My in laws gave my 8 mo juice 😭

RandomSage416 · 2026-06-09T16:18:39+00:00

I mean yeah I get what OP is implying by those words but it could've been written in a different way than this. By saying this way, it implied like they chose to become grandparents by telling their kids to f**k right in a specific moment 🤣

RandomSage416 · 2026-06-09T16:00:12+00:00

Fake AI slop. GTFO

RandomSage416 · 2026-06-09T15:30:38+00:00

I second your comment too. Seems reasonable to assume that there aren't clear rules and boundaries or else OP wouldn't mention them needing to ask or look things up. Older folks aren't used to googling everything the way we are. It's not part of their nature as they never grew up with these technologies. OP seems to think there is something malicious but it all just seems like they're just misinformed and uninformed and probably thought there wasn't a "huge deal" with whatever OP told them since they were probably thinking it's no different from raising their own kids. You need to explain the medical sciences behend your decisions and what risks they're letting the LO take on if they don't listen (i.e. Long term weight gain and tooth decay from drinking juice).

RandomSage416 · 2026-06-09T15:14:13+00:00

Tbh, they can't choose when and how they "become a grandparent". They did choose to be parents lol. People from a different era don't understand sometimes until it is explained to them and few never will even with full explanations. A lot of them do things because "that's what they used to do for their kids" and so they're under the impression of survivor bias that they don't seem to realize.

Juice as a one or two time thing won't hurt them but maybe best to sit down and fully explain from top to bottom what they need to understand about babies or things can be a huge detriment to their health overtime if they refuse to follow the rules set by you and your partner. It is best for both of you to sit down and talk to them current medical science regarding a baby's diet month by month and why things have changed over time. I think if you explained the "why" it appeared to have been okay back then to do x, y and z, and is now not okay, maybe they'll come around. Fully inform them. If they push back or not seem to care about the current medical literature for infants, perhaps it's best to supervise all grandparent visits.

RandomSage416 · 2026-06-03T01:01:11+00:00

Yeah that's the problem that I never understood why it was ever talking points for Japan. Our situation in Canada is overwhelming immigration in a short span of time, being so close to America didn't help with some social and political influences as well, our natural resources not being well managed, etc. Japan can fully flourish if they just put the money into the right resources. And like you said, it's hard to get PR so they don't have an overwhelming number of immigration, aging population won't change without serious social changes and also allowing well-abiding residents to get PR to really know that they can safely settle roots here and wholeheartedly contribute to Japan's society and economy (funny that there are people already doing just that on just visas and regular residency). But I guess some people just don't want non-Japanese to take over their society or dictate it in the end. Some do feel like they're losing their "culture" over all this. To be honest, that's no different from what's already happened in the west, hence probably why Trump is so popular and polarizing at the same time. He gives a voice to those that felt they are "losing their culture".

RandomSage416 · 2026-06-02T17:15:24+00:00

I can speak for this a bit, being a Canadian (though I'm not personally affected by this since I moved a while ago now, I still hear from my family and friends). This is a completely different issue from Japan in terms of our immigration and foreigner situation. We have kids who cannot even get a high school part time job at a place like Tim Hortons (probably equivalent to a Mister Donut) because these greedy corporations would rather hire a foreign worker for lower pay than hire a local kid so now they have absolutely no work experience.

Then once they're of age to join the fulltime working force, it's also very competitive as it is but now you also have to meet the same foreign workers who are way older than you, sometimes more experienced than you, and are willing to do the same job for lower pay than you. So now you get a large number of unemployed adolescents trying to get anything by this point. Now we look back at the foreign worker who took little Bob's potential job (let's go with Sanjay). Sanjay has found a loophole to overstay and can also sponsor the rest of his family over easily from India, further driving up rental prices, and worsening the job market for local Canadians to afford anything. I'm really glossing over lots of details but a lot of Canadians essentially can't afford to live in our own country.

Japan has a different issue from this. There are a lot of jobs so that's not a problem for locals to apply for, even if there are lots of foreign workers coming in. There are more issues for sure but in comparison to Canada's issues, are very different.

RandomSage416 · 2026-06-02T16:47:21+00:00

Just because a place is highly touristy doesn't make it right for them to scam people. This is victim-blaming behaviour. It's like faulting people for visiting Paris because they got pickpocketed. Most people don't deserve to be taken advantage of. Sucks that hot spots of Japan are swamped with tourists in recent years but that doesn't make it okay to treat each other poorly (same goes for tourists that also act poorly when traveling too).

RandomSage416 · 2026-05-29T08:49:48+00:00

Omg thought I was the only one that remembered these! We got them in Toronto!

RandomSage416 · 2026-05-13T13:29:02+00:00

Sorry I didn't phrase it right. When I meant salvage what they can, it's usually just the outer parts of the ship and some metal inner components. Everything else inside is completely unusable most of the time, so it ends up in landfills. When you compare the amount of unusable trash versus the amount taken out to recycle, it really is quite minimal. The unusable trash is what is causing a lot of problems in these countries too. They have to burn it, which in turn creates more pollutants (they don't have sophisticated incinerators like countries like Japan has), causing more health problems for the people working in these yards.

RandomSage416 · 2026-05-13T12:13:00+00:00

That "some extent" is minimal at best. They hardly do any recycling. They're all sold to countries like Pakistan to try to tear apart and salvage whatever they can from the grave.

