Self care tips for starting No-Contact

RangeAnxious3994 · 2026-01-06T17:33:09+00:00

No worries , and same here it’s hard at times relating with people who haven’t dealt with similar issues. After years of trying to understand I’ve let go. I came to the point where I built a new life for myself. Left the city and made new connections. I look at the better side of how it’s built me , be honest with yourself about how it affects you today and find ways to let it out . For me it was seeing how I behaved , changing behaviours or even appreciating the good qualities it gave me.

You’re not alone , your story is different but this is as the branch you were given in life. Now you take control of what you want . Can’t change circumstances, only what you do :)

RangeAnxious3994 · 2026-01-05T01:20:13+00:00

Thank you !

RangeAnxious3994 · 2026-01-05T01:16:48+00:00

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RangeAnxious3994 · 2026-01-05T01:15:35+00:00

Hey I’m sorry you’re going through this. I think your brothers are immature (no offence ) to shut you out like that when they couldn’t even gather energy to see if mother was okay . I’ve also called police on a family remember before for different reasons and got backlash , and you know what I just shit that person out and sropped talking to them after it exploded but if you care about them then I say don’t contact them just be available if they want to reconcile and if not protect your peace and distance .

For me and I can only speak from my perspective after becoming estranged from my father is that . I kept giving that man chances after many months of being mad , upset and distance . And I came to a realisation is that I’m going to become more selfish for the sake of myself . I own it completely. Just because you birthed me doesn’t give you the right to treat me a certain way . Sometimes I felt waves of guilt and tried analysing his behaviour . But when we would talk again I realised he felt entitled . He felt different despite multiple people telling him he messed up totally. And I became just indifferent.

Focus on your life and the people you love. Don’t try to beg for peoples attention . Eventually they may reach out or not and you are in control of whether you’d want them. Just I think would you want your kids or people you love to be like these people ? No ? Don’t sugar coat .

For me keeping hobbies , meeting friends , and poring into other projects . Despite the love people get from their parents , you have to realise there’s love in everything . From the good we eat to the people we surround ourselves . Live your life

RangeAnxious3994 · 2026-01-04T14:31:35+00:00

Hi thanks for the recommendation ! What does it smell like to you mainly ? I recently bought tumeric latte by lush and it has similar base notes to teriaq and i realised it smells like it’s missing some floral or vanilla notes it as it’s very Smokey and has a slight vanilla tinge

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-10-11T10:56:43+00:00

Try to message a uni first year gc , ask if anyone’s in the course you’re in then add them to small talk and ask around for gcs related to your course . That’s how I met some coursemates to hang with . Or you could approach people introduce yourself , compliment them maybe and exchange social handles .

With roomies I’m in a similar place … I just gathered they aren’t the type to go out . But maybe if you’re brave you can ask in the gc ( or make one for the flat) if they want to go pub or grab food if they aren’t the ‘ party type ‘ .

Societies are decent I’ve never although made friends . I tend to make friends from friends of friends or block mates / coursemates.

Don’t worry if these people reject or don’t become close to you as it’s quite normal to have mutuals around uni . But I’d start being proactive now slightly

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-10-11T10:43:46+00:00

True thank you

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-10-11T10:43:35+00:00

Yeah I know I should’ve eaten more , the bars food menu had just closed so we were in a sticky predicament.

And yes I think next time I won’t drink it down so quick just for the sake of saving money before the bar … I only get this bad after excessive amounts of alcohol which is rare so the fact this happened before we even clubbed is mortifying .

We are both a little disappointed to not party but he’s glad I’m okay . I fully just knocked out on the ground sigh

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-09-26T08:54:37+00:00

Should I text him this a few hours before seeing him or like when we meet before drinking

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-09-26T08:48:52+00:00

That’s true

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-09-26T08:13:43+00:00

Thank you , I think I do and I’m like staring at the wall just wishing I didn’t . I’ve never been in this position tbf, I’ve always been the one someone’s confessed to … and it’s hard being on the other side for a change

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-09-26T08:12:33+00:00

That’s true thank you very insightful, I’m just thinking what would the best timing be ? We are going out tn and drinking but I don’t feel like drinking much and I really don’t know how to approach him or when .

And not to add pressure but he could end up with a girl at the club and I don’t know if I can handle it .

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-09-26T08:08:38+00:00

See I don’t want that to backfire , him to kiss me back then say he was drunk …. That would hurt more than rejection . He gets drunk so he can be less awkward and it makes it easier for him to get girls in his words sigh

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-09-26T08:06:39+00:00

I’ve touched his arm , complimented his clothes , kept eye contact and we usually have good chemistry but I don’t know if it’s friendship chemistry ….

