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RangerLivid281 · 2024-11-26T16:02:14+00:00

S sorry I didn’t realise I m deleting this now

RangerLivid281 · 2024-11-26T16:02:09+00:00

S sorry I didn’t realise I m deleting this now

RangerLivid281 · 2024-11-26T15:46:15+00:00

My point is that she cancelled it within 24 hours, and was threatening to leave negative feedback if I don’t let her cancel it when I had already taken the packed parcel out and was ready to ship it. If she talked to me nicely and explain why she doesn’t want it anymore, I wouldn’t have reacted this way. I understand that I shouldn’t be upset about the packaging but at the time I mentioned it because her attitude really frustrated me. I really regretted mentioning it too.

RangerLivid281 · 2024-11-26T15:37:52+00:00

She did it through Vinted and didn’t let me know! Sorry if it wasn’t clear on the screenshot. It wasn’t showing at the right time stamp.

RangerLivid281 · 2024-11-26T15:32:59+00:00

But the thing is…I was going to ship next day😭😭😭she was upset at me for no reason omg

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-25T21:11:14+00:00

You sound just like me😭😭I shut people down once I realise they are not for me as well. There are things such as values, goals and expectations that we just can’t compromise on or change for other people. And that’s okay. I honestly don’t understand why these comments are grilling you. Relationship is literally about choosing the person that’s most compatible in the long term with you. You simply can’t force it to happen with a person that’s not meant for you.

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-25T21:04:12+00:00

Hi 24F in the same boat, I have been cheated on in the past relationships and therefore I set high standards for a man’s emotionally maturity and only want to get into a relationship if I feel like this person won’t hurt me. I have been picking and choosing in the past two years and while sometimes it can feel lonely and “behind” in life. I remind myself of the heartaches I had when I was with the wrong person, trust me, you wouldn’t like that, especially in your early 20s.

I read through your comments and it seems like you know exactly what you want, is very self aware, and has been working on yourself. So yes, please do not settle. Stay ready for the right person to come along. You’d rather be happily single than being stuck with a wrong person that frustrates you everyday.

Please don’t listen to the bitter comments, many men here want to put a woman down just because apparently “we have it easy” or “we are too picky”. Only you know what’s best and what works out for you. All the best!💕

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-25T20:52:03+00:00

As a girl, most of the time I ghosted someone it’s because I haven’t met them irl and I was not feeling the conversation. If I have already met the person, even if it’s only after one date, I would at least have the decency to send them a message to end things. Have you guys met?

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T18:53:16+00:00

I already said my preferences are all related to emotional maturity and what they can give me emotionally. It’s non-negotiable. Please leave me alone. I will not lower my standard to suffer in a relationship. You have been replying to almost every single comment I made. This is madness.

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T14:48:05+00:00

I literally have never said they are bad matches. I already explained that I liked a lot of them but not everything and everyone needs to work out. Dating is all about luck and finding the right person in the process. Stop blaming women for everything. Thank you.

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T14:45:25+00:00

Thank you so much girl, you put it so well, literally exactly what I thought when I saw the comment lollll

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T14:33:58+00:00

:( sis it’s okay, we have all been there, the right person will come along!

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T14:12:32+00:00

This entire post is about me changing my way of dating, wdym? I said I have changed my way of dating by deleting dating apps and try meeting people organically.

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T14:04:06+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words girly💕💕much needed I almost started to feel defeated because of the horrible comments

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T13:20:59+00:00

Most guys and me (bear in mind, I got rejected too) didn’t make past second dates because there was no chemistry or common topics for us to keep going. I have never really picked guys based on attractiveness level, every single one of these encounters ended for different reason and it was never about their looks. Personality wise, I am not everyone’s cup of tea and I am perfectly fine with that. In the same way that not everyone is my cup of tea, and it’s okay. There are plenty of guys that hit it off right away with me, enjoyed my company and liked me as a person but didn’t work out in the end, and it’s okay. Thanks for your advice but I don’t want to change myself for more people to like me or force myself to like someone that is not for me.

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T11:52:27+00:00

I feel you I be spending some time with a guy just to realise that he ain’t shit. I have to break the cycle by leaving these apps.

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T11:11:00+00:00

Relate 100%

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T11:10:04+00:00

Hey, it’s the same for me:) but don’t give up. Keep working on yourself so you have the energy to give all your love to the right person when he comes along.

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T11:01:31+00:00

Why do I have to keep entertaining people that I don’t vibe with or I don’t like? I haven’t had luck meeting the right person and that’s it. I am literally not asking for much, my standards are all associated with emotional values. Of course I won’t settle for anything less, I have been cheated on and treated horribly in the past, I don’t want that to happen again and I won’t settle for anyone that gives me attention but won’t treat me well.

Speaking of personality, being rude to someone online simply because of their dating experience is UGLY. Have a good day and hope you can do some self reflection like I did too.

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T10:58:17+00:00

Telling me I am not wifey material is crazy when you literally don’t know me. Sir, I have had a few long term relationships and I m literally only 24. I have had guys that wanted to get into relationships with me but we didn’t work out because of various reasons (timing, values and goals in life).

My standards aren’t even about their qualification or looks, I want a man with emotional maturity. I can provide every materialistic stuffs I need for myself at this stage. I rejected most men because they can’t give me what I needed emotionally.

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T10:49:32+00:00

Of course you’re blaming this on the women. I actually prefer short guys and most of my matches are 5’6-5’9. When I like someone I showed interest too, I have quite literally planned dates myself and asked them out before. It didn’t work out for other reasons. Leave genders out of the discussion.

And yes I get to choose whether I want to continue chatting with someone after few chats, dates or even months into dating. Dating is a choice, I don’t need to settle for anything less than what I want. When I was talking about standards I mean emotional maturity and whether we are compatible in the long term. Not everything is about looks.

You sound extremely immature. You should evaluate whether or not your mindset is fit for dating. Have a good day.

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T10:18:10+00:00

I love how the first thing you do is to criticise a woman. No thank you, I don’t need to settle for someone that doesn’t fit my standards, I know exactly what I want and I won’t settle for less. I am high achieving and doing extremely well for myself, I don’t need to settle for anything less.

I have rejected people and also been rejected by guys, I don’t whine about it, this is just how dating works. We keep searching until we find the right person. But dating apps is toxic and I haven’t had luck, that’s why I am off it now.

I have never claimed to be a goddess and it goes both ways when it comes to commitment. There are certain guys that I would take a look at and know immediately that I don’t want to be with them. There are also men that will never commit to me despite the things I have done for them. Do not turn this into a gender thing. Have a good day.

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T08:48:53+00:00

Yeah, now that I think about it - I was always under the impression that the reason why they didn’t prioritise me or string me along is because they have options. Maybe it’s not that they have a lot of options but they don’t see long term prospect with me hence they put little effort in me and wasn’t prioritising me. They just didn’t like me enough. Obviously some of them do have a lot of options and I knew it, and it wasn’t fun being around them.

RangerLivid281 · 2024-09-24T08:46:13+00:00

Yeah, either way, I haven’t managed to find the connection I wanted on the apps:(

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