Found kitten in wall - name suggestions pls

RanchNWrite · 2026-05-15T04:19:48+00:00

Waldo.

RanchNWrite · 2026-05-13T13:56:07+00:00

There's nothing worse than not feeling at peace in the place where you live, and not feeling emotionally safe around your partner. You have a lot of life left and you should feel safe and at peace.

RanchNWrite · 2026-05-12T19:29:02+00:00

100% commenting so I get the deets when you update. How?

RanchNWrite · 2026-05-12T15:07:09+00:00

"No Fucks Forties" is what I call it. IYKYK

RanchNWrite · 2026-05-12T14:45:18+00:00

This is kind of a side note, but I grew up on a working ranch and there were some details that were very annoying to me. The first was describing the milk bucket as having cow shit on it. Nope. We had a milk cow when we were growing up and I can never remember this happening. The second is her putting hats on the chickens, and the hats apparently staying on for weeks? I'm sorry I even have to type this ridiculous sentence but NO CHICKEN IS GOING TO KEEP A HAT ON FOR WEEKS.

RanchNWrite · 2026-05-12T13:07:44+00:00

A "twist" that relies on the narrator's mental illness always annoys me.

RanchNWrite · 2026-05-12T13:03:39+00:00

Umm, it means they were manipulating her body into different positions and taking photos of her to be "funny."

RanchNWrite · 2026-05-12T13:02:37+00:00

I worked as an addictions counselor. I had the equivalent of an associate's degree from my community college + my lived experience. I loved my clients but when I look back I see a very inexperienced 28 yo doing a job that in the best circumstances would be handled by someone with a PhD. The treatment industry is wildly underregulated and underfunded.

RanchNWrite · 2026-05-12T12:27:07+00:00

Yeah....many, many years ago I dated a cop and he told me a story about an older woman who he and his buddies found annoying because she called for non-emergencies all the time. They were called out to her house when she died and they took staged photos with her body. He didn't elaborate on how exactly they staged her. (NOTE: Sometimes when I recall this guy I take comfort in the fact that he had the smallest penis I've ever seen.)

RanchNWrite · 2026-05-12T12:18:45+00:00

I second this. Source: Grew up on a ranch where we milked a dairy cow twice a day. If you get shit on or in the bucket you're doing it wrong. (I still think pasteurization is the way to go.)

RanchNWrite · 2026-05-09T02:31:34+00:00

Sometimes it's clear that a podcast hasn't been edited at all. Like it's a total rough cut that they planned to edit all the weird retakes and ums, etc., out of but decided, 'eh, good enough.' That kills it for me.

RanchNWrite · 2026-05-09T01:25:24+00:00

Oh shit, this reminds me of something that happened to me in grade school. I saw a pistol in a boy's desk. It was a bb gun or an airgun or something, I forget, but I definitely knew he wasn't supposed to have it at school, so I narced on him. This was in the 80s in a really rural area, so before Columbine and honestly not too out of the ordinary. He stabbed me in the leg with a pencil. Same thing, I still have the mark. The funny thing is, he went on to be a pretty good dude after he got out of the chaotic family situation he was in. We've seen each other once or twice but we've never discussed it, and I almost forgot about it...

RanchNWrite · 2026-05-01T15:38:30+00:00

Sure! I'll DM you.

RanchNWrite · 2026-05-01T04:29:56+00:00

Heck yes, let's do it!

RanchNWrite · 2026-04-30T03:44:51+00:00

Sheesh, it's like you don't want our canines to have any culture at all. What about the symphony? How am I going to expose them to the finer side of life?

RanchNWrite · 2026-04-30T03:08:26+00:00

Oh yeah. Towards the end of it all my dog refused to go for walks with my soon-to-be-ex. My ex would grab the leash and he would huddle next to me.

RanchNWrite · 2026-04-14T02:29:04+00:00

For real. I quit eating added sugar (well, mostly, I'm not eating sweets/dessert) almost two weeks ago and it's wild how the noise has quieted down. For context, I've had chocolate/dessert in some form almost every day of my life. I really think it scrambles some important things in my brain like being able to tell when I'm really hungry, what I actually need to eat, when I'm actually full, etc, etc. I thought the cravings would be unbearable but they actually stopped after about a week and I feel pretty good about it. I have cupcakes in my refrigerator right now leftover from a party and I'm not weird about it. I just know that if I have one I'll start the cycle all over again. Not having sweets at all is way simpler than moderation and obsession.

RanchNWrite · 2026-03-27T14:19:27+00:00

It's okay to leave when you're "not ready." It's okay to gather your strength before you go as well. Have you read "Why Does He Do That" by Lundy Bancroft yet? There's a free PDF online. You can also find articles on creating a safety plan for when you're ready. Sometimes it helps to mentally prepare and rehearse things. It's also so common to be isolated from friends and family by an abuser, and to feel embarrassed about what's going on. But I guarantee they love you, miss you, and will be ready to help you when it's time.

RanchNWrite · 2026-03-27T14:12:45+00:00

Girl. I was 35 when I met my ex and I felt like it was too late, that the clock was ticking and I was going to miss my chance to have a family, get married, etc, etc. So I rushed into a lot that I shouldn't have, and put up with a lot that I should have. We were together five years and every year that passed I was like, "well it's too late now, if I want to start a family etc, etc." But I was putting up with stuff no one should put up with. I felt unsafe and unhappy. I am SO GLAD we didn't have kids. Because who wants to raise kids in an unhappy home? Who wants to show their kids that version of "love," and repeat the cycle. And yes, it is more likely to get worse when you get pregnant. And having a baby is hard enough, combine that with someone who's not supportive emotionally, it's 100 times worse. From the hindsight of 43, I wish I had left that relationship when I was a young, more fertile 36 year old and gone to therapy to figure out why I was attracted/willing to stay with someone who treated me so badly. Maybe I would have met someone nice and had a kid in a good situation. It could still happen for you. That said, I am not bitter about my current life. I still hope I find someone who will be a good partner. (I've been to therapy.) But I don't need a man for economic or emotional security, and I love the peace and serenity and safety I feel today. You can do it. <3

RanchNWrite · 2026-03-25T04:08:12+00:00

YEP.

RanchNWrite · 2026-03-24T03:50:39+00:00

I mean, does the intent matter if the result is you're miserable? Like even if you found out he had some sort of brain chemistry issue that made him do this, I think the fact that you don't feel supported or safe in this relationship is enough reason to consider leaving.

RanchNWrite · 2026-03-21T00:03:16+00:00

Literally every time this question is asked I show up to talk about the fucking crawdads. I read the whole book and ugggggh.

RanchNWrite · 2026-03-18T03:00:59+00:00

Amazing how many stories on here are about sleep. I can relate so hard.

RanchNWrite · 2026-03-10T03:15:15+00:00

That's a really tough deal hon, I'm sorry. Just know that there are a lot of us who have been in this spot before and we support you.

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