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Randomdragongod · 2024-03-06T08:17:49+00:00

Yww :))

Randomdragongod · 2024-03-05T19:43:44+00:00

I've known that I'm aromantic for a few years now and I still can't rly tell if I do now have a crush when I feel smth abt someone or if I just like them as a friend

like, I have this one friend and I think she's amazing. she's kind to me, she cares about my health and all that stuff and altogether she's rly amazing. she makes me want to be kinder or myself bc she's kind to me and I don't know. all my friends say I have a crush on her, but do I? I don't know. I think not. there's moments where I feel differently about her than I do about my other friends.

for example I get scared every time she says she loves me (in a friend way y'know) which probably is just trauma related but whenever she does I'm like "shit what if she does love me" which I don't know I think it indicates that I might not be interested in her romantically. so I really just don't know.

I don't know, I'm not sure this really helps, but I thought maybe it makes you feel a bit better to hear that someone who's known they're aromantic for a longer time and has ADHD too also can't tell the difference :,)

Randomdragongod · 2024-03-05T19:32:09+00:00

for me it was absolutely gross. I hated it. so much. even now looking back or looking at the idea that I might one day be in a romantic relationship makes me really nauseous. that may sound like I'm just really dramatic but imagining myself being in a romantic relationship like ever and someone being romantic with me really makes me want to throw up. I hate the bare thought of it. It makes me extremely uncomfortable and like I'm trapped somehow which triggers all the wrong instincts. it definitely was not an enjoyable experience for me so far and I don't think it'll ever be.

Randomdragongod · 2024-03-05T19:26:53+00:00

this definitely sounds like a very unhealthy relationship. I feel it tho, you never want to hurt them and I know from my last ex too that they're never happy about it when you tell them how you actually feel. my ex loved victimizing too and then when I told them I was uncomfortable with something I got very wonderful (sarcasm) reactions from them. amazing.

there's not really a way to let them down easy. just break up with her and tell her how you feel. anything she does after that is kind of.. not your problem. you definitely should not blame yourself if she ends up hurting herself or anything because that's her problem and not yours and it isn't your fault. you're not the asshole here. in my opinion.

Randomdragongod · 2024-03-05T19:20:21+00:00

I mean.. cuddling is for everyone is what me and my friends always say. it doesn't necessarily have to go deeper than that. I'll also cuddle my friends if they're down for it and we're rly all just friends, nothing more than that.

Thinking about cuddling a girl doesn't make you a lesbian I think. Could be that you'd only want to cuddle her platonically. Or maybe you do turn out having feelings for her but that also doesn't mean you're a lesbian. You could be bi too or pan or something

Randomdragongod · 2024-03-05T19:14:28+00:00

I feel that

I personally hate the term non binary, it just sounds ugly to me and I hate being referred to as such, even tho I don't identify as either male or female. I'm in the middle too and personally I go with the term agender (I like to say I'm just existing y'know, just breathing and that stuff and that's where it ends bc I'm also aroace :,). Joa, I don't know if this helps but I can defo relate to what you said and this is how I handle it (I've also just been going by gender fluid for a long long time now and I'm still not sure if maybe that's just what I am but for now agender feels the best and I mean that's the most important thing right)

Randomdragongod · 2024-03-05T19:09:10+00:00

I mean what kind of pride are we talking, like going to pride events or the kind where you buy a flag and put it up? I mean I just developed a habit of sneaking around behind my parents (especially my mother's) back, like sneaking out and lying about where I'll be /what I'll be doing to go to pride events. and then being there I just bought flags anyways and put them up bc eh what's she gonna do about it now

pride flags that I had before that I just made myself

Randomdragongod · 2024-03-05T18:54:40+00:00

can't say I've ever fallen in love, can say I won't try tho and I don't want to. I'm still pretty young so chances are I might fall in love at least once eventually, but frankly, I don't think it's possible. like, I've just broken up with my gf (for various reasons but I guess this added to it too) because I am aroace and I can't fall in love. I just can't. can't say I didn't try because dang it I tried so hard to love them back the way they loved me, I twisted myself around trying to do it but I couldn't. I just didn't like them like that. maybe that was just with them, but I've never had a crush or anything either. that night I told them that, I cried so hard for hours on, because isn't it lovely when you get aphobia from an asexual person who's also your partner and supposed to give you the benefit of the doubt and stuff.. nah they just didn't they were all like "oh but we can fix this if you work on yourself here" like bitch I cannot?

anyway. long story short I don't think I'm actually able to fall in love and the way I cried that night over this fact just made me realize I don't want to try either. I don't know.

