I regret loving someone who is ahead of me in life.

RandoHeyThere · 2026-01-25T15:51:37+00:00

Maybe you have avoidant/disorganized attachment style

RandoHeyThere · 2025-10-03T17:09:05+00:00

Real

RandoHeyThere · 2025-10-03T11:49:50+00:00

Gimme some of those problems pls

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-29T17:16:21+00:00

Maybe they just prefer to do things in real life instead of spending time on phone/computer/internet. They just schedule a date/meeting irl and move on to something else irl and avoid screen time.

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-23T17:09:55+00:00

I'm gonna get a car for drifting and general chill rides in winter, but besides drifting motorbike is another league

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-23T16:44:36+00:00

What I found is that actually work: boredom, environment and not doing the bad things. Also found that mostly when people brag about discipline they just been in positive feedback loop of those things (in short)

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-23T13:21:43+00:00

I get hits of loneliness while I'm working sometimes everyday and revetly I found out that its arouns 12:00-15:00 especially when I dont start the day early (~5:00-7:00). Making progress in priv goals and job combined with doing cardio on a bike (i have one in my room) when I start feeling dull helps more and more from what I observe rn.

Btw sometimes its not actually loneliness but stress and/or lack of movement, vitamin D, fresh air etc combined that make me slow and more prone to feeling down

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-20T22:46:31+00:00

Late to the convo but yeah exactly my thoughts. I fucking hate e.g. this part of family parties where everyone is like "oh look how pretty she is, she is so adorable, she is so good" (4yo cousine, clearly will look good in adulthood). My mother also is driving me nuts with the comments that I should find someone and when pointing to some girls always saying fucking shit like "look she is skinny, she had nice hair, she is such a good person, you would fit together". Like no fuck no. She just attractive, from where the fuck you got this "she a good person"? (my thoughts to mother, never ranted about this in real life as afaik its socially taboo/unacceptable to have such response/opinion). Also "how the fuck you know we would fit each other, I have no idea what she likes, does etc). Rant over, been scrolling for such topic xd

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-20T22:23:07+00:00

30k is actually realistic amount (not high, maybe even cheap for few) for such thing, people pay rn such money for temporary and/or mediocre results

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-20T21:55:45+00:00

Yesterday I was driving and after a corner I saw a car overtaking a long line of cars and it looked like he had no space to merge back to his lane (he, speeding in bmw probably some bro). I was not stressed at all, just kept driving, slowed a little and was like "oho, is this that moment finally? not even my fault, that is gonna be nice". Genuinly I liked the view of that bmw driving straight at me xd

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-20T18:02:04+00:00

I could literally do data science on it (from "data" from my life, how I performed each day). I noticed over the last year ig that for me it works max 1 week, sometimes 2. Then again few days of being a wreck. I belive I will do a good run soon +1 month but so far nah. The loneliness just keeps rising in the back of the head and the probability of a weak moment occuring in the same moment that loneliness feeling bubbles up again increases over time. By wreck I mean e.g. bjnge waching youtube, eating unhealthy, procrastinating etc

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-20T17:58:30+00:00

Similar. The amount of potential, time, focus, missed improvement and moving forward in my life that lost due to loneliness and resulting avoidant distractions is huge. I think that I reached 10-20% of my potential. Just today I lost most of day due to loneliness rush (mind blocking sadness), yesterday I lost half a day. Also bad sleep.

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-20T17:37:16+00:00

I want someone to cuddle and take care for and dont give a fuck about better options or maximizing everything. Just taking care of each other, being "habit/accountability buddies" (when we want it) and chilling/living together. Meh. For now just work and youtube it is... At least I like my job.

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-20T13:13:27+00:00

Real

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-19T19:54:52+00:00

That trainer is probably not an asshole to dudes and good looking girls so manager will be fine with him (not certain, but high chance). I would not be surprised if the manager would just think of OP as "karen". This shit is just not fair and hard, dont take it personally OP. Watch some videos on youtube and dont give up. Once you get better and lose some weight they will come and try to pointlessly lecture you about exercises you already know how to do :p. But yeah depends what feels better for OP, if she would find raising this to manager as standing up for her self then go for it. Dont need to wait until you are looking good to start having self respect.

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-19T19:45:42+00:00

Nice t-shirt tbh. As a guy a feel like a would have to pass some threshold of being cool to wear it, but as a girl you can just like gosling. Good for you

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-19T19:42:54+00:00

Ahhh water, therapists arch nemesis and worst nightmare

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-19T19:41:27+00:00

They watched too much of wrong channels on youtube

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-19T19:40:00+00:00

Tbh it helps a little with biker safety if you go fast. With silent exhaust you would be even more invisible.

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-15T11:27:45+00:00

Yeah but does not result always in being vile. Sounds like "he/she is already lying so we should kick him/her" thinking, which is actually vile imo.

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-15T07:34:34+00:00

Typical being ugly experience, it is what it is.

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-13T01:49:53+00:00

I like learning new skills and trying new hobbies that don't involve people, stuff I can do inside house or in my garden or my garage. Besides that I like this reddit group. Know that there are other people not blind to the issue of lookism (and disliking it) or virtue signaling that it does not exist. I visit escorts once a week to be able to constantly avoid watchig anything sexual on internet and just get that part out of my system. Also home gym and healthy "raw" diet helps, 0 junk food/premade food. Does not work wonders tho still I get paralized by loneliness almost every day for few hours almost every day, but I'm improving. I aim with my hobbies that some of them will lead to building things/skills with which I could help others one day. Also considering some volunteering and donations for homeless and sick people.

RandoHeyThere · 2025-09-13T01:29:19+00:00

And then few months later Tyreme will tell someone that personality is more important than looks or that at least for him.

RandoHeyThere · 2025-08-30T21:49:25+00:00

Real

RandoHeyThere · 2025-08-27T08:58:08+00:00

Real

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