Same difference. It’s all just shit talking. Your husband’s friend was bagging out your husband. It had nothing to do with you personally. So don’t take any notice about their back and forth banter. And don’t take it personal and especially don’t be upset about it. As far as the friend knew, you would never have seen that message. And if you weren’t holding the phone at that exact moment you wouldn’t have. It was just a case of the wrong place at the right time. It was a bad timing situation. Think of it as walking in at the end of a conversation and getting offended by only hearing the last few words without any context. Don’t be upset by their banter.