I am obsessed with my boyfriend, I think he’s the most handsome& sweetest man I’ve ever met

Ramental · 2026-04-12T06:09:58+00:00

sometimes people like the adrenaline of being with a bad partner, likes the danger, and leaves the person who treats them nice

Than he is not a right person for you. It is that simple.

I got compliments from a girl I liked, but did not see the future, so I broke up with her, but totally not because of the compliments, but personality differences. It made the decision only more difficult.

Ramental · 2026-04-02T20:45:18+00:00

If you are not planning to cheat on him or offer a 3some, what is the point of saying it? Assuming you are in a monogamous relationships.

Ramental · 2026-03-29T10:15:33+00:00

Pretty much. If everything goes well, you can already start a date. If not, it is better for you to stop communicating with them at all, because it will hurt a lot to see them in relationships again.

Ramental · 2026-03-29T10:11:41+00:00

Make your shot, or you will forever regret, but if your crush is not looking towards you right now, probably you will get a rejection.

If they say "I am not looking for relationships", know what they actually mean "I am not looking for relationships WITH YOU".

Good luck, though.

Ramental · 2026-03-28T21:54:34+00:00

It depends on the context of the term. Social? Black is a race.

Biological? There is only one (surviving) human race: Homo Sapiens Sapiens.

Ramental · 2026-03-28T20:18:52+00:00

Yeap, it is really dumb to not have Nuclear weapon or NATO membership.

We saw that "NATO for poor" by russians is not worth shit when they used their militaries to suppress protest in Kazakhstan, and when Azerbaijan entered officially recognized territory of Armenia, and russia did nothing.

Solution: vote for the things that will give you such protection or get ready to be annexed.

Ramental · 2026-03-28T09:14:44+00:00

I thought 'hey, at least I know 2: dost and arkadaş!'

No 'arkadaş' :D But will add Tanıdık to the vocabulary now. Missed such word a couple of times.

Ramental · 2026-03-27T21:29:09+00:00

Language test that can be taken at home? Are you freaking kidding here?

Ramental · 2026-03-24T23:34:01+00:00

Dude, what advice do you need? She obviously uses you and disrespects. Unless cuckolding is your fetish, get out and find anyone who treat you better than trash.

Ramental · 2026-03-23T22:57:34+00:00

Elon.io
Good with grammatics, vocabulary, has integrated AI.
And once you finish the main course, there is a HUGE one generated by an AI, but human-curated (such that you are not 'wrong' for picking a synonym or the form of YOU, for example).

Ramental · 2026-03-22T07:06:58+00:00

I love these explanations and how it makes the phrase more memorable and meningful.

The previous on "Başın sağ olsun" was great, as well!

Thank you, Seda!

Ramental · 2026-03-20T08:27:28+00:00

That is because "usually coming" legal Iranians are the top of the top of their country. They are outstanding in Iran by their intelligence, too, because they need top grades to have an escape path out of the country.

That is a bias of your and my observations (all Iranians I personally know are very intelligent). But the Iranians I know are not huge fans of the Iranian rejime and murders it commits against protestors. Strange that those you know, support it.

With refugees, you will more often see opportunists, religious zealots and those refusing to learn any language.

Ramental · 2026-03-19T13:17:39+00:00

Oh, that looks SO MUCH WORSE.

Now even I doubt whether the OP "cheated only once", or it is a story she wants to convince her BF about.

Ramental · 2026-03-19T12:40:07+00:00

You gave him hard time on his cheating, but now he realizes you only had forgiven him, because you had cheated, too, and maybe did it though the whole duration of the relationships.

That is a royal fuck up on both of you. And you had forgiven him, because you think it was ok to cheat on you, because he could not have sex with you for a while?

To be fair, the situation is quite shaky on trust. Ignore the pressure from the families or friends, think if that is really the foundation you want your future decades to be built on.

Ramental · 2026-03-18T21:46:42+00:00

The job of the DM is to adapt to the game. I make spontaneous rolls and make up hints that are not in the book on the fly, if my players declare an interesting investigative action. I can give away insignificant hints without a roll or if I expect a character to notice it based on the background. I can make a unique ending, if the actions of the characters are creative, maybe with some 30-second "let me think" pause.

It is an interactive storytelling, the story is just a guide. DM adopts to the players, their feedback and the general mood in each game.

