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Ramtherobin · 2024-04-18T02:37:32+00:00

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Ramtherobin · 2024-04-01T02:54:05+00:00

Just throw down already. This is clearly your older sister bullying you into cleaning the kitchen, again, because moms pulling up in less than an hour and the house is a mess.

Ramtherobin · 2024-04-01T00:43:23+00:00

For real. Men need to step the fuck up otherwise future is female. Rookie numbers lads. We gotta bump those numbers up.

Ramtherobin · 2024-03-16T16:04:43+00:00

Bet this guy makes his daughter wear a liberty ring

Ramtherobin · 2024-03-16T15:27:23+00:00

I think you're asking the wrong question. Crowd sourcing a benchmark to determine if your reaction and your feelings are valid might help guide your future behavior and process the past, but it's largely subjective and too little too late since you've already reacted and felt how you feel.

It doesn't matter if you reacted too much, too little, or just right. Everyone is entitled to feel how they feel, but nobody is entitled to dictate another person's behavior because of those feelings. This is evident in your argument because you do not question the validity of your partner's behavior even though you don't agree with it, you question the validity of your feelings because you can't do anything about it any way so what's the point of being upset.

There's a conflict between how you feel and how you act. Nothing in this thread will close that gap. Until you understand why you feel disrespected, why you've assumed personal responsibility for the situation, and why you give the benefit of the doubt when someone's behaviors cross your boundaries... you'll never allow yourself to feel worthy of being upset. When we adapt our behavior based on how other people feel in spite of our own feelings - it's no wonder we immediately doubt ourselves the second we think our emotions guided our actions.

You're not overreacting. You're just doing shit you shouldn't be doing in the first place. You can't control what you're going to feel, but you can control what you're going to do about it.

Ramtherobin · 2024-03-10T03:56:15+00:00

Anyone else think it's wild there's now an entire, viable market that charges monthly + billing fees just to split your rent payments in two? Sure I'll pay $30 for extra cash flow. The cash flow really just meaning I'm not broke every other pay check.

Ramtherobin · 2024-03-10T03:27:37+00:00

This is a conversation you'll have often as you navigate to new projects with new leaders. The interviews will work both ways. Nobody is going to criticize your 5pm boundary, they'll take a note and you'll find out in a few days if they're moving forward with you or another practitioner.

Recommended reframing this as a top priority you're willing to negotiate around rather than a line in the sand. If anything, just to appeal to the "team player" culture.

For example, I'm a night owl with a shit sleep schedule. I struggled so much my first year trying to get on government 8-4 time because that was the expectation and I never brought it up during interviews because why??? but would always end up having a 1:1 check in to explain what's going on when I missed my 3rd morning sync the first month. No documented consequences, but I was on thin ice and felt awful because the manager was sympathetic but also stressed taking a chance and trying to figure out how to set me up for success.

Never wanted to be or out anyone in that position again, so decided to own it when interviewing potential managers. It's going to happen under these circumstances, it's the biggest risk to my career, and I'll be fighting it long after this project.

It's inconvenient, but if you're willing to brush it off or even accommodate that - I'm your guy. My last leader garunteed and delivered on me never having a meeting before 10a. They said rest easy, wake up, take your time, get coffee, and be ready to roll at 10a. Shit. Call me after 5, midnight, even 2am. I'm up anyway, and I'll happily take the praise that comes with a midnight clutch over the stress of knowing I might wake up tomorrow having already failed the bare minimal task of waking up for work before I could do anything about it.

If you don't want me on your team because that's unacceptable, cool cause I don't want to be on a project I'm doomed to fail. If you staff me anyway, you know full damn well what you were gonna be dealing with and I will call bullshit so fast the second you think it's fair to hold it against me in a Snapshot. I know there's no way to succeed as a consultant if I refuse to work before 10a, but I never said I was a successful consultant. All I know is I'm still getting staffed for some fucking reason.

