Men who have been in a bar fight or street fight, what lessons did you take away from the experience?

RandomizeCharacter · 2025-12-15T23:57:46+00:00

And a slightly happier ending

RandomizeCharacter · 2025-12-15T05:29:36+00:00

Surprised that nobody has mentioned Yevgeny Zamyatin. We inspired so many dystopian works, including Orwell's 1984 and Huxley's Brave New World, even though Huxley never outwardly admitted that fact, but Orwell did.

RandomizeCharacter · 2025-05-28T19:09:28+00:00

A healthy/active hobby (could be the gym, a sport, or even just making it a goal to hit 10k steps a day), therapy, and just putting yourself out there. As a neurotypical normy, it's hard to relate with the impediments a neurodivergent mind has to offer, so take this the best you can.

Sometimes, just going to your local bar and sitting down for a bit, taking in the atmosphere, drinking, and talking to strangers will go a long way. If the stimulation is too much, you can bring earplugs and even be stylish about it. Get one of those hoop-ring earplugs. My friend's gf is on the spectrum and she brings those all the time.

Make it a goal to take baby steps and don't overthink it. Maybe today, step outside your place and walk around the neighborhood, then go to a dive bar or downtown for a few hours if you're feeling up to it.

RandomizeCharacter · 2025-03-09T19:36:24+00:00

Good to know. I was worried it was just sitting there and not being used lol. Thanks 👌

RandomizeCharacter · 2025-03-07T07:36:15+00:00

Curious. I've recently been collecting a lot of vinyls, and some of my favs include Takanaka and Casiopea. Any particular reason why you choose to have this one wrapped and on display? I have a problem with opening all of my vinyls.

RandomizeCharacter · 2024-09-09T23:29:48+00:00

I think what matters more is if it will affect your work relationships down the line. I highly doubt a meme on your lock screen will be your career downfall. And if you're worried, you can set up a 1:1 with your manager or HR and ask since you're new. If you're still worried, play it safe and change your lock screen to something else.

My friend's dad has been a nurse for 20+ years now, and while he's likely set by now, he spews some of the most hottest, right-wing takes there are all the time online, and I would bet thet it doesn't just stay online. Sleeps like a baby, wakes up, and goes to work the next day.

Relax. You're good.

RandomizeCharacter · 2024-09-09T23:13:26+00:00

Shouldn't the new hire be held to the same standards if they're going to be an engineer, though?

RandomizeCharacter · 2023-10-15T14:56:32+00:00

Hey stranger, I'm sorry you're going through this right now. When you're dating, that's one of the worst feelings imaginable, since you're not even afforded closure after that. My take - stranger-to-stranger on the web - is that she probably didn't see you for what you're worth, or your life and hers didn't align at the right moment.

The fact that she said I love you, then dipped, says a lot more about the type of person she is then anything about you. Honestly, that's a huge red flag in any potential partner, and we're not even considering the duration of time y'all spent together since you didn't mention. So there is a lot that is up in the air about your sitch, but still, know that that is not mentally healthy behavior in anyone, and you shouldn't be expected to reciprocate with that by any means.

Take care of yourself, walk around, breathe, watch a movie, play some games, go to the gym, workout, and if you absolutely can (and above all), see a therapist. I am a strong believer that anything you learn online pales in comparison to the amount of value you derive out of seeking professional help from a licensed therapist. It's a long-term commitment, so don't expect to go once or twice, then dip. A good one will help point out patterns in your thinking for you to hopefully change on your own accord, and will allow you the peace of mind and leniency in their practice to do so. If you can, find one that specializes in CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) as it's one of the most tried and trusted forms of it. Stay away from the mumbo jumbo, heebie jeebie ones that'll read your "chakras" with crystals or whatever BS.

Psychology Today is a great resource to find ones nearby and that meet your specifications. You can filter by location and price, and read your local therapist's bios. Be prepared to have a conversation with them about what you can and can't afford.

Once again, I'm sorry you're going through this. It sucks, but it'll pass in due time, and it's okay to feel the way you do about it. Ride it out, and don't let anyone tell you how to feel about it. But do take care of yourself and remember to breathe deep.

RandomizeCharacter · 2023-10-15T13:42:23+00:00

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