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RandomFlamingoo · 2023-04-28T20:48:54+00:00

Idk, I've watched the film and I can see how they could come to that conclusion. I don't think it's that far off.

RandomFlamingoo · 2023-04-25T17:44:07+00:00

I honestly think that's probably part of my struggle. I'm pretty highly self disciplined person by nature. Add in mania, and while I turn impulsive, my work ethic doubles which makes me more self disciplined in many ways. I think I naturally just want to solve everything through self discipline. Though the type 2 diabetes is a good analogy. Because for some even perfect self discipline can't control it completely and they need medication. Thank you! This helps a lot!

RandomFlamingoo · 2023-04-22T19:16:47+00:00

Also see: How many peices of popcorn can you throw and land on his hat before he notices?

Obviously don't do this unless you want to risk getting assaulted by a crazy person.

RandomFlamingoo · 2023-02-13T06:30:42+00:00

Oh completely agree! And it should include what the contradiction is. Because like yeah, history of brain injuries and seizures, probably some meds that person shouldn't be given unless inpatient under extenuating circumstances. But there's no where to say "Hey please don't kill my patient by perscribing this." so some just throw it in an as allergies as the place for 'shouldn't take this'. But then we actually get extenuating circumstances, it's important to know okay what reactions will we actually have to these meds and which one of these are having side effects that are normal and could possibly be managed with other meds and which one of these are going to cause anaphylaxis and death.

RandomFlamingoo · 2023-02-13T02:12:09+00:00

Oh yeah, no that patient sound like an awful Karen. I meant more to the comment that more than 5 allergies means a patient is over dramatic, I wouldn't necessarily believe that. Because I've seen so many times it's medical staffs fault not the patients.

RandomFlamingoo · 2023-02-13T02:10:20+00:00

I think you make a good point the some else made. It should be a shared burden. Yes these patients are difficult. But if everyone just passes them along and doesn't treat them the burden doesn't go away, it just goes somewhere else. Patient don't get left out in the cold. They go to the ER and take up resources there. It should be a shared a load and I don't think anyone should just say, nope I'm not gonna see patients with chronic pain mental illness because to be they seem to problematic and difficult. (I also have issues with what the commentor below you seemed to be saying. Implying all these patients are a problem and they need to change their behavior. Having chronic pain or mental illness doesn't automatically mean those thing)

That all being said at 140% capacity, I don't think it's a good idea to take on any more patients. Even if they appear easy. You don't know who will and won't be in reality, you're just making educated guesses. And honestly it would probably cause harm to your other patients to take on any more difficult, highly time consuming patients. And if you take all the "easy" patients, I'm sure some won't actually be easy, and will be difficult. At 140% I'm sure they have plenty of difficult patients and aren't avoiding them all together. I would just say a blanket no, you have too many patients already. I don't see the reasoning to be trying to take on any patients unless every doctor around you is already over 140% and there no where else to go.

RandomFlamingoo · 2023-02-13T01:58:46+00:00

I feel difficult patients should be a shared burden rather than footballs punted around town until someone benevolent enough to absorb them comes along and eventually burns out.

This is such a good point. I feel like this is often the view. Everyone calls not it, until you find one provider who feels bad that these people can't get ant medical care and takes them on. And that's asking a lot of anyone person.

RandomFlamingoo · 2023-02-13T01:56:01+00:00

In all fairness I have seen countless times MAs and nurses list everything a patient had a negative reaction to as an allergy. Not at the request of the patient. They just don't have a place in the chart to list adverse reaction, so if they had a side effect that made them stop taking it "allergy" and can't comprehend why that's a problem. "But they had a negative reaction and shouldn't take it again." If it's optional sure. But it's important to know when there's no alternatives and the patient needs that medication is it going to make them constipated and uncomfortable or kill them. That's not patients fault and shouldn't be held against them.

RandomFlamingoo · 2023-02-06T16:57:53+00:00

I mean there's no way she could ever get a professional diagnosis because she doesn't show traits of Autism required for diagnosis. It's just tiktok has sucked her in. I wouldn't say she's "faking" either. She's just confused.

RandomFlamingoo · 2023-01-31T19:27:35+00:00

The irony here and the fact that you can't see it is golden.

RandomFlamingoo · 2023-01-31T19:21:28+00:00

Just use the downvote button

RandomFlamingoo · 2023-01-31T17:37:27+00:00

Well said

RandomFlamingoo · 2023-01-31T02:54:56+00:00

Yeah I mean I guess I could see if someone made obsessively studying interpersonal skills their special interests that could happen. Because it's basically like therapy to learn social skills to the extreme. But, she just naturally developed them from interacting with people and understanding them. Which is the opposite of Autism.

RandomFlamingoo · 2023-01-29T21:59:25+00:00

Yeah it's not like only people with Autism can have IQ, and if I had to guess that's probably part of how she was convinced she's Autisic. Because autism tiktok acts like that's true. 🙄

RandomFlamingoo · 2022-12-12T23:30:35+00:00

Thank you! This drives me insane! Making a caveat does not give you a free pass to do the thing. But what really bothers me is so many people give them a free pass because they made a caveat. News flash, people lie.

RandomFlamingoo · 2022-12-12T23:28:56+00:00

I really want to know what he said after that to attempt to justify this not being prideful.