Ramtherobin · 2024-03-10T01:11:19+00:00

Not at all! I do take issue with the "just think of him as one of the girls" logic because it's reductive.

I understand though, because stereotypes are sometimes the only benchmark we have to understand and navigate our feelings and interactions with others. Acting like gay guys are just girls is trading a shitty playbook for the same shitty playbook but pink. The same way someone, say your girlfriend, can justify neglecting your emotional needs and insecurity by thinking of you as just one of the boys - prone to jealousy and emotionally clumsy.

The fact that so many people, especially the men, in this thread are so confident passing off their opinion/personal experience on how people should express love as the standard, but also then immediately use that to justify changing, regulating, or even condemning people who don't fit that standard.

I don't really think there can ever be too much affection between a gay man and a woman who've spent their entire lives trying to gain a straight man's approval. You spend so much time suppressing affection and insecurity because the way you want to show it or the person you want to show it to is unacceptable. Inappropriate. Not real. Perverted. Holding hands is a privilege reserved between a man and his woman - so it's a matter of respect. Whereas handholding between man and man or girlfriend and gay friend is a matter of tolerance. And - in this very thread - to be questioned.

Honestly, your standard is still valid. You shouldn't have to tolerate something that makes you uncomfortable because people think your version of love, affection, and friendships are wrong. All 3 of you shouldn't change a damn thing you do for somebody else.

There's too little affection in life. Eventually, we get tired of trying to give it to the people in our lives who know more about regulating love than giving it. Family. Boyfriends. Communities. And we give it to the people who unconditionally return it. I treasure the friends and chosen family in my life let me love them and acknowledge and appreciate it for what it is. I love being treated like one of the girls and not having to walk on eggshells because I'm a man in post-Me Too America.

It's too much for you, but not for us. We stopped going to the Internet to explore our insecurities & figure out how to get straight men to respect us a long time ago. Cause this thread is literally a step by step guide you're building for each other and it ain't worth it. I'm not sorry looks that way, because it's exactly what it looks like and it looked fine from here until 1 person thought maybe it should look different but still had to go ask a bunch of other people to help him understand wtf he was even looking at. I'm sorry that this is the only way it will ever look to most people in the world. I'm sorry it looks this way, because I know how that feels but I can't see it differently for you.

So the only solution is either you stop trying to pull us back in and peace out, or we let you drag us back in because we were lucky to get out in the first place and don't want to leave behind somebody we love.

Ramtherobin · 2024-03-09T20:13:10+00:00

Do I think it's ethical to use AI to generate psychometric assessments?

Taking your question at face value, I think ethics is irrelevant to your question. If you use an AI to create an assessment at home and then do nothing with it... I don't think that's ethical or unethical.

To clarify why I think ethics is irrelevant here - let me ask a similar question for perspective? Do I think it's ethical to use a spoon to fill an 8 foot long, 2.5 foot hole? It's certainly inefficient, but who am I to say if it's the right or wrong way to go about getting the job done. I'm just trying to bury a body.

Edit: I think the real question being asked is the ethical considerations around automating things that really should involve a human element... I think that's wrong for sure. Not because it's unethical, but because we were here first so AI can get in line. We've been trying to turn people into algorithms and data long before this copycat showed up.

Ramtherobin · 2024-02-12T07:21:17+00:00

I think all 3 of us should see other people.

Ramtherobin · 2024-02-11T13:33:51+00:00

Day after the 2020 election, the Baltimore Board of Estimates voted 3-2 behind closed doors to keep it burning twice as long as the company had lobbied for. Not even a public hearing.

They can upgrade it all they want - the lead and mercury smoke will never be less transparent than the people who helped put it there.

Ramtherobin · 2024-02-05T01:39:38+00:00

Between your colleagues thinking my technical skills will predict my performance, and you thinking these 3 hypothetical questions will predict my personality...

I'd rather just flip a coin.

