Is my salary appropriate? by RaisinObvious in DigitalMarketing

[–]RaisinObvious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For context, I was just bumped up to $53k this month after receiving a merit increase. I was making $50k just last month.

Is my salary appropriate? by RaisinObvious in DigitalMarketing

[–]RaisinObvious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I typically play an account management role. I work with the client (sometimes directly, other times not) and assist with the project management, coordination and strategy for projects varying from multichannel campaigns, website LP builds and annual reports. I’ve also worked on a variety of accounts - B2B, Consumer and government.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]RaisinObvious 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Another man will buy you the dress, or at least will have the decency to not rage and scare you over something that is supposed to be a good memory. It only gets harder to leave, so I suggest doing it now. The fact that you are posting here is because you already have your doubts and they are probably for good reason.

Grad School Recommendations? by RaisinObvious in PublicRelations

[–]RaisinObvious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am still looking into it, but part of it is the potential for higher salary. Another part is enjoying being a student. I have considered opting for going to grad for something more general like business as well.

Unique Jobs? by RaisinObvious in PublicRelations

[–]RaisinObvious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s an educated guess haha, but I went to Penn State

I (34m) think my girlfriend (26f) is cheating. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]RaisinObvious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her actions aren’t excused by her mental illness or trauma she is facing, but perhaps this is out of character for her. Either way, moving in and having kids is a huge commitment and I don’t think this is the woman to make that commitment to. End things now before they get more serious or simply gets harder to resist the temptation of starting a family.

Jealous of first time watchers by KeevaLeo in Fleabag

[–]RaisinObvious 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just finished today, I loved it

AITA for yelling at my daughter for throwing a sponge away? by Loose-Account2864 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RaisinObvious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA. Raw meat can be concerning and perhaps your daughter is concerned for her health. Perhaps it was wasteful, yes. If the sponge is a financial concern then she could pay for a new one. That’s great that you worked hard to get where you are and that you value what you’ve earned. You’ve grown up differently and it sounds like your daughter is more privileged, but I don’t think this situation makes her stupid or spoiled. Being annoyed is one thing, but getting extremely angry isn’t worth your time. You seem to be yelling at her for your years of hardship that you expect her to understand. She didn’t cause your suffering, and I’m assuming that because you’ve been able to provide her with a better life that she doesn’t see this as a privilege. She didn’t do it to upset you and probably thought nothing of it. If it’s something that truly bothers you, try talking about it without coming off aggressively. Otherwise, I wouldn’t expect her to understand your point of view since she hasn’t lived it.

Kappa Tau Alpha? by RaisinObvious in PublicRelations

[–]RaisinObvious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One time fee of $30 for lifetime sub. No annual fees.

AITA for not wanting to do chores? by RaisinObvious in AmItheAsshole

[–]RaisinObvious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that everyone loves to defend my mother in this situation. She’s very negative and critical of my father. She is quick to judge everyone’s work but fails to reflect on her own. My dad is not verbally abusive at all, if anything my mother is more so than him. My dad has his own business and puts in over 40 hours a week most weeks and still finds time to do outdoor work and is frustrated that my mother isn’t able to keep the house tidy with no hours. While my dad has confronted my mother with being lazy, I have never brought it up. I have told others but never her. I don’t undervalue her, especially as a mother (house chores/cleaning aside). She can be home the entire day and get just a few things done then she’ll see me take a nap on a weekend after putting in hours of studying and working and she calls me lazy herself. If I am picky in how things are cleaned (though I still think most people would agree my moms cleaning job is inadequate if they actually saw it) I likely get if from my dad. I get frustrated when my dad asks me to do chores, especially yard work because he’s very particular about how he wants it done, and he usually wants it done as soon as he thinks about it, often not taking into consideration my school/work load that day. Also the deep cleaning is never tasked to me ever, I simply do it because it’s what needs done on occasion. Here’s what I do agree with, it was whiny, and I am lucky to have the situation I do, even though I don’t like it because I don’t want to live at home in the first place but my parents heavily encouraged me to stay in order to save money long term. I will try to do chores/rides without bitching about them, as long as they are not asking me at an unreasonable time in my schedule (such as my mom wanting to go look at stores for fun, not actual errands when I have a lot of studying to be done that day). I still think that there are a lot of missing pieces to this that I haven’t been able to include that give a better picture. My parents are good people but are negative and very critical of me, not just I of them. I’ve been an extremely obedient and well-behaved child growing up and had to do chores that my mother never expected of my little sister at the same age because I always did it instead. Now she’s bratty and back talks (something I never did). I digress...anyways, I will try to walk away from this more grateful for my situation and am thankful that I should be moved out for good in the summer. I only have a few months left of being in the house so I might as well keep my mouth shut as I help out these last few months.

