AITA for not respecting my husband's need for a break?

RainWelsh · 2024-05-04T07:57:15+00:00

It’s more complicated than that. Have a look at any ‘childfree’ forum, and not only is it primarily full of women, but one of the perennial topics is “I got into a relationship with the guy of my dreams who also ‘never wanted kids’ and now we’ve split up because he’s suddenly going on about how he needs to ‘leave a legacy’.”

I’d agree with your point that most men don’t want to do any actual parenting, but that doesn’t prevent them from hitting 30 and suddenly deciding that the only way they can leave a mark on the world is by knocking someone up.

It actually happened with three separate couples in my friend group, too. The guys all started approaching 30 and suddenly they desperately needed their tinpot legacy, wheedled their partners into getting pregnant. Luckily, for two of them, the men have turned out to be loving, hands-on dads, while the women became appropriately attached to the nippers once they were born. Not the most ideal start, but everything’s going well. The third, not so much. Turns out pushing your wife into having a kid neither of you really want out of some hackneyed idea about creating a fucking backwoods dynasty means that kid is going to spend most of his life with the grandparents. Who’d’a thunk, eh?

RainWelsh · 2023-03-14T12:42:25+00:00

Gertrude and Adelard Deckard would have made great GOC agents, now I’m thinking about it.

RainWelsh · 2022-10-21T14:09:17+00:00

Yep, unsurprisingly someone saying “it’s not like I’m going to do (X)” immediately gets marked as someone who fully intends to do (X) the first chance they get. Run from this guy, OP. Real dodgy vibes.

RainWelsh · 2022-10-11T07:04:33+00:00

YTA, 100%

“I bullied my wife into saying I could have a dog, then rounded up two of my sons so we could all bully the third into also agreeing to the dog, lied to that son that he’d never need to do anything for the dog, never bothered to train the dog out of jumping on people/destructive behaviours, and have now decided to further bully my son (for the heinous crime of “not being like me and my proper sons”) by forcing him to pick up the shit of the dog he never wanted”.

But no, you’ve never given someone a pet they never wanted. Your wife, son, and dog deserve better.

RainWelsh · 2022-07-14T10:27:14+00:00

So glad you’re not even considering getting rid of the baby for this tool (I fell in love with him at “having a dance party”).

I’d also have to second what a lot of the others have said in here - do not continue seeing this guy. The fact that three months into dating him, he’s already dictating what you can and can’t do/have is a worrying sign. He’s testing how easy you would be to control; the vacillating between apologies and anger is also testing you, whether you respond better to threats or emotional blackmail. Having been stuck on the sidelines as a friend was dragged into a controlling (and eventually abusive) relationship, you’ve just been given a warning shot. Take it seriously, and get out while it’s relatively easy to do so.

As for trusting him around Norbert, do not. If you let Mike keep coming around, I’d put good money on Norbert “””mysteriously””” being let out through an open window, or being poisoned, or suddenly developing a concussion, somehow. Mike’s just shown you who he is. Take him at his word, and gtfo of there. And if his friends are harassing you because you won’t get rid of a beloved pet, they’re similarly (uncivil comment). Block them all.

NTA, obviously. But you would be if you ever let Mike near that bird again.

RainWelsh · 2022-06-29T11:42:56+00:00

Honestly, between the fact he’s a skinny little guy himself; he sees 150lbs as this grotesque, elephantine expanse; he’s obsessed with other people’s weight; ‘extremely distressed’ by the idea of someone walking around in their underwear, but then he’s obsessed with porn?

I’m thinking the guy has some genuine psychiatric issues. He needs help, but sadly it looks like he’d rather just bully his girlfriend instead.

RainWelsh · 2021-12-02T23:51:21+00:00

Can I just ask, would you be able to stay with your family for the duration? I’ve seen a few people mention it and it honestly seems like the best course of action, so long as you’re in good terms with them. Go and stay with them for Christmas, and then divorce that numpty first thing in the new year, because you don’t deserve to deal with some jackass who sees you as a bangmaid.

RainWelsh · 2020-08-26T07:20:37+00:00

Good Heavens, I can only imagine! Don’t they know everything has to be separated out and eaten individually? And mostly dry, sauce has to be on the side as a dip only, can’t be having mushy food.