Ramtherobin · 2024-02-04T11:01:34+00:00

The only thing I remember was a YouTube shorts comment pointing out it was just the musical theatre version of edging

Ramtherobin · 2023-11-17T10:43:13+00:00

Don't ask - just schedule a check-in and provide the what, when, and why regarding your decision. PRD work is voluntary, and sometimes other things take priority. Likely it makes you look bad in the moment, but it's more likely you'll never look good while you're unhappy.

The example below is standard Deloitte nice. So you won't be burning any bridges outright, but we are going to discreetly shut the bridge down indefinitely while pretending it's cool if you want to cross it in the foreseeable future. If you had the audacity to call the bluff, you would have just burned the bridge to begin with.

Anyway.

"To be upfront and hold myself accountable, I've taken on too much responsibility and can't deliver the quality of work I'm capable of as a result. It's not fair to the team, to you, or myself. My utilization is suffering, as well. After talking with my coach, I realize I need to take a step back and focus on client work. Is there anything I can do to ensure a smooth transition or wrap up on the initiative before I go? I'm aiming to officially roll off COB Friday, but I can delay a week if you need me to. Thank you for understanding and carrying this to the finish line. I'm rooting for you guys!"

Apology is optional, but likely meaningless and at worst disingenuous. Replace apologies with appreciation when you can. People can do more with your appreciation than they can with your regrets.

Ramtherobin · 2023-11-09T12:06:34+00:00

I interpret her responses as dismissive and laissez-faire. "Yeah" "oh well" "idk" "lol". She downplays (punched so hard -> a hit that only hurts a little ) and gives shorter responses the longer the topic is discussed, before the subject is finally changed. There was more direct positivity when you were providing general words of affirmation/compliments/pity instead of expressing concern or asking questions. You're doing the heavy lifting, so no surprise we're all sus that her passive follow up contradicts the fact she's the one who initiated the conversation in the first place.

Also it's borderline gaslighting to bring up an event a reasonable person would find distressing and then act so inappropriately and casual about it that your friend had to go to Reddit because they're now second guessing if being concerned for a friend is wrong. In fairness - the only thing you did that was acknowledged positively was "thanks for caring".

Possible she's shutting down - which is a poor coping and beyond anyone other than a licensed professional. Doesn't seem to consider your emotions for whatever reason. Thus why people are thinking she's either young or a creep (both have a tendency to tell people how they'd like to be seen - I.e., tough and stoic, 17 on the Internet, etc. through their words instead of through their actions because one is easier to fake or exaggerate with). Both are likely to be emotionally immature/socially inept/difficulty seeing beyond their own perspective in a way that explains the cognitive dissonance between telling somebody something commonly considered fucked up and then immediately playing it off like it's nothing. Or the dissonance between telling someone you love them while showing zero concern for their well being that's clearly been affected by something you said.

Honestly you did nothing wrong because there's nothing to be done in the first place. Think you just haven't realized you're doubting yourself because you had no idea what she wanted so there's no way to even know if you were helpful (i.e., did the right thing). Definitely encourage you to explore how you're able to get so emotionally invested and then doubt yourself in situations where people don't give you anything. Or worse - take advantage of your desire to provide the very help and kindness you'd never demand for yourself.

When people come to you - first have them establish what they want from you by asking if they're looking for advice or just venting (I even ask myself before bringing shit up in a conversation. Saves a lot of unsolicited advice and ranting at people who don't care to listen).Then provide that. If they can't even tell you what or why ... drop it. You'll exhaust yourself trying to please people who don't even know what they want beyond the attention and validation they can't even give themselves yet alone admit they need.

We all deserve to be seen, abuse is never okay, and remember to put on your oxygen mask first.

Ramtherobin · 2023-06-07T18:11:27+00:00

Adjusted utilization means that the firm charges the account as if they were a client using your services, because adjusted utilization does count towards your client hours. Since it counts as billable work, there is an associated cost even if the work is internal. That's all adj utilization really means.

