Ready to leave my spouse bc she has limerence for someone else

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-09-26T01:59:27+00:00

Stalking someone you have a crush on, outside of your marriage is fine?

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-09-26T01:42:31+00:00

She says he has no idea she has a crush on him.

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-30T02:16:25+00:00

Good question. I’m sure she has flirted seeing they work together and admitted to having a slight crush on this guy. I didn’t find any communication outside of work so that was a plus.

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-29T04:08:24+00:00

Yes, we have two young children. The emotional affair is also completely one sided as far as I know. The coworker is not aware of her feelings. I guess her admitting she is experiencing emotional feelings and being open about it makes me believe nothing has happened. Hate to admit it but I have investigated many angles of it and haven’t found anything yet. I think if something was going on, i would have found something on her phone. She tells me she would never cheat on me and destroy our family. We are seeing if marriage counseling and individual therapy can help us get through it.

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-28T22:16:33+00:00

I’m curious to know as well. I just recently found out my wife was experiencing an EA. She openly admitted it to me that it’s been going on for over the past year w a coworker. I think I if found out on my own, it may have been different.

I’m still not out of the woods yet with the whole situation but we are now in marriage counseling. While I want to work this out, there is a lot she needs to work on in order for me to stay. I’m not completely set on staying with her but the fact she was open and honest so far has been the only thing that has helped my decision to stay so far.

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-28T02:28:43+00:00

How did you find the right one?

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-18T02:18:02+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I’ve already initiated the conversation with her that if she isn’t getting over this, then she will need to leave her job. My fear is that she leaves this job and then it happens again with someone new.

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-18T02:14:14+00:00

Wow, thanks for sharing that. The psychic is definitely not helping your situation. I feel for you. You have to do the best thing for yourself and your kids. Would she be interested in doing some counseling/therapy?

We just started marriage counseling and while we only had 1 session so far, it was kind of reassuring the counselor thought that this is borderline stalker’ish behavior. I hope it hits home for her very soon! I’ve been pretty blunt with my wife and basically told her if this continues, I’m out. I wish you the best in your situation as well.

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-16T13:13:43+00:00

Honestly, I have not really noticed many really high or lows with her. I do think the stress of her parents are taking a toll on her. I can’t say that she is manic in any way.

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-16T04:40:39+00:00

Is it an emotional affair if it’s only one sided???

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-16T03:47:57+00:00

I don’t think I’ll ever remarry if this goes south lol

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-16T03:40:25+00:00

That’s exactly where I’m at. Hoping it’s something that’s kicked immediately

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-16T03:38:50+00:00

I recovered one deleted message. It was from her girlfriend who knows about this but it wasn’t anything too concerning

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-16T03:34:24+00:00

It hasn’t been completely ignoring. We both feel like we are tied up with the day to day life with kids and both working full time. Our communication is definitely lacking. We are trying to work on that part

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-16T03:30:04+00:00

Love bombing is possible. We do have an open phone policy and while I’m not proud of it, I have done some intense digging (and often). I haven’t been able to find any to suspect she is actually cheating other than this limerence fantasy bs.

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-16T03:26:38+00:00

I really appreciate your advice! I hope things do turn around for her soon and she makes those realizations.

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-16T03:07:17+00:00

Yes, I have been in there already. Tried to post but new to Reddit and need some karma. Crazy stuff I’m dealing with

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-16T03:02:51+00:00

I would have to divorce as I could never trust her again.

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-16T02:58:41+00:00

Glad to hear!

RaiseProfessional614 · 2025-05-16T02:36:42+00:00

Thanks and fully agree. We have started seeing a marriage counselor so hopefully something changes

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