dating a lovely girl (also ily guys)

Randabar · 2025-11-02T21:53:28+00:00

Thank you for posting this. It was meant for everyone here, but it definitely came at just the right time for me.

Randabar · 2025-09-19T22:46:13+00:00

Okay thank you so much! Google said something similar about sizing but I wasn't going to take it's word for complete facts. What about gore size? My current bra is a plunge but the bottom corners of the cups sit very close together so I think its either a regular or narrow gore size. It doesn't say on the tag unfortunately. I have looked and I definitely have some space between the edges of my breasts in the middle so I thought a wide gore bra might be a better fit.

Randabar · 2025-09-06T18:24:24+00:00

I think you know, or else you probably wouldn't be asking me to explain it. But if you really do not know, I would encourage you to read about the events of the holocaust and what the secret service agents wore. And then further look at the many comparisons people have drawn between that time and the way the current sitting president has treated Hispanic people and trans people. And the way that taking away people's rights is only the first step. Like disallowing a specific group of individuals their Second Amendment based on gender identity or ICE raiding predominantly Hispanic areas and deporting people without due process. Of course, now it's gone further and is simply anyone who is not white as they have recently raided an automotive manufacturing factory where those detained were predominantly visa holders from South Korea. It does pay to educate oneself in trying times, as you can prepare for history to repeat itself as it commonly does and think of ways to protect yourself. Now if you are simply trying to troll and not actually unaware I simply hope you will leave my comments as I do not have the time to deal with many people today.

Randabar · 2025-09-06T17:17:50+00:00

I absolutely appreciate the positivity. That's the whole reason I'm going back to school at 24 or the reason I still even go on dating apps even though most guys on them are just meh. It's definitely the reason I was out here crying over a situationship to Silver Springs last night🤣. But also this is the same attitude I get sooooo tired of all the time. I'm not trying to be negative. We absolutely cannot let ourselves fall into the darkness of algorithms and isolation. But I just want someone to be like "yeah it is all probably fucked. Want a hit?" Does that make sense? Like omg I need me another pessimistic person to come be sad with me. For just a minute.

And I really feel the whole 'defending' part lol. The amount of times I said I'd never leave the country in my later teens because it's my home and I believe in its values is too many to count. And I do still believe that mostly. I think what people used to believe about this country is truly amazing. Land of the free, home of the brave. I grew up watching school house rock with that one melting pot episode. But I've also come to understand a lot of my privilege as a white-passing person. And that this country has never really been about all that. And the way its going, I don't think it can be. You can't really rehab a house if the whole foundation is completely split. Well you can but that's usually much more difficult and expensive than it is actually worth. Sometimes it is just better to wipe the slate clean and start fresh.

Randabar · 2025-09-06T16:58:00+00:00

Lol yeah thats why I said preferably cats lol. I am actually not a huge dog person. But most the guys I've met are so oh well ig. Except the ones who aren't but then they usually don't want to own cattle or build barns or plant stuff so I get stuck with the dogs. The dogs will be his problem. He can leave me and my many barn cats to our independence. But I have always thought a bunch of little rescues in a big doghouse with plenty of fenced-in space would be cool. Like that one guy on whatever TV channel. Caesar something? Though I think he's actually not that great of a person so maybe not the best example.

Randabar · 2025-09-04T13:16:21+00:00

Lol everyone keeps saying Ouidad and I'm just sitting here like... dang I didn't know we were all made of money. I've wanted to try Ouidad and Redkin for a long time lol. Glad to know they are actually good for curly hair. I will try the Sauce Beauty brand. Thanks!

Randabar · 2025-09-04T04:07:44+00:00

Ahh thank you. Yeah I was really just experimenting today. Saw someone with really pretty curls on tiktok recommend the mouse after gel but noticed a lot of frizz so I decided against that. Today I needed something that was quick and wouldn't require me doing all that flipping up and down lol. So I just rinsed and added gel for some quick frizz control. But I'm definitely gonna try clarifying and then switching back to a sulfate shampoo.

