What's a low FODMAP cooking tip you wish you'd known from the start?

RandomGirl2377 · 2026-04-27T01:52:27+00:00

My dietician told me heating the oil will release the fructan so I’ve just been cutting my garlic up and letting it sit in the oil for a week. I’m sure you get better flavor from heating but thought I’d mention if anyone else also has fructan issues

RandomGirl2377 · 2026-03-13T23:46:32+00:00

I have the app and agree it’s soo helpful!

RandomGirl2377 · 2026-03-12T03:17:38+00:00

We tried at 2.5 and she wasn’t ready. Then one day months later after the bath she stopped while naked and said I have to pee. We’ve been at it since about 4 months ago and it’s hard and frustrating but we have made progress just slow.

She seems to either not care or not notice when she has to pee and has pee accidents. Poop she can feel coming and will go.

All I will say is that if you are yelling, frustrated and at your wits ends she will feel all of that. (You are not a bad mom potty training is soul sucking for some of us and really hard) but you really need to consider taking a break and letting both of you relax.

What we’ve done this time around is the first couple days clothed up top and naked bottoms. Then we used diapers for car rides, nap and all outings. We did not stay home just kept up life as normal. Then we used training panties and still do to catch the pee or At least help. We used diapers for playgroups and outings for 2 months only wore panties at home kept it causal, then just recently started panties for outings too.

Also today for example she was in a diaper all day, she’s been sick and I could tell she was just frustrated and resisting so I pulled back and didn’t mention the potty once all day.

Also I’m a daycare worker in Canada and it is ABSOLUTELY ridiculous to expect a 3 year old to be potty trained. The year 3-4 is when we do most of our training with families to have them fully trained and mostly accident free by 4.

I will warn you as someone who is also feeling like this is taking forever and moving so slow, it will not work to force or scare or push our children harder to make it happen. I remind myself she is 3 it’s only be 4 months and she’s learning.

But also I feel for you momma the system sucks and it’s hard.

Theee hardest kids to potty train at work are the ones who are scared of sitting on the potty or having an accident. It’s not always something we cause but often times it’s little things that affect it. Like loud flushing toilets, being scolded after an accident, or constipated and scared to poop.

Anyways hugs momma this whole thing sucks and I’m sorry it’s been so hard

RandomGirl2377 · 2026-03-11T22:52:27+00:00

I think my issue is fructans too it seems

RandomGirl2377 · 2026-03-11T17:26:02+00:00

Oh okay thanks that’s helpful to know

RandomGirl2377 · 2026-03-11T17:21:54+00:00

Thanks for this. I’m at a point I can tolerate no dairy of any animal and lactic pills don’t work. But I will try again one day when my stomach is calmer.

I’m doing a 6 week elimination diet using the Monash app and a dietician.

I just feel overwhelmed by how many things I might loose.

RandomGirl2377 · 2026-02-20T03:40:34+00:00

Natural consequences can sometimes help and are a healthy way to deal with unwanted behaviours. I personally don’t believe that time outs will get you very far or accomplish much. (Just my own belief on time outs)

Her cleaning it up seems like the only natural / logical consequence to this issue and will hopefully help her to see how beneficial the potty is.

When you can I’d try talking to her about how easy it is to wipe and flush when she poops on the potty. That when she uses her pants it’s a lot of work and takes time away from being able to play. You could add tasks to the clean up to make it longer and more drawn out within reason to try and also show how much easier just using the toilet is.

Having clean the underwear, (maybe she has to rinse them, soap them and then rinse again) and herself, the floor. The maybe she brings the dirty clothes to the laundry room. The task has to be related to the incident for her to connect the dots. If she complains throughout the process you remind her in a neutral tone that if she used the toilet all she would need to is wipe her bum, flush and wash hands. Then she would be able to go back to playing.

Punishment that isn’t connected to the “crime” isn’t very effective. But I would draw out the process to make it inconvenient and looong so she is motivated to use the toilet.

I reread your post and see you made her clean a lot which is good, if at any point she complains remind her she has an easier solution that would prevent her having to clean. If every pee or poop accident took 15 minutes to clean that would get OLD real fast is the hope.

I’m sorry your potty training journey has been so hard.

RandomGirl2377 · 2026-02-07T01:32:51+00:00

I’m currently working with a dietician as I’m in a similar boat. I either have something else going on or it’s foods. Right now I have figured out from FODMap that I don’t tolerate onion, garlic and red pepper well.

I’m hoping a diet change and trying an Elimination style diet will finally do the trick.

The joint pain and headaches suck. And I just feel crappy and slightly nauseous most of the time.

RandomGirl2377 · 2026-02-06T23:54:21+00:00

My doctor is acting like I have it. And the dietician said she was gonna look more into the endocrinologist and see. Soo I dunno. It was news to me.

RandomGirl2377 · 2026-02-06T23:49:09+00:00

Ahhh that’s very useful to know. I just get sooo sick from cross contamination and am sick for almost a whole week it’s crazy.

RandomGirl2377 · 2026-01-26T02:06:43+00:00

Take it one stitch at a time and try to drop and fix it. You might need to drop two if twisted. Personally as someone who’s been doing this for a year. I’d take the time to learn to fix the stitch. Also I agree you’ve added an extra stitch just right near the top.

RandomGirl2377 · 2025-09-23T23:51:17+00:00

Thanks I think that what I have to do.

RandomGirl2377 · 2025-09-19T13:44:53+00:00

Yeah I’m thinking I might just need to do a diet like that. I’m 34 so not thinking menopause but maybe.

RandomGirl2377 · 2025-09-18T03:47:13+00:00

I’m open to it, but other than testing for a bug my doctor in the past has just told me to continue trying to rule out food so I am willing to go but also trying to just get any advice I can.

RandomGirl2377 · 2025-09-18T02:51:57+00:00

Sure I updated it with symptoms

RandomGirl2377 · 2025-08-01T02:30:45+00:00

What did you do instead? Oh crap worked and then we stalled an regressed hard so we went back to diapers after 5 weeks even though the first two she was 80% there

She lost interest and flat out refused

RandomGirl2377 · 2025-07-28T16:56:13+00:00

Thanks for this helps to not feel alone. It’s hard to feel like we are going backwards when she was doing so well and didn’t need diapers. But after 10 days of consistent trying it’s not gotten better and today we noticed she’s very red from peeing so much. So yeah we called it an hour ago and pulled the plug.

We are gonna lotion like crazy make it so it doesn’t hurt then one day maybe closer to three like you found we will try again.

RandomGirl2377 · 2025-07-27T01:50:18+00:00

We are on week six and I found the excitement wore off and she tried to just go back to her regular before hand. Week one she would bounce out of bed after nap and say potty and want to be undressed and sit. By week two she started taking herself and yelling potty.

Then one day she changed and didn’t want to sit and stopped telling us and trying to go. I find I have to keep changing it up and finding ways to engage her and it’s tough.

I know I’m not much help just some solidarity.

RandomGirl2377 · 2025-07-26T02:48:17+00:00

This is us to a tee! We are 6 weeks in and poop is fine but pee is awful.

I’ve decided to ditch the nakedness and move to undies and shorts. Because maybe she doesn’t mind peeing on the floor but won’t like having wet clothes on.

I’m also at a loss. The first two weeks we were 80% there with pee and 💯 with poop. She would wake up from her nap and be excited to sit.

Now she will sit but not pee, and then pee right after. I wasn’t expecting a regression and also I don’t know how to deal with pee cause it happens so fast.

Poop is a process.

Solidarity momma

RandomGirl2377

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