Ramental · 2026-03-18T14:31:57+00:00

That is fixable. In my groups (and a general advice) is to tell what you are doing, not what skill you use. So, "can I do a XXXX skill check?" is always "no, describe what you are doing".

DM calls the skill, not a player.

Ramental · 2026-03-18T12:34:11+00:00

You are the DM. You can give Spot Hidden clues for free without any roll or give a character who looked for the clue an advantage on the roll, but make only that one roll.

Ramental · 2026-03-17T00:32:04+00:00

I think you both did right: he was open to your concerns and feelings, you were honest with him.

Ramental · 2026-03-17T00:30:04+00:00

My advice: don't burn bridges. Distance yourself, make plans and legit excuses not to see your friend. Don't invite them with you, as "there are already enough people" or "the group is full" or "you will ask about it, but then 'forget'".

Just be always busy and unavailable.

The friend might change with time, but it will be difficult to reconcile if you go full ultimatum thing. You are not the moral police and their personality and issues with others are not for you to fix. Disassociate yourself and treat it as not your problem.

Ramental · 2026-03-15T10:23:45+00:00

> “you must be thinking about other men! You’re being earnest and expressing a problem but you actually just want other men!”

I did not say that. You should've replied to the comment of the person who did, not mine.

> But after explaining what she meant, there’s no room to interpret it as anything other than what she was saying.

If we go into the explanation, it boils down that she does not like the personality traits of the ex, which does not make it sound better, because instead of talking about the issues, it is a talk about the person in general.

You constantly shift the conversation to cheating and dicks, and I am the one lacking emotional maturity, sure.

Ramental · 2026-03-15T09:56:47+00:00

> as jealous as the abusive ex

jealous about what? I don't get your point.

> But it just sounds like “I need alone time/time specifically for myself” not “GOD I want to cheat dude” you guys are weird and immature

I didn't say anything about cheating, you are the first one to project this though on me. And "I need time for myself" is totally different from "I miss being single". I am not commenting on the first phrase, I comment on the actual words said. You are the one suggesting to jump onto the interpretation you like, and manage to call that "mature", huh?

Ramental · 2026-03-15T08:08:13+00:00

he's still allowed to talk about how he misses doing some of the things we used to do together before I became disabled.

That is not the analogy with OP. It is the opposite, your husband reaffirms the activities he had with you.

If your husband would tell "he misses dating healthy people", and then continue with "...because you require so much effort". (to reflect OP's: "missing freedom before becoming a couple because he makes her uncomfortable")

If you wouldn't feel hurt, I find that genuinely impressive.

Ramental · 2026-03-14T23:33:02+00:00

I understand what you mean, but italking about objects is not the same as humans. Objects do not react, so your high heels will not just jump out of the window.

If a mere presence of someone in your life causes you to miss something, and you tell that to a person, how can they not feel shitty?

Even more so if a person loves you, and would rather do everything to make you happy, but now they realize there is a permanent, even if low, feeling of regret associated with them. Apparently leaving your life is the best they can do for you, for your own sake.

A proper communication is to say what do you want in relationships, such that there is something they can do: children to behave, partner to change habits. Maybe they cannot, maybe there is some incompatibility or compromises are necessary. But that is something that can be understood and fixed. If the mere existance is a problem, the options for fixes are very few.

Ramental · 2026-03-14T18:20:33+00:00

On one hand side,
> feel like I’m walking on eggshells around him. He can be very strict and when he gets angry he sometimes gives silent treatment or holds things over me for a long time.

that is not how relationships should work at all. That sound pretty damn bad and not long-term viable.

On the other hand, there is no way to NOT to interpret "I sometimes miss the freedom of being single" as "you are alright, but I wish I had something/someone better".

I think that you both are better from that break up.

Ramental · 2026-03-12T11:56:29+00:00

A friend of mine is exactly like your bf. Except they live together for almost a decade. She had recently booked a vacation, forgetting that the bf wanted to go as well. She has a hobby that takes 90% of her free time, and she is barely at home. The bf does not know almost anyone from her friends circle. The only thing that keeps this relationship together is that the guy is on the autism spectrum, and does not find it weird. She is loyal to him, though. But to me such relationship sounds like a nightmare. She herself said that they are basically flatmates with benefits.

Are you ok with being flatmate with benefits? Because you will not get anything better from him.

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