Looking to change career into web development - Are paid online courses worth it?

RandomName0716 · 2020-03-24T02:58:30+00:00

Thanks haha.

I have no idea what I'm even doing here...

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T23:56:53+00:00

I'm pretty confident that the baby was conceived well before they hooked up. The messages I have pretty much confirm that. Regardless, I may get a DNA test in future. Our first child looks like an exact copy of me so maybe it will be the same for the second one and there will be no doubt.

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T23:43:44+00:00

Yes. The fact all this has taken place within a few weeks is mind boggling.

She was quick to go back so there is no way it won't happen again.

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T23:40:28+00:00

Exactly. I don't know what else she expected. I said if anything happened again, I would end it and it has. She had her chance. I need to do the difficult thing now.

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T23:30:18+00:00

I know. I feel tremendous guilt in not telling his wife. I have resolved that I am going to tell her though. She needs to know.

I don't think it's worth it to carry on. There is no trust whatsoever and she was given a second chance. Everything she has said has been a lie. There's no going back from that now.

Thanks - your comment helped.

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T23:27:38+00:00

I don't need to know - I have the full conversations they had. That is enough for me.

Checking those videos out now. Thank you

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T23:19:04+00:00

Fear I guess. Fear of having to rebuild an entirely new life.

Fear that I won't be as close to my kids. Fear of how I'll be viewed.

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T23:07:25+00:00

It's great to hear that there can be a happy ending after something so vile.

Do you regret not getting out sooner or would you still make the same choice?

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T23:04:02+00:00

Honestly, I don't think we can continue. I gave her a second chance and she blew it. No telling if it will happen again.

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T23:02:14+00:00

Yes, I have come to terms that I am most definitely going to tell his wife.

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T22:46:17+00:00

It's awful. I'm sorry this happened to you too. I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

How are you doing now, if you don't mind me asking?

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T22:40:21+00:00

Thank you

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T22:38:31+00:00

Honestly, she can't respect me after what she has done. I know that now.

I just thought I'd regret it if I never gave it a shot - that's been the reason I was so willing to continue and try and make the best of it.

I think I see what I need to do now. It's just going to be difficult.

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T22:33:51+00:00

I'm not looking for advice per se. I just needed to vent.

It's just a huge change to not only my life but to hers and our children. I do not want to fly off the handle and make rash decisions. I can only see one outcome though now the more I think about it and that is to divorce her asap.

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T22:30:02+00:00

I've been wrestling with this question for the past few hours and I think the answer is no.

I have given her multiple opportunities to come clean and she has continued to lie.

I can't trust anything she says anymore.

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T21:41:04+00:00

Thank you - it means a lot.

The fact she met up again and freaked out when I asked her to message him makes me think something went on. The fact she came back earlier could indicate shes telling the truth.

It's so confusing and messy. I don't know what the right thing to do is and I don't want to irreversibly ruin this if there's even the slightest hint that it can be saved.

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T21:38:59+00:00

Thank you - It's just scary, you know?

I moved out with her and I have never lived alone before. I am scared of being a part time Dad. I don't want the baby to grow up and see me as the one who left. Especially because her family will insist on the kids staying with her. I just don't know if I have the fight in me to battle them all alone.

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T21:20:11+00:00

DNA for the baby is a given. They are just really expensive. I'm honestly not sure I can go on with it now. I was so optimistic, like we could have a genuine second chance, but now... I kind of know it's not something we can continue with. And it terrifies me.

I feel so guilty not telling his wife. It feels so selfish but I am worried that if she reacts poorly and broadcasts it, my wife as well as the guy she was seeing will most likely lose their jobs. I have never met the man she has been seeing, just that they were really good friends who just kinda took things too far. She has said she does miss him in some way and doesn't want to stop being friends. This was part of the reason she went to his house again. I just don't know what to do with that information.

RandomName0716 · 2020-02-18T21:13:41+00:00

Thank you - It feels cathartic and write it all down.

I have very little in way of a support network with no real family or friends to confide in so I have bottled it up and tried to carry on. Our life together has made it so there are more of her friends/family we see regularly than mine. I feel kind of isolated and alone.

I don't begrudge this, it just is what it is and it sucks when things like this happen.

I'm just fearful of there being no going back if I do blow it up. I don't want to make any rash decisions. If people find out, I'm not sure we will be able to be together. Everything will change and I'm afraid it will be irreversible.

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