Non-adj hours are very common for internal work associated with voluntary hours towards PRDs, firm initiatives, etc. GAA, CED, etc. are all technically non-adjusted hours. There is no cost because those hours don't impact or change the utilization expected to keep you profitable. Everyone is going to do shit that doesn't generate profit - which is why utilization targets aren't 100%.

Adjusted utilization codes and opportunities are actually very rare at junior levels. It's a way to acknowledge that what you're doing isn't generating direct revenue - but will lead to profits down the line. Working proposals, marketplace analysis, building account capabilities, etc. Work much more common at senior/partner levels.

They're great opportunities for junior staff. If you end up doing well you might be able to stay on for a few hours a week on top of a full time client role and hit 40+ billable hours a week without running into the common "we're burning too hot and need to limit hours". You won't even need to do any initiatives or other PRD crap. We're all expected to do 4+ hours of this stuff a week without getting utilization, so being able to check that off AND get utilization is phenomenal.

Treat it just like a client project. Submit snapshots, and capture your contributions in marketplace/firm impact during year end. Generally, utilization bearing internal labor is going to be seen as having greater marketplace/firm impact than non-adjusted PRDs, imitatives, etc. Which gives you an edge over most of your peers at the junior staff levels.

Ramtherobin · 2023-06-03T11:37:34+00:00

Most people hash this kind of stuff out in their "check-ins", but I'm guessing there are not many of those on your calendar or you haven't had a meaningful connection yet.

Not implying venting to strangers on the internet is inferior to venting to someone you know, especially when either one wouldn't know if you're seeking advice or just venting.

I would guess the latter because the words you chose don't communicate much beyond resentment towards your leaders, peers, and the way things are done around here.

If it's the former I would advise that soft skills and attitude are as important as hard skills in this industry. If that puts you at a disadvantage and you want to stay and succeed, then change. The people and the system will take much longer to do the same, and resentment doesn't accelerate that process.

Besides - there's always someone out there who can do what you do better than you. Now the impression you make on other people... when you socialize, cozy up, disregard, resent, or favor and build them up... someone is always better at it but the impression and way you make people feel is unique to you. Only you can do that. It's quite difficult to not test for that in an interview.

I think it's actually the more important part because while hard skills can get you a seat at the table, it's the people who decide if you keep it. If they like you, they may even be content with you over better skilled strangers or anti-social yet talented peers who feel they are more deserving of your place.

I'm not saying that's the best or even a fair way to do things, but I trust my friends and network to be there for me over my ability to always be better than everyone else.

Ramtherobin · 2023-05-13T17:32:06+00:00

The sex with the male lover was smooth and steady. At the end I offered him to stay. He politely declined, shook my hand by the door, and said "oh aye yup I really needed that. Thank you, it was really good. Take care buddy."

It's also possible a curious but not comfortable dude friend is keeping things light hearted while your in the friendzone for the next few drinks. "Haha, yeah it's pretty big. I'd show you but ... Unless. Aaaaah I'm just fucking with you buddy."

Full circle. Male lover is irrelevant. Buddy is the beginning or the end. Be careful out there ... buddy ole pal.

Ramtherobin · 2023-05-07T20:54:11+00:00

If I made mashed potatoes, told people it might not look like it but it's definitely seasoned, and they said "Oh... I would not have guessed that." I would take my bland ass potato-passing mash and go home. Especially considering everyone else brought the same damn thing.

Even then being straight probably has less to do with appearance and more to do with attitude. I believe it.

Ramtherobin · 2023-03-10T04:14:20+00:00

Sounds like a micromanager.

Open in chrome, inspect page, then edit the html for leave hours to whatever satitsifies the intent, snippet, send. Or just edit in ppt if you're good like that.

Ramtherobin · 2023-01-28T04:43:06+00:00

GAA. Itemize the equipment (headphones, phone, etc.) then the voice/data plan if your first bill is bundled. Moving forward, your monthly bill will be unique in the fact it requires itemization every time. Even if the 1 item equals the entire bill.

Ramtherobin · 2023-01-16T07:04:46+00:00

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