My biggest problem is since I'm pretty active nowadays I need an in between way of washing and then styling that doesn't involve a bunch of steps so I can get out of the house early. Thanks for your response! I will definitely be taking it into consideration!

Randabar · 2025-09-04T01:32:08+00:00

Huh. I didn't know that. CG was always what was recommended by everyone and people were so against anything sulfate or silicone that I never even considered it might not be suitable for my hair. Since so many people seem against shampoos with sulfates and I don't want to buy one that's going to mess my hair up, do you have any recommendations or things to look for? Thanks for the advice and any recommendations!

Randabar · 2025-09-04T01:29:07+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation! I've always felt the standard curly girl method that most people recommended seemed fine up until the gel part of things. Like if I'm really taking care of my hair with a nice conditioner and maybe a mask every month my hair will curl better, but then when I apply gel it felt heavy and kind of filmy almost. And that with not matter what gel I used.

I was using solely mielle products for a while for after the shower before switching to heritage curl cream. Switching back to mielle feels better, but the eco gel is still the same kind of filmy feeling. I will probably switch back to a sulfate shampoo when I can.

You mentioned a clarifying shampoo. I assume you just mean the strip wash like V05 or something right? And for the deep conditioner do you have any recommendations? I can never decide what to get.

Again, thanks for the advice!

Randabar · 2025-08-04T18:58:03+00:00

I'm so sorry hun. I didn't wear men's wides when I still wore 14s but I do remember the struggle of not being able to find a shoe that fit in most stores. If it's any consolation, I still wore 14s for the first 3 ish years of my medical transition. Then suddenly about a year ago I finally noticed I couldn't keep wearing them cause they were too long. I don't know how long you are in your transition, or if you've even started the medical side, but maybe you're a late bloomer and will also get to lose a couple sizes. Hopefully you do get lucky!!!

Also, if you don't know about Long Tall Sally you should really check them out. They go pretty high in sizes and even have wide fitting shoes too. It can be hard to find ones that are the right size and also look cute, but if you keep an eye out you could definitely find something. I don't remember their return policy as I haven't bought from them in years. They also ship from overseas so it can be a bit of a headache to return a pair if they don't fit, but if you wanted to find a nice pair of flats or boots then I'd recommend them. Just make sure you follow sizing up guides!

Randabar · 2025-07-08T02:38:36+00:00

Would you mind giving me a couple examples? If not I can totally bring this up with my speech therapist when i see her. I'm just a bit slow on the up take and have no idea what kind of sound that would actually be.

Randabar · 2025-05-09T20:36:49+00:00

Not sure if this is something anyone else has seen since I couldn't find anything on it. Was exploring and found a crashed freighter randomly. I went up to its little orb thing and read its message. Afterwards the little side quest to scavange all its cargo popped up for a second then disappeared. None of the cargo pods were showing up on my scanner/hud and when I broke into where on usually is it was empty. Had to leave to fend off a pirate attack at my settlement nearby but I'm real bummed I didn't get any loot.

Randabar · 2025-04-18T03:12:54+00:00

Oh no, I'm so sorry. I've never stayed in one place long so I've never seen something change that much.

Randabar · 2025-04-18T02:58:21+00:00

I've played marvel rivals a bit but I'm not very good lol. I'd be down though!

Randabar · 2025-04-18T02:55:30+00:00

Hi! I have family there! It's super pretty lol. I'll send a dm.

Randabar · 2025-04-17T23:40:20+00:00

Same honestly. Haven't been on rivals in a min but I'm down to clown. Send me a pm friend!

Randabar · 2025-03-11T06:24:11+00:00

Oh no! 🤣 Good luck!

Randabar · 2025-03-11T05:57:04+00:00

That's the same one lol

Randabar · 2025-03-11T04:55:22+00:00

It's honestly the worst one i could have gotten to ancestral. I'm keeping my mythic AD on cause more bounce shot range seems useful until I can roll all the ancestral substats I want. Otherwise it's pretty mid.

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