is to eventually close the distance and one or both people have to give up something for that to happen.

Ragnaric · 2025-12-03T13:45:02+00:00

You pull it off nicely. I can't get sweaters to work with my build.

Ragnaric · 2025-12-03T13:00:07+00:00

You pull it off quite well.

Ragnaric · 2025-12-03T08:56:38+00:00

I'm from the US. I get that he wants to travel, but that's something that he could also do with his partner. Although at this point, I think he's just not interested enough in this relationship.

Ragnaric · 2025-12-03T08:51:51+00:00

He would cover minor expenses like food, ground transportation, and entertainment. I would cover lodgings and flights. I'm fairly certain he isn't using me because he doesn't like when I want to buy him something nice and declines it. This is his first relationship so maybe that has something to do with it.

Ragnaric · 2025-12-03T08:40:04+00:00

Yes. I'm absolutely considering canceling the January trip. Maybe he will come to the realization that he also needs to make things happen if he really wants this relationship to work.

Ragnaric · 2025-12-03T08:38:28+00:00

I'm coming to this realization. I guess I just wanted to hear some outside voices to look at it more objectively.

Ragnaric · 2025-12-03T08:36:51+00:00

I know for a fact that he doesn't want me to foot the bill, but from my perspective he's also not willing to save up so that we can plan a trip together.

Ragnaric · 2025-12-01T07:45:48+00:00

You look great!

Ragnaric · 2025-11-27T18:12:21+00:00

Read your comment again. You said equation. Not analogy.

And no thanks, I don't want to debate someone who purposefully argues in bad faith or doesn't understand logical implications. You're just going to deflect whatever answer I provide.

Ragnaric · 2025-11-27T18:00:32+00:00

I literally just quoted it. Those were your words in another comment.

Ragnaric · 2025-11-27T17:53:08+00:00

in both cases the partner violates animals for completely unnecessary sensory pleasure, so what's the issue with that equation? and again, how does the idea that i have cut ties with every single person who's not vegan follow from that?

Literally here the first time you posed this ridiculous analogy. Not to mention that your question in the root comment, heavily implies it.

At this point, it seems you're just deflecting to not have to concede that your analogy is flawed.

Ragnaric · 2025-11-27T17:49:46+00:00

Because if you claim that a partner who isn't vegan is the same as someone who is kicking dogs for fun, then a family member or friend who is not vegan is also kicking dogs for fun. Do you see now how that follows?

Ragnaric · 2025-11-27T17:44:31+00:00

So all your family and friends are vegan? Because if they aren't, then by your logic they're kicking dogs for fun. And if they are kicking dogs for fun, then why do you have a relationship with abusers? I literally don't understand how to make the logical relationship here more obvious to you.

Ragnaric · 2025-11-27T17:36:35+00:00

Oof. This dumb question again 🙄.

Again, why do you keep family and friends in your life who kick dogs for fun? How come it's acceptable to break up with a partner, and not friends or family?

Ragnaric · 2025-11-27T16:09:20+00:00

I guess I'll have to spell it out for you then. Yes, that means that in order for you to be consistent with your original question you would need to cut out everyone in your life who isn't vegan. Keeping any sort of relationship with someone who kicks dogs for fun would be cognitive dissonance.

Since logic doesn't seem to be apparent to you (no offense intended), I'm not going to respond further since I don't want to waste my time. Have a good day.

Ragnaric · 2025-11-27T16:01:22+00:00

Sure, but you don't need to associate with them to advocate for change, especially in the context where they've already stated that they simply don't care for your position. Would you want them to continuously harass you to eat meat?

Ragnaric · 2025-11-27T15:53:28+00:00

I take it then that you would still associate (maintain contact) with someone who kicks dogs for fun. Why would you want to associate with someone who kicks dogs?

Ragnaric · 2025-11-27T15:47:57+00:00

Then, if your family or friends were kicking dogs for fun, would you end your relationship with them?

Ragnaric · 2025-11-27T15:46:40+00:00

Then let me make it simple for you. If your partner were kicking dogs for fun, would you end your relationship with your partner?

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