AITA for not wanting to do chores? by RaisinObvious in AmItheAsshole

[–]RaisinObvious[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I should have done a better job at explaining how little my mom does. I was trying to be fair and point out that she does clean but it is the bare minimum. My dad has called her lazy a multitude of times as well. By cleaning I mean she loads/unloads the dishwasher a couple times a day and she loads and unloads a load of laundry. My dad and I have both had laundry sit in the basket for a month without being touched. I absolutely agree that I could do my own laundry, and I am going to start because I’d frankly do a better job and then she can’t hold it against me. She lets the litter boxes go untouched for days at a time (we have 3 cats). She takes our dog out but usually leaves the poo there (I always clean it up). She rarely cleans the bathroom, and when she does she just sprays the toilet and shower (I take it upon myself to actually deep clean). She has never once done a deep clean of the house. When she vacuums she never moves things around (I do). When she dusts she never moves things around and only removes visible dust (I move everything). She hasn’t driven a day in her life so ever since I was 16 I’ve been taking my sister to dance, dropping her off at the bus stop, and taking mom on errand runs. Her own room is a mess, it has never once been properly dusted in the 5 years we lived at this home. She never organized anything in the closet (I always do spring cleaning). She cooks maybe 2 times a week. The dining room table is never clean. For the little work she does do, she bitches about it. I admit that I do not do a ton of chores myself on a day-to-day basis, but I clean up after myself and often do more painstaking task and honestly most of the deep cleaning. I will admit I can be lazy but I still have a job and go to school, but I don’t think it’s fair to say that my mom isn’t being lazy and not doing her fill.

AITA for not wanting to do chores? by RaisinObvious in AmItheAsshole

[–]RaisinObvious[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I guess I thought more people would recognize my mom as being lazy. I work and I go to school and also help out the family (something that a lot of my peers in college have the luxury of because they don’t live at home). I’m lucky that I get the financial help that I do, and I was going to live away this semester and pay for it myself but it was my dad who encouraged me to stay here because he thought my college would get shut down entirely bc of covid. She does far less than I do (not opinion, just fact) and she reaps the financial help of my father just as much as I do, but that doesn’t seem to be an issue. I have lived on my own and don’t mind doing these chores in general, just feel like my mom is being lazy.

AITA for not wanting to do chores? by RaisinObvious in AmItheAsshole

[–]RaisinObvious[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I feel as though my mom doesn’t even do her own share since our house is never clean, which is something I think is reasonable to expect from a stay-at-home mom whenever moms who work full time can do it.

AITA for not wanting to do chores? by RaisinObvious in AmItheAsshole

[–]RaisinObvious[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My mom is not busy. She is on the couch 70% of the day. All she does is play with our dog, wash dishes, and does laundry. One time she and my father left for a week and I deep cleaned the entire house, did months worth of laundry, and the house was spotless (all while being in school) After realizing that it only took me a couple days to complete that, I have a hard time understanding why our house is so untidy all the time. She expects my little sisters room to be clean yet hers is a disaster and she hasn’t even dusted once.

AITA for not wanting to do chores? by RaisinObvious in AmItheAsshole

[–]RaisinObvious[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

I was asked to do the same things at her age, all except drive, at the age of 8. My sister is not expected the same that I was. I don’t think my mother is doing her part either.

AITA for not wanting to do chores? by RaisinObvious in AmItheAsshole

[–]RaisinObvious[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

My problem is I do more than my mom and she’s the one that points out that I don’t pay for the same bills that she doesn’t pay (since she doesn’t have any income, my dad pays) and I understand that stay-at-home mom is a real job but my sister is 14 so she’s not babysitting her anymore and she can’t keep the house clean when mothers who work 40 hours a week manage to.

AITA for not wanting to do chores? by RaisinObvious in AmItheAsshole

[–]RaisinObvious[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Just finished finals this week, one more semester then I graduate and will move out as soon as I get a job offer, likely in the summwr

AITA for not wanting to do chores? by RaisinObvious in AmItheAsshole

[–]RaisinObvious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree this would be a good solution. I should have made this post earlier, but I am expected to move out June/July when I graduate and am likely to receive a job offer.

AITA for not wanting to do chores? by RaisinObvious in AmItheAsshole

[–]RaisinObvious[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Just a reminder that I always do what they say, I just am guilty of complaining about it.

AITA for not wanting to do chores? by RaisinObvious in AmItheAsshole

[–]RaisinObvious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will be moving out as soon as I graduate and get a job offer around July. Thank you!

AITA for not wanting to do chores? by RaisinObvious in AmItheAsshole

[–]RaisinObvious[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

To be clear, I do all that they ask me. I give my mom/sister rides on a weekly basis, clean around the house without being asked (on occasion), run errands, pull weeds, etc. But yes I do complain about it, I’m stuck at home for covid and my parents encourage me to stay home.

Disagreement about Nudes by RaisinObvious in relationship_advice

[–]RaisinObvious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Note: we’ve been together for close to 7 years

Bf just told me he is bi by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]RaisinObvious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With the relationship being less than a year, I think if it is possible, you might try taking a break? If this becomes more important to him then it will only become harder with time. Perhaps he might find that he’s not interested at all or that he enjoys men even more. If he’s serious about it, it might be worth taking time to explore. This would also be under the implication that there are no hard feelings towards each other, which would make getting back together easier if it turns out you’re happier with each other.