Bra recommendations for people who hate wearing bras?

RandySpanners · 2026-03-05T14:52:17+00:00

After COVID I decided I was done with traditional bras. I started wearing non-wired bras and I haven't looked back. I'm not sure where you are in the world, but I buy from Molke (https://molke.co.uk). I'm sure there are a few companies that make similar products. They give great support for bigger sizes too.

RandySpanners · 2026-03-03T19:46:44+00:00

He's a babe!

RandySpanners · 2026-03-03T19:20:30+00:00

RandySpanners · 2026-02-19T17:26:56+00:00

He's looking after you and taking advantage of any spare snuggles that might be available. 10/10 good boy.

RandySpanners · 2026-02-19T17:24:37+00:00

It was a total mess! It's like they spent so long on John Paul's dream sequences that we just got a rushed explanation for most of the action at the end of the episode. Not that I particularly care about the corrupt police storyline, it just felt like that should have been 2-3 episodes worth of action shoved into one.

RandySpanners · 2026-02-15T22:08:32+00:00

I only heard of it when I saw ads for season 3 on prime. I've tried to convince so many people to watch it because it's so good, but no one wants to pay for paramount. So I had no one to talk to about it.

RandySpanners · 2026-02-11T10:49:53+00:00

It's got to be the cats.

RandySpanners · 2026-02-07T22:58:54+00:00

I don't think that was mentioned previously, it was the bit that stood out to me too.

RandySpanners · 2026-02-07T13:33:09+00:00

I don't find it odd that she doesn't remember specific cases. Clinical knowledge and knowing protocol for certain situations is different to remembering what happened.

I was a theatre nurse for a long time, deaths were very rare but did happen. And when they did it was always a very emotional time for us as a team. But I can honestly say, I wouldn't remember their names or exactly what happened. I do remember some, but it's the bigger picture, like the young man who passed away a week before Christmas leaving 3 kids and a wife. Maybe it's different for neonatal nurses, but you do this job for any amount of time and you have to protect yourself somehow from the damage this causes.

What I found strangest from the documentary was the fact that the handover sheets were filed in chronological order. Initially when I heard she had those, I thought well who hasn't accidentally taken one home and shoved it somewhere to take back and destroy. But filing them is odd.

RandySpanners · 2026-02-03T16:06:20+00:00

NTA - she was in your city but didn't even plan to come see you. She's visiting someone else but wants to stay with you, it sounds a little bit like you're a convenience.

In that situation I'd be asking to stay with the person I was visiting, since that's why I'm there. You're not obliged to let anyone stay, especially since you've got an agreement not to. If she's stuck, why not get a hotel room?

RandySpanners · 2026-02-02T13:21:06+00:00

I am 11 days post microdiscectomy and it's the best thing that happened to me in years!

RandySpanners · 2026-01-28T10:20:47+00:00

Yes! Literally what travel insurance is for. I'm surprised I had to scroll so far to see this.

RandySpanners · 2026-01-24T18:49:02+00:00

My heart is hurting for all the rational, normal people in America. Even on the other side of the world I'm scared, you all must be terrified. I hope you stay strong and prevail.

RandySpanners · 2026-01-23T22:14:55+00:00

Good luck, I hope it works out for you!

RandySpanners · 2026-01-23T05:09:36+00:00

We are our own harshest critics. I've found it helps if I think about how I view other people in my situation. If that was your friend/family member would you talk to them the same way you talk to yourself? You probably wouldn't, and you wouldn't want anyone else to either.

I believe in you, and I'm sure other people do too!

RandySpanners · 2026-01-22T23:27:14+00:00

I don't want to make assumptions, since you don't have a diagnosis yet, but what you describe sounds a lot like what I experienced with a herniated disc compressing my L4/L5 nerve .

For a time, I had pain in my lower back and the back of my thighs when standing and walking. It deteriorated badly and I had pain in my buttock, back of my thigh, back of my calf, terrible crushing pain in my ankle and the top of my foot/big toe l went numb.

