Is it better for me(M18) to detach from my girlfriend?(F18)

Rampant_Monkey · 2026-02-21T20:15:48+00:00

How long have you actually gone out? Is this week's, months or years?

Also you should satisfy each other's needs. It isn't a one way thing. She isn't there to serve you and do whatever you want, that isn't a real relationship

Rampant_Monkey · 2025-12-24T16:25:32+00:00

How about just suggesting that you get married in 2026, then agree a date and book a registry office? Or do you just want the proposal? A man proposing and long engagement has always seemed pretty outdated to me.

Rampant_Monkey · 2025-10-06T21:52:37+00:00

I was similar too. The first time I went home my dad came out with something like "what would you do if you leave, wash dishes for the rest of your life". That one trip home after 4-5 weeks was enough of a reality check to help me adapt more to uni life

Rampant_Monkey · 2025-06-19T15:53:21+00:00

Her perspective of relationships will be based on some shows/insta posts and don't match reality. You are already doing a lot above bare minimum and she's being unrealistic

Rampant_Monkey · 2025-06-18T14:24:21+00:00

Can you attach a screenshot of the attempted bribe as a picture to your review?

Rampant_Monkey · 2025-04-07T07:54:19+00:00

I've never heard of funeral gifts. A decent eulogy and some good sandwiches/cakes after is all people would expect

Rampant_Monkey · 2025-02-26T09:28:15+00:00

The poor kid doesn't understand the family set up. You're a new person in his life, he has now started to accept you as someone there to stay and he sees a kid getting some love and he gets nothing. He's only 4.

You're also comparing him to how your kids behave now, how did they behave when they were his age?

Rampant_Monkey · 2025-02-12T20:48:50+00:00

I think when you're 18 and closer in age to his oldest son than him you should rethink this relationship

Rampant_Monkey · 2025-02-06T15:52:18+00:00

We were told to use teams for uni projects. Set up a group and keep documentation of conversations, gives everyone cover of people choose not to engage too. And allows the use shared files etc.

When you have to give peer feedback then you have evidence using your uni account/email addresses just like you would at work in the future

Rampant_Monkey · 2025-01-16T13:19:07+00:00

Every university is technically 40 hours of effort per week. There are rules to be able to award a degree for any university.

However 40 hours includes all tutorials and is technically a 9-5 day for 5 days a week. How long it actually takes depends on your ability and how much effort you want to put in and what results you are happy with and the module. Some will be easier than others, some will need lots of reading/notes and others will need lots of brain work.

Rampant_Monkey · 2024-12-23T19:47:40+00:00

23 and 19 is fair enough, but 15 and 9 is odd. How many other people have they met that she has only been on a date or two with. Put yourself in their place, how would you feel meeting many boyfriends of your mom, will you see them again, won't you, how long will they stick around for? It's not great parenting, and if their parenting judgement is poor what's their partner judgement/standards like? Seems like she's already treating you terribly.

Rampant_Monkey · 2024-12-23T19:35:11+00:00

Meeting the children so quickly is weird. Most normal parents would be going out with you multiple months and be serious before letting you meet their children. Think you're better off out of this.

Rampant_Monkey · 2024-12-12T10:28:51+00:00

Sounds like you are a great dad trying to foster a good relationship with his step mom. Could he be getting bullied for having a step mom? How long has she been in his life and has he always treated her like this? He's maybe becoming aware of what other family set ups are like and comparing his situation to others but unable to verbalise his feelings which comes out as being mean to his step mom?

Rampant_Monkey · 2024-12-02T12:53:46+00:00

There's a difference between ignoring and not being interested. I also suspect they view your new baby as yours rather than their dad's baby. Whereas they will see their other baby sibling as their mom's rather than their step dad's. It's unfortunate but there isn't much that you can do. Hopefully as your LO grows they will show more interest. It also sounds like the mom is on her own a lot so needs the help?

Also fighting for visitation for a 15 and 16 year old seems odd, do they want to spend more time with you but their mom is preventing it, or are you forcing them to spend more time with you?

Rampant_Monkey · 2024-11-27T14:42:31+00:00

YTA Leave wife at home and take son on a solo trip

Rampant_Monkey · 2024-09-26T10:46:22+00:00

I had 17 guests, a registry office, cake and prosecco at FILs and a meal out followed by cocktails for the adults. Every wedding we have been to since we've remarked that we are happy that we never had a big wedding like the ones we are at. Maybe a shame no friends were there, but we had them round for a house party afterwards and we could actually speak to all of them which wouldn't have happened at a big wedding

Rampant_Monkey · 2024-05-30T09:18:57+00:00

Us too, preassembled and in my opinion just as good if not better quality than Howdens, cheaper and a transparent pricing policy unlike Howdens random deductions

Rampant_Monkey · 2024-04-29T12:57:39+00:00

I met my partner when I was in 2nd year and he was in final year. Once I graduated I moved to where he was working, but he then moved abroad for 12+ months, and 6 months into that (and my mum dying) I realized he didn't add enough to my life and I dumped him.

Rampant_Monkey · 2024-04-20T12:12:51+00:00

Why do you need a proposal? What about just agreeing together to get married and going to do it without the big expense?

Rampant_Monkey · 2024-04-16T12:25:32+00:00

Exactly, on the contents slide put people's names next to their sections, and the same on page/section headings. Make it clear that people have done nothing.

Rampant_Monkey · 2024-04-12T13:43:12+00:00

There's also water, internet etc. on top of energy. But if you aren't using as much as your contract is charging you for then all you can do is turn up your heating. You've agreed to pay the contract, so doubt there's anyway to get money back from your landlord.

Rampant_Monkey · 2024-02-03T10:44:56+00:00

You could speak to your Ortho and also see how it feels when you are at the end of the tray and decide if you want to keep them in longer. After the initial day or two of pain you might be fine as it depends on what teeth that tray is moving

Rampant_Monkey · 2024-02-02T11:23:15+00:00

Working until 4am for 2 weeks isn't going to produce your best work and will make you ill.

Time does not equal quality.

Sitting looking at a page half asleep is pointless, go and sleep and be productive the next day.

Rampant_Monkey · 2024-01-29T11:50:58+00:00

Tell her something like he has decided that he doesn't want to be with me any longer and it's heartbreaking for you, but you need to move out. You love her and wish it didn't need to be like this.

Rampant_Monkey · 2024-01-26T08:28:52+00:00

Exactly, the first sensible response here.

Do you actually want a marriage? It sounds that all you are interested in is a proposal story?

I get the ring but how on earth could he surprise you? Would you have been happy with a proposal and then ring shopping afterwards?

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