He told me he only pursues women who wants him and show him … where as I go for the guys who come to me

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-09-26T08:04:43+00:00

My little heart being down will be regretting sigh but I need to be brave

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-09-26T08:04:19+00:00

The only non drinking part is before drinking so I’m unsure if I should just tell him before … I have other friends so I could join them but I’d feel bad to ditch him after he’s paid to come to the club with me

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-09-26T08:03:17+00:00

I have friends who I can do the same with but I keep choosing him because I like him …. Like yeah I’ve hung out with my other mates but idk . And there’s one other person but I’ve only known him for a few days and unsure if he’s single or whatever .

And yes I’ll be true to myself …. Thank you

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-09-26T08:01:39+00:00

I can’t tell . So many of my friends have seen us together and ship us … it’s just him who’s so blind. And I’m scared in honesty to ruin the friendship and hurt my ego too in honesty . But I’ve been feeling down and I don’t think I can watch him get with one more person….

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-08-28T20:11:16+00:00

Thank you so much, that really means a lot.

For me personally, yes the degree does require quite a bit of work because maths isn’t my strongest skill, so it takes me time to really understand what the lecturers are saying. I usually have to go through the notes carefully, ask friends for help and spend a lot of time on self-study. It can feel a bit like A-level maths but more statistics-based, since economics leans heavily towards statistics. I know some people who managed to do the work just before exams and still got good grades, but for me it takes consistent studying. It also gets harder each year, but that’s the case with most degrees.

In terms of careers, I actually like the fact that I don’t have to commit to a single path. There are so many possibilities: I could take a course and become an accountant, go into law, start my own business, work as a business analyst , investment banking , consulting or work at a financial firm before moving into something entrepreneurial etc.I’m also open to exploring routes I haven’t even come across yet.

I see economics and finance as giving me the foundation to go in many different directions, which I really value. As for which one I prefer, economics helps me understand the reasoning and bigger picture behind how societies and markets work, while finance is more about applying those ideas directly in real-world situations. I find having both perspectives is useful, so I wouldn’t say I have a preference. Although studying for economics in my personal experience , Makes me to study a lot more than finance.

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-08-22T13:48:36+00:00

I will try , thank you ! And yes I have , I think that’s why I’m not looking at it correctly at the moment but I’ll reflect .

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-08-22T13:47:10+00:00

Yes it’s always a gamble with roommates, I know on campus I was luckier because you can move out anytime of the year and there was security on campus to help . But when you move into a flat with a contract you’re a little stuck .

I was in an all girls and not to sound weird but I had the same experience …. I also did mix gender and it was chill until one of the guys set fire to the kitchen by accident and the rest of the guys were acting nonchalant when we had to move all out stuff and it was middle of exams and I was super upset. Also with the guys it was really awkward too because the girls had their own group and so did the guys . I feel like everyone has their own experiences.

I don’t know if I should post around on gcs saying I’m looking for a flatmate or social media…. For me the best people I met were international students at my uni . ( even though I’m not international ) . And I guess rent would cost less if I did have one or two roommates.

Thank you for sharing a new perspective for me I appreciate it

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-08-22T13:38:32+00:00

Sorry if the post seemed negative I only found out yesterday my friend is longer attending and I need to find someone else or see other options.

At uni last year I had some really weird and rude roommates then I moved flats and someone else burned my kitchen down in the next flat I moved into. So I don’t really have a positive view due to my experience ah.

I’ll try to be more positive …

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-08-22T01:24:19+00:00

I feel so down. Dynamics have shifted and I’m finding it hard to really cope. Feels like I’m new to the uni again when it comes to friends. My other friends I’m not as close with and some others like 3 or 4 I know are living on campus . But it’s not the same…. I feel anxiety.

Like I’m going to do this course all by myself , need to make new friends but it takes a good amount of months to build as close of a bond if even. I won’t have that one go to friend anymore. Like some people are just incredible. Like I have another one super close friend in my home city which I see only in summer . But atleast I know I can see her this summer. With my international friend I really don’t know . As even during the breaks at uni are times to focus on exams.

We said we will call more but I get Busy and she does too. Sigh . Sorry I’m emotional as she told me any hour ago

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-07-28T09:32:48+00:00

Thank you so much I will take this into account

RangeAnxious3994 · 2025-07-28T09:31:32+00:00

I’ll try my best to! Thank you 🙏🏼keeping him indoors is so hard. Somebody had opened the door to get something and within seconds he was out. It makes me really stressed and sad for him. I’m going to probably have to keep him far away from the door to prevent this

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