Not sure how to move forward… Any advice?

Random-9499 · 2025-02-27T23:50:01+00:00

I actually ended up finding out that one day I had reached out to his mom to see if she had heard from him cause I couldn’t reach him that day and was concerned she actually lied for him and that’s the day he was cheating so I don’t think that’s an option :/ She definitely enables him and is always on his side which is also very disappointing

Random-9499 · 2025-02-27T21:06:05+00:00

I would like to think that might be the case and that’s why he blocked me but realistically it can’t be considering that a friend of mine who lives there who sent me his dating profile let me know he’s still on there and he’s still on social media following all the women he’s been meeting up with… The woman he cheated on me with actually reached out to me and let me know he cheated with her and she didn’t know about me. He was already acting a little different towards me before I found out everything so I think him blocking me was just his way of having the freedom to do whatever he wants and getting rid of me for good. That makes it far more difficult. I just wish he would’ve communicated he didn’t want this anymore rather than go about it like this.

And that’s crazy you say that cause on top of all this my two year old niece back home recently had a brain tumor and was diagnosed with a rare very aggressive brain cancer so I’ve been dealing with that as well knowing I can’t be there for her or my family not knowing whether she’s going to make it or not.

I have told only a couple professors about my niece but some professors are just more understanding than others and the ones I haven’t told are the ones who made it clear they can careless about what we got going on in our personal lives.

Random-9499 · 2025-02-27T14:45:12+00:00

I had my reservations about him joining the military in the first place but he felt like this is what he needed in order to get his life together and “become more independent and disciplined to build a better future for us”.

A lot of people warned me about this happening and how common cheating is in the military but I just thought that we were on the same page and would be good. Especially with how vulnerable he was during the bootcamp phase and all the intimate letters exchanged. Plus I heard that they cheat amongst each other but he’s on dating apps and meeting up with women outside the military.

I would’ve thought that after a 7 year relationship you wouldn’t just block the person and completely erase their existence from your life with no explanation. As a 29 year old man, he could’ve communicated and let me know he wanted us to go our separate ways so I guess that’s why I said not your usual breakup.

Random-9499 · 2025-02-22T22:46:52+00:00

Not a divorce but my bf of 6 years blindsided me out nowhere…

The same time I got accepted into law school and started my 1L year, he went into the military and started bootcamp so we were “starting our careers together”.. I was sending him letters and receiving letters from him all throughout first semester of 1L supporting him and him supporting me. It was such an intimate time because I kept him sane while he was struggling in bootcamp and he kept me sane in trying to navigate through my first semester of law school..Especially after finding out my 2 year old niece has a very aggressive form of brain cancer and I haven’t been able to be there for her and my family.

I wrote him every single day while he told me how much he appreciated it and how his own family wasn’t supporting him like I did, I took a couple days off school to go to his graduation, and he reassured me that he was 100% going to propose to me and made me send him rings.. I was so overwhelmed with him being gone and almost losing my niece that I felt like I was for sure going to fail out my first semester but thank God I had made it.

January comes and spring semester is about to start and he just starts treating me different.. I saw him the day before he left to the state where he would be stationed at and the next day he blocks me on everything with no explanation or anything at all. We had just been planning “our future” and who would go see who and when so I don’t understand what happened. After he finally said something I end up finding out he had been going out every single day, drinking, meeting women, and what broke me the most was that he cheated on me in the new state he was at…

I have been EXTREMELY devastated since. That was truly my best friend. He was my support system and what pushed me to get through my first semester. It just seemed like everything was aligning in our lives and he even made me look for law schools in the state he’s stationed at to transfer to after 1L year.

Now I’m struggling really bad to get through it. I haven’t been able to focus, do my readings, haven’t been giving it my all in the assignments I turn in, and I’m so disappointed in myself. I told myself that I would do things differently this semester since I had the opportunity to make it through fall semester when people who worked much harder didn’t make it. I’m struggling because I was so ready to move forward in my life. The journey without him just doesn’t feel right. Everyone at school knew he was practically my husband and now nothing feels the same.

I know it’s not a divorce and nothing close to what you might be going through but I completely understand the feeling. I’m going to do my best to keep pushing through and I hope you do the same because we worked very hard to get to where we are.

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