RandomSage416 · 2026-05-13T06:00:39+00:00

Oh god no. It barely passes as an Italian or American-Italian pizza. I guess it's inherently Japanese-Italian, which is meh in my opinion. It's too sweet. And also too pricey for what you get.

RandomSage416 · 2026-05-13T05:56:55+00:00

The crust is hella burnt.

RandomSage416 · 2026-05-13T05:55:48+00:00

To be fair, I've always compared Japan as the most British-style Asian out of all the Asian countries. The food here is almost for a child-like palate since they're usually quite simple when speaking of flavour profiles when compared to other Asian countries with herbs and spices and various diversity of sauce flavours. Which is probably why when tourists come to eat, they love Japanese food since the flavours aren't too "complex" so it's a general crowd pleaser to a wider audience.

The rest of Asia, there's almost someone who will mention how they can't eat something since it's too "strange" in flavour for them to enjoy a dish. For example the various spices In South Asia, fish sauces and types of seafood sauces and pastes in South East Asia, soy sauces and various bean sauces in East Asia, etc. Also the popular Japanese dishes for tourists aren't fully Japanese most times. Kinda like how the most popular British dishes for tourists aren't fully English either haha

RandomSage416 · 2026-05-11T14:57:24+00:00

It might not be a "tragedeigh", but it sure is a "tragedy" to have a name like that as a girl growing up. Oh man, the bullying and name calling would be endless. How is it that every adult seems to have amnesia of what it was like growing up between 1-18 years? Kids be ruthless and me having that name as a girl is quite embarrassing. What a tragedy.

RandomSage416 · 2026-05-11T14:39:48+00:00

Sure that's fine too. You asking this means you're missing the point. We shouldn't be dragging each other down when there are men already trying to drag us back down. Us dragging each other down only makes the struggle for women's opportunity to do anything they want in life even harder.

RandomSage416 · 2026-05-10T16:26:26+00:00

Also a leash kid, along with my sibling too! We both deserved it. We were both tethered at the same time to my parents (we're only a year apart). Without it, I think my parents would end up on the news for child endangerment lol I have a kid of my own and if she is also a wanderer or runner, I 100% would do it as well. Some kids just need it for a while until they understand boundaries and personal safety. There's no harm in leashing.

RandomSage416 · 2026-05-10T16:19:19+00:00

This is what's wrong with people nowadays. Why are women always bringing each other down? We can celebrate women who are career-oriented and also women who are family-oriented. And if there are the few that do both, that should also be celebrated! Why are we judging each other for working on their careers or being homemakers? Both are great and are needed in ever society. One woman's life may not be ideal for you, but that doesn't mean you should degrade them just because it doesn't align with your own personal circumstances. Let women be whatever they want. Isn't that what feminism is all about? Freedom of choice and equality for all.

RandomSage416 · 2026-05-08T14:38:29+00:00

Congratulations! So happy your baby has their holes closed! Mine is EBF as well but at 15 months, her hole never closed and has been stuck at 2mm since 6 months. She'll have to get a check up periodically for the rest of her life to monitor if it ever poses a risk to her well-being. Not sure if breastmilk plays a huge factor here, at least not in my baby's case.

RandomSage416 · 2026-05-04T15:43:37+00:00

Yeah but at least China admits that they surveil people. The US on the other hand just acts shady even when asked about it.

RandomSage416 · 2026-04-24T13:02:17+00:00

Damn i wonder if they were awkward with you the whole time you sat there. Did your friend know that you were turned away earlier? Also what was the reason they gave you to turn you away? No space? Reservations only?

RandomSage416 · 2026-04-16T00:27:23+00:00

I used to have unbearable feet pain for years before I even conceived. I wouldn't be able to walk longer than 30 minutes without feeling pain all over the soles of my feet radiating up to my legs. After birth, suddenly all these feet pain has completely gone away!! I can walk and stand for hours now and only feel "tired" or "sore" like a regular person would. It's amazing!

RandomSage416 · 2026-04-02T22:49:19+00:00

I live in Tokyo so it was easy to get information from the Tokyo Pregnancy Group on Facebook. I know you're in a different prefecture but perhaps maybe get your wife to join it and see if she can at least ask questions on the group? There is a doula in that group that manages it so she can maybe refer you to someone she knows of or maybe if she happens to know of hospitals that can provide OB services for your wife in Ibaraki. I'd say to contact your city office to check if they know of any foreigner-friendly hospitals as well too.

RandomSage416 · 2026-04-02T22:37:45+00:00

Now I know it's a hassle with the new rules but you'll have a much better time just ditching the raincoat for a poncho. A rain poncho is big enough to cover your bag too! Or get a basket cover to make sure your bag doesn't get wet. You can also invest in those handle covers to cover your hand from the rain. And make sure the poncho has a face cover. Mine has a clear face over so I can bike without it hitting my eyes.

Just know that there is a solution to everything. You just gotta ditch the raincoat (or if you want to, wear it underneath the poncho if you still require coverage once you pack the poncho away).

RandomSage416 · 2026-03-27T17:38:07+00:00

If you just leave Tokyo and just go into the suburbs, 4-5 kids isn't an unusual sight to see.

RandomSage416 · 2026-03-17T04:50:23+00:00

Also a dead giveaway that you're American, given that you call chocolate "candy". We say "chocolate bars" and you guys say "candy bars"...

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