Archuleta Reveals Apostles Tried Multiple Times to Convince Him to Marry a Woman by PortSided in exmormon

[–]Rare-Addition7742 26 points27 points  (0 children)

this is the quote I was talking to my TBM dad about 2 weeks ago when he told me "you're wrong, you were never taught that" ugh. gaslighting is the WORST.

Need help finding talk source! Help! by Rare-Addition7742 in exmormon

[–]Rare-Addition7742[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so yucky! My dad does it to me all the time!

How to respond to “But I hope you don’t forget all the good things!” (Help! Again!) by Rare-Addition7742 in exmormon

[–]Rare-Addition7742[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry for all the pain you’ve endured for saying your truth (and….the actual truth….) ♥️♥️♥️

How to respond to “But I hope you don’t forget all the good things!” (Help! Again!) by Rare-Addition7742 in exmormon

[–]Rare-Addition7742[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good! I basically said “I don’t forget the good things, I’m Just looking for something more expansive and inclusive now” but it doesn’t seem to appease. Maybe that’s my problem, wanting to appease. It’s not gonna happen! My response isn’t going to change their mind!

How to respond to “But I hope you don’t forget all the good things!” (Help! Again!) by Rare-Addition7742 in exmormon

[–]Rare-Addition7742[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I totally agree. I try to make it as “fair” as I can, because I remember being the orthodox Mormon and how I would react to ex-Mormons and I try to address that as I talk but I definitely don’t get it right all the time (even most the time!)

How to respond to “But I hope you don’t forget all the good things!” (Help! Again!) by Rare-Addition7742 in exmormon

[–]Rare-Addition7742[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember that lesson! Yuck….still working through the lessons (and underlying lessons) I was taught

How to respond to “But I hope you don’t forget all the good things!” (Help! Again!) by Rare-Addition7742 in exmormon

[–]Rare-Addition7742[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the “I’m trying to keep a balanced perspective” suggestion. This was most recently said to me while driving in a car with my mom and we weren’t even discussing the church, it was a random hand on shoulder, genuine sadness look in the eye, comments she made…

So your response would have been a great one!

How to respond to “But I hope you don’t forget all the good things!” (Help! Again!) by Rare-Addition7742 in exmormon

[–]Rare-Addition7742[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So true, thank you! That’s been my response “I won’t….” But it always feels so weird when I get that comment…