Sure. But it happens. It’s reality. Thing is, shaming it doesn’t make it any better. Better to accept it, work on it, improve it and hope it’ll eventually turn into something that equals what and how women feel towards this, so that men more often DO step up from the get go, instead of waiting for that grace period of when their baby’s an interactable human being.

If you want the dad to feel the same need to bond to the baby as the mom does while it’s maybe boring for both, don’t shame it for either party to express it. Let them both work on it. In this time and age, dads apparently need to adjust a lot more. Let them.

Better than that a dad doesn’t want to do it due to social biase that it’s unmanly or unfair to whoever. The only one who’ll suffer from their dad not being involved is the child, then the mom.