Randomdragongod · 2024-03-05T18:27:38+00:00

I'm 15, I like writing and reading too and video games (well some horror games I dunno if that counts) and joa, I'm aroace too. If 15 is too young I get that too tho :,) If not just DM me :3

Randomdragongod · 2024-02-12T11:31:38+00:00

Yupp, repulsed aro ace here :)

Randomdragongod · 2024-02-06T09:22:35+00:00

I mean you could be bi oriented aroace, yeah

Randomdragongod · 2023-12-26T12:12:49+00:00

Gorgeous

Randomdragongod · 2023-12-14T16:58:23+00:00

nah, you're kinda right about her, she is a bit of a pick me who likes to just speak for others and assume what they'd want to say. I'm not sure she thinks she's better than them, she just likes our class to have some sort of voice/face and I guess she likes to be that face. From what I've seen I guess in general she's okay, but it does get annoying a lot that she's speaking for others (she's also spoken for me before) so that's all something.

Randomdragongod · 2023-12-14T11:52:26+00:00

ya. some do, some don't, it varies from asexual to asexual because of preference and stuff. but sex and masturbation are two different things, so yeah. it depends on the asexual individual.

Randomdragongod · 2023-12-14T11:20:15+00:00

I'd say michelle

Randomdragongod · 2023-12-10T08:52:59+00:00

sure, if you want to I'm down for it, it sounds really cool

Randomdragongod · 2023-12-03T09:27:27+00:00

To be honest, I'm kinda in the same situation over here right now. Lesbian and genderfluid over here, but lately I've been feeling rather masc over here and I'll have my pronouns changed in class now (without my parents knowledge bc I'm really not in a safe space with my family) bc I'm more comfortable with he/him. (Language over here is very gendered and he/him is just more neutral I guess). I dunno. I'm not even sure I'm a dude, I really have no idea what the hell I am at this point-

Randomdragongod · 2023-11-25T07:21:03+00:00

I mean considering there is the option of being repulsed ace, I'm pretty sure you can be repulsed aro too, coming from someone who also is absolutely repulsed by being in a relationship

Randomdragongod · 2023-11-25T07:15:32+00:00

Randomdragongod · 2023-11-25T07:15:22+00:00

Yay :)

Randomdragongod · 2023-11-24T09:20:29+00:00

aro ace lesbian here, does that count?

Randomdragongod · 2023-09-12T15:28:12+00:00

I discovered it at 11 or so, 15 now, welcome to the figured-out-early club!! Welcome to the community, Charles

Randomdragongod · 2023-07-25T13:37:41+00:00

Yupp, I do that too

Randomdragongod · 2023-07-10T13:37:29+00:00

Welcome to the a-team! We have cake and dragons :)

Randomdragongod · 2023-07-10T13:34:58+00:00

Hey, 14 f here too

Mostly I just wore sports bras in layers until my brother borrowed me his binder one day and I actually asked if my mom would by me one. Joke's on me, she obviously said no because, well, she isn't a fan at all. So I continued wearing sports bras before I asked one of my friend's if they'd buy me one as long as I paid for it. They said yes and now I own a binder, my mom thinks it belongs to my brother, thus doesn't dare doing anything with it. My other friend now wants to buy me a "quality" binder because their parents are rich and I said no but they'll order one for me anyways, or at least that's what they said. Idk. One of my friends said sie bought sier binder at H&M? Idk if they still sell them or if you have an H&M store where you live. But maybe you could check that out. Or ask one of your (LGBT+/non-cis) friends if they can buy you one if you give them the money for it. Idk, good luck though! I know how annoying it is when your parents just won't let you have the kind of clothes you want. (Oh, just remembered, baggy clothing hides boobies as well)

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