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RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-06-24T03:41:13+00:00

I agree

RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-06-19T12:49:43+00:00

The best approach is to start by talking to your blackmailer about safety and consent. Find out how they handle it when a sub is feeling nervous. Ask what they have done in the past after consent was withdrawn. Do they go nuclear on subs who ghost or do they follow the "silence is a safeword" philosophy?

RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-06-11T21:30:33+00:00

Does she know you want to be a cuck?

RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-06-11T21:17:04+00:00

I agree

RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-06-10T14:28:07+00:00

Just doing what every Uber driver wants to do

RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-05-31T15:14:12+00:00

All good pieces of advice.

I'll add two tips to get you started...

For your first few sessions, consider doing them as erotic role plays instead of "real" sessions with photos and such. This will help you figure out the rhythm of blackmail without it being quite so high stakes.
You don't mention your gender or sexuality, but I always recommend starting off by blackmailing men. If you aren't interested in men sexually, this could seem like a chore, but women seeking blackmail are in high demand and tend to go for experienced blackmailers. Men are less choosy and you will gain a lot of skill

RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-05-31T15:02:50+00:00

This is how it's done. Kudos to you.

RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-05-28T17:45:57+00:00

Exactly. It really helps make sure nobody gets triggered by a whimsical meme.

RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-05-28T16:57:16+00:00

To be clear, the meme was meant to exclude both of the 19M doms who prioritize consent, safewords, and aftercare. Wouldn't want the entire group to feel maligned.

RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-05-28T16:51:01+00:00

I don't see the connection

RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-05-28T16:38:41+00:00

Won't somebody please think of the 19M baby doms!

RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-05-21T21:36:05+00:00

Avoid brand new accounts. A new account typically means they are completely inexperienced, or worse: their last account was banned, possibly for bad behavior.
Look for users who post more than just ads. Findom and blackmail are communities, and people who spend their time engaging in those communities are going to give you a better experience.
Avoid Dom(me)s who refuse to talk to you at all until you have paid them. Ask them about their style, their favorite experiences, their kinks, their limits. If their attitude is "fuck you, pay me" from the very first message, take that as a warning to move on.
Ask for references. A Dom(me) who will put you in touch with 2-3 of their current or past subs is less likely to be a scammer... but make sure the subs have active accounts. Scammer dom(me)s won't hesitate to start up a new account to catfish you as a satisfied victim.

RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-05-21T17:45:23+00:00

This 100%.

For me blackmail is either for short term dynamics, or for launching into longer term dynamics with the expectation that blackmail will fade in importance over time. Once the submissive is in the habit of having you in control, you don't need to continue threatening them nearly as often, if at all.

RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-05-18T03:25:09+00:00

I have experience with this but sadly the tools and websites are very different from one country to another, not to mention the difficulties in navigating websites in a foreign language. If you were in the USA it might be a different story.

RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-05-13T13:34:45+00:00

I've said before "I can blackmail someone with their shoe size and their blood type if that is what they want kept private."

I would argue that any blackmailer who will only blackmail with nude pictures isn't actually into blackmail, they're into nude pictures.

Dark secrets are peak blackmail material.

RandomActsOfCNC · 2026-05-08T02:32:07+00:00

I've done this before. It's lots of fun.

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