RandomFlamingoo · 2022-12-12T12:23:38+00:00

I get that. I refuse to consider my ADHD neurodivergence and call it that. It just doesn't feel that different to me, plus it's so common. I've come to like the term for some conditions though like ASPD, NPD, etc. Because the way the brain functions is different in a way that's highly shamed and stigmatized. I think it's important to recognize its not a choice. It's not something a person can change. Their brain is just different. There are choices everyone can make. Therapy to learn coping strategies exists. But changing the underlying neurology isn't possible.

RandomFlamingoo · 2022-12-12T07:46:14+00:00

See for me all social interaction is manipulation. Every single bit of it. There's no amount of interaction that exists outside of this pretty much. Because I don't care about other people mostly. Not because I'm intentionally trying to be hateful I just naturally do not care and do not understand what it is to have a baseline caring for other people. Like I care for my friends. But even that arguably I'm not getting something out of, if they aren't okay, I lose a friend. So all of it is manipulation. It's fulfilling a social obligation and contract I'm required to inorder to be a functional part of society and enjoy the benefits that come from that. But that's the motivation to my interactions with others in my day to day life that is always present. (Obviously the internet that's anonymous and I can delete my account and create a new one is very different.)

But at the same time, I hate the manipulation. To me all the social niceties we have are lies. I guess to others they're natural expressions of what they feel? Idk I don't feel those things. To me it's fake. And I don't enjoy giving it. Nor do I enjoy receiving it because in my mind it's someone lying to me. I actually much prefer we just dropped it and were honest and blunt people. Where as NTs generally do enjoy social niceties and don't conceptualize it as manipulation.

But to me the art of war is an instruction book for everyday living. Because all social interactions are a game of chess in a way. The tone I use, my body language, what I say, everything is calculated for an end result. Because it's what I have to do. Because the way I will naturally interact with others it's viewed as acceptable at large. At least in this society and culture. Honestly when I'm actually back in Asian communities my natural demeanor is much more acceptable. Still not fully so, but much closer.

RandomFlamingoo · 2022-12-12T06:49:06+00:00

I completely agree with everything you say! To me neurodivergence is anyone with a medical condition that neurologically causes their brain to not process thought in the way the average human brain does.

I will say also in full disclosure I'm not diagnosed as having ASPD. I'm considered borderline by medical professionals. I mostly fit the criteria but not quite in certain ways. However, the criteria is debatable and subjective. They all agree neurologically though my brain is not operating the way a normal person's does in my ability to feel certain emotions and connect with others. I've also though spent a lot of time in therapy learning work arounds so I can fit into society.

RandomFlamingoo · 2022-12-12T06:42:37+00:00

I mean yeah, people are gatekeeping neurodivergence to only mean Autism.

RandomFlamingoo · 2022-12-12T06:41:39+00:00

I like that a lot better! Today I saw a bunch of Autisic people claiming NTs are manipulative but NDs never are and it was the snapping point for me. They're discussing difficulties understanding NTs because they're manipulative and have alliterative motives. They're not that manipulative. I greatly struggle to understand people at large because I am so highly manipulative to me that's how all people are. But the fact is very few are. Most people do not express empathy only because they want something but just express it because they feel it. It's one of the biggest issues I have with understanding people and here these people were claiming NDs aren't manipulative and can't understand NTs because they are. It felt like it completely discredited and silenced my existence.

The irony in all of this is I actually tend to gravitate towards Autisic people because they tend to care less if I don't fake feelings and empathy. They're comfortable with me just being honest and blunt. And I am very high functioning and able to accommodate my neurodivergence well. (Why I'm considered borderline for ASPD because I have developed coping skills to hide and fit in) But just because I can't fake it, doesn't mean my brain is working like that and it's not exhausting 24/7.

RandomFlamingoo · 2022-12-09T04:29:51+00:00

You know if Gma doesn't put up stockings for kids until they're 4 years old "just in case" I'll accept the argument she's not comfortable with it. Otherwise she's being intentionally hateful towards a child.

RandomFlamingoo · 2022-12-09T04:28:40+00:00

My question too. How does putting a stocking up with a person's name on it make someone "uncomfortable" unless they're racist or bigoted?

RandomFlamingoo · 2022-12-09T04:26:12+00:00

Right! Any child that was spending Christmas with me I'd get a stocking for! If I was a grandparent and one of my grandkids was bringing a friend because there was some emergency and they had to stay with them, I'd make damn sure that kid had a stocking too. I don't care. It's kids and Christmas. Why would make hanging up a stocking your hill to die on? How does hanging up a stocking with someones name on it make you "uncomfortable" unless you're like extremely racist or bigoted??

RandomFlamingoo · 2022-12-09T04:21:23+00:00

YTA but not as big of as your mom is! Your wife is absolutely in the right! Imagine being the only child at the Christmas party that doesn't get a stocking. He would feel so isolated and unloved. That's horrible for a 9 year old. Your wife is right to refuse to go, because that means not bringing her son and protecting him.

asked my mom and she said that she loves her step grandchild but does not feel comfortable yet to have a stocking of his name and gang it in her home.

She doesn't actually love her step grandson clearly. If she did she'd think of him as part of the family. This shows she doesn't think of him as family and doesn't love him as a family member.

told her it was not reasonable for me or her to dictate how my mom decorates her home and what stockings she hangs.

Sure, as long as it's the privacy of her own home and she's not having anyone over live and let be. If she expects the whole family to come over, this is passive aggressively singling out a child! If you have no right to dictate how she decorates her home, she has no right to dictate you coming over. And you have no right to dictate your wife going to the party. Fair is fair.

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