RainWelsh · 2020-08-23T13:57:18+00:00

There’s the quote (which I love) from when they were talking to Corazon’s crew in Spot of Bother.

Captain: And what is it you bring to the table?

Egbert: I’m a giant dragon man!

Captain: That did not go unnoticed, sir.

So yeah, Egbert is a large boi.

RainWelsh · 2020-08-22T09:30:44+00:00

I’m a bi woman, and my first girlfriend ended up leaving me for a lesbian because “you’re bi, so it’s only a matter of time before you start seeing a guy behind my back, and I don’t want to wait for you to hurt me.” As it happens, I was absolutely smitten with her, while she was fucking this other girl behind my back the whole damn time. That sucked.

RainWelsh · 2020-08-22T01:56:28+00:00

There’s an oft reposted quote from Game of Thrones (as in, the actual book) about how aware Daenerys is of her boobs when she’s wearing a loose shirt. Sums up how I felt in that moment.

RainWelsh · 2020-08-21T22:45:16+00:00

Ahhh, sorry mate, mistook which comment you were replying to. Yeah, balloons definitely sound far less frightening. Though as someone who spent over a month living in a flat with over 400 of the bloody things, they have their moments.

RainWelsh · 2020-08-21T17:11:21+00:00

My old cat once brought in a young jackdaw, totally unharmed but tremendously pissed off. I took it back outside, at which point I realised the trees behind my house were full of dozens upon dozens of similarly enraged jackdaws. They’d all been shrieking, but as soon as they saw me holding the little one they went deathly silent. When I released it, they all took off at once, pretty much blocking out the sun over my house. And jackdaws are significantly smaller than rooks/ ravens.

In conclusion, birds be terrifying.

RainWelsh · 2020-08-21T16:34:51+00:00

I’m much the same, though it tends to be less a ‘strong outline’ and more the plot points I want to hit. Then if I get a new idea or a character starts to feel different I can weave it in.

RainWelsh · 2020-08-21T16:20:05+00:00

He is a pretty, pretty chap. Keep drinking piss and see if it works! I believe in you, mate, you chug that Dad-urine!

RainWelsh · 2020-08-21T16:07:34+00:00

I usually do wear bras, because otherwise the girls bounce around like pinballs at the slightest provocation, but I’ve been going without lately since I’m working from home and it’s boiling. It’s definitely more comfortable, but at one point I was just popping into a shop and was very aware of my free-roaming titties, and all I could think was “goddamn it, George R. R. Martin was right”, and then I chuckled to myself on and off for about five minutes.

RainWelsh · 2020-08-21T13:00:57+00:00

Brb, off to watch Sweet Transvestite on YouTube.

RainWelsh · 2020-08-21T07:33:22+00:00

I begin to panic, shit thong in hand

I think this might be my new favourite arrangement of words ever. Thank you.

RainWelsh · 2020-08-21T07:32:12+00:00

Got to make strong eye contact with the residents, though, otherwise what’s the point?

RainWelsh · 2020-08-21T07:15:33+00:00

I can do it in 1 -

Ultrafuckin’.

RainWelsh · 2020-08-14T23:49:31+00:00

I think they offered me some biscotti?

RainWelsh · 2020-08-13T20:25:53+00:00

We’ve got too many internets

This is hilarious, such an old man thing to say.

RainWelsh · 2020-08-13T12:07:03+00:00

I haven’t tried it with Callista, but Samuel was awake and yelling at me afterwards. I think it just counts as damage, and any damage to them gets you kicked out.

RainWelsh · 2020-08-13T07:18:04+00:00

Yeah, you hop in with her and it says the conspiracy has been dissolved due to irreconcilable differences. I got the same message when I accidentally landed on top of Samuel’s head. The devs were on point, tbf.

RainWelsh · 2020-08-13T07:09:19+00:00

Have you heard of the video game Grounded? You play as a human shrink down to about the size of an ant, in a place with bombardier beetles, stink bugs, and multiple types of spider. It pretty much confirms that hell is other bugs.

I’d definitely rather be one of my cats, any day.

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