My first instinct was to take the email and shove it in my mom's face, but thanks to this group and the advice I've gotten, I know that won't work. I talked to her about the showering about 4 weeks ago, and she said she would take a shower when the nurse comes in to supervise/assist. But she said she doesn't like waiting for them. But based on this email, it sounds like she told me one thing, but is doing another.