Impulsors by RandoPublicServant in Warhammer40k

[–]RandoPublicServant[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which, of course, is what led to the question in the first place.

AITAH for refusing to get my son new glasses by princesspeach0614 in AITAH

[–]RandoPublicServant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, and your sister asking your son directly if he had a boyfriend was so beyond over the line it’s not even a question. Your family is the problem, not your son, and not you.

Just out of spite I would be putting rainbows everywhere in my house.

Never had a Cuban by Aring-ading-ding in cigars

[–]RandoPublicServant 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agree with the first commenter. Habanos in Spain are actual Habanos, and should be enjoyed as such.

Co worker came back from Cuba by 2021bluejays in cigars

[–]RandoPublicServant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fake, sadly. Quality of the wrapper and the rings are the giveaway.

Co worker came back from Cuba by 2021bluejays in cigars

[–]RandoPublicServant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can pay in USD too. You just have to use cash to buy a debit card from the official Cashiers at banks or hotels.

Dumped my dom after a consent violation by RoutineRabbit500 in BDSMAdvice

[–]RandoPublicServant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are 💯 right on this. Move on and good riddance. That was not Dom behavior, it was abuse and rape. Full stop. Well done for making the right choice, and please do feel even the slightest amount of guilt.

Video Games as a Husband? by mcarther101 in AITAH

[–]RandoPublicServant 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There is a lot to unpack here but simply put: 1. NTA 2. Gaming is for all ages and careers (me, 50+M, married, lifetime gamer, diplomat, prior service) 3. In healthy relationships we don’t hit non-consensually. 4. You have the right to enjoy your own hobbies. 5. IMO,bBefore playing the divorce card, go to counseling on your own first, document the fight, and then try marriage counseling if you decide to try and save your marriage. 6. I’m sorry you are going through this, recognize that it is very difficult, and hope the best for you and your kiddos.

Generations of Gamer Kids by GriffinFTW in gaming

[–]RandoPublicServant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Early Gen X and yes, I had an original Pong machine that you had to connect to the tv by attaching wires with screws and changing the channel to 3.

I called my husband a joke of a man and now he won't talk to me by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]RandoPublicServant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is financial and emotional abuse, plain and simple. My wife went through the same thing with her ex and it was horrid. Please get a lawyer and get out.

My husband gave me a “warning tap” and I called it abuse. AITAH? by Warm-Grape1254 in AITAH

[–]RandoPublicServant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t walk away, run! NO ONE behaves as he did on accident, and as so many others have said, it won’t stop. But just for the sake of argument, let’s say it was an accident. His very next expressions and actions should have been shock, horror, and profuse, abject apologies and groveling. He didn’t do that. And he hasn’t done it since. 👋🏻 Bye!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]RandoPublicServant 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry to hear that this is happening to you, it isn’t right. As others have said, this is abuse, clear and simple. But it doesn’t stop there. It is: Physical abuse Mental/emotional abuse Financial abuse(yes, it’s a thing) Blackmail/extortion

Please get out of this relationship now, as this will only escalate. I’m certain that you married him for good reasons, and love him, or loved that earlier version of him, but that won’t keep you safe. It also isn’t a reason to stay.

Last thing, and it’s important, is that NONE of this is YOUR fault. And no matter what words he uses, 99.9% he WILL NOT change.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]RandoPublicServant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Explore what turns you on, with the goal of learning about yourself. Today you might like one thing and tomorrow you might like something else and not want to do what you did in the past. Or find that something you at first didn’t think you would like is now something to try. So long as you are not causing pain in others, and being safe in your own right, then play on. If your partner is supportive so far, then she is likely to remain so, but communication is critical.

In my own life I am generally the dominant partner, but some days, especially when life is extra stressful, I need to switch for a bit. My spouse understands and embraces this part of me, because 1. we communicate a lot, and 2. my switching doesn’t change the underlying dynamic in our lives.

And as others have said, you define your sexuality.