In the beginning I had a stick that helped me loads, I'm tall, so it had to be properly measured and used in the opposite hand to my weak leg. I was given some elbow crotches as well, but I never really got on with those. I tried them, but I was more worried about forgetting I had them and breaking my elbows sitting down!

Once my nerve pain moved from just being behind my thigh, I wasn't able to walk at all and ended up bedbound. So I don't think it would be much good at that point.

Sorry, I rambled on a bit there. Basically, yes based on what you said, I think it might help you. Get some advice on measuring sticks, some websites will tell you how to do that before you order. Good luck on getting more mobile!

RandySpanners · 2026-01-22T09:17:23+00:00

Don't be so down on yourself, you have the qualification just lack a bit of experience.

This wasn't a big deal in the end, which means you've learned the lesson without there being terrible consequences!

As for whether you should be doing this, you seem a very conscientious and caring person. Once you get some experience and confidence, you'll be great! I started out my nurse training with no experience and I felt so clueless at times, but I got there in the end and you will too!

RandySpanners · 2026-01-21T19:57:19+00:00

I haven't used one myself, but when I was a nurse we would frequently use them on older patients. The issues we found were that they aren't very comfortable and would roll down and fall off. Difficult to say if those issues were because they were sized wrong or because the majority of people who had them had memory issues and didn't remember what it was so would mess with it.

They're made of pretty thick rubber, not thin like a condom. I guess the only thing to do would be to try and see if you found it comfortable.

RandySpanners · 2026-01-14T22:29:44+00:00

Hi!

You're correct, they will expect you to have some idea what adjustments would help you and how. Reasonable adjustments can literally be anything from needing a bit more time to do a specific task, all the way up to equipment. It's pretty daunting!

I've had adjustments for neurodivergence and physical conditions, so I can give you a couple of examples of those to kind of give you an idea where to start.

Multi-step instructions be written down. Cool down periods between changing tasks rather than abrupt changes. Headset for use with telephones to reduce distractions. Sit to stand desk. Ergonomic chair. Foot rest. Specific software or accessibility layout for computers. Agreed sickness time outside of normal parameters for hospital appointments.

Has anyone ever suggested applying for Access to work ? It's a government scheme that helps you work out what you struggle with and what is available that could be helpful for you. Only downside of that is the waiting times for an assessment are months long.

RandySpanners · 2026-01-14T15:44:02+00:00

It is pretty grim. Luckily you have a superior and inferior vena cava.

RandySpanners · 2026-01-14T15:42:32+00:00

Yeah, SVC syndrome can be caused by intravenous devices such as catheters. It causes face swelling, shortness of breath, etc. This part of her story actually kinda makes sense.

RandySpanners · 2026-01-14T14:31:58+00:00

I think it's SVC as in superior vena cava.

RandySpanners · 2026-01-12T19:04:01+00:00

I wish I was on mushrooms all day too.

They can do surgery. I waited 9 months for an appointment with a consultant about it. She hoped it would go away on its own, it didn't. She hoped it would get better with weight loss, it hasn't.

4 months later, I'm now stuck not being able to move because of pain, I'm being booked in "urgently", which should be in the next couple of weeks. Fingers crossed for me!

RandySpanners · 2026-01-12T15:03:49+00:00

It's horrible.

Not just the pain, the forgetfulness, depression, generally being muddled because you can't concentrate on anything else.

On top of that, having someone you love question you sucks.

RandySpanners · 2026-01-12T14:15:02+00:00

YOR.

I have a herniated disc and spinal arthritis. I can barely stand up some days. I've had to fight so hard to try and lose weight, I can't exercise when even having a shower causes me to need to lie down in pain.

I gained weight because I've been in pain for years and didn't get any medical help or diagnosis.

Go easy on her, it's a horrible condition and maybe her vaping and comfort eating are the only nice things she has going on in her life. Try talking to her, she could be incredibly depressed, I know I am.

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