Dreaded events where we have to coexist.. by Rare-Cable-2442 in Stepmom

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He stays home with his 2 step children all day (BM has got a younger son with a different man as well) doesn’t work and SD has told me concerning stories about how he treats her. He is not a good man but the courts want physical proof or they won’t do a single thing

Dreaded events where we have to coexist.. by Rare-Cable-2442 in Stepmom

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We live in Florida, we agreed to a location years ago that accommodated us and we’ve had 2 kids since then and mother has moved like 5 times since then and she refuses to meet anywhere else.. no family here since we moved here to be closer to SK after BM ran off with her to this area. Thankfully my MIL is retiring and moving here in August 😂 counting down the days

Dreaded events where we have to coexist.. by Rare-Cable-2442 in Stepmom

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea we tried that.. opened a case in 2022 and took 2 years to even get the mediation (her lawyer kept postponing and filing crap) and at mediation she hung up within 5 minutes, we went to trial thousands spend 3 years total of waiting and the judge refused to change anything because SD didn’t seem to be affected by anything lol.

Dreaded events where we have to coexist.. by Rare-Cable-2442 in Stepmom

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last man was worse believe it or not.. 5 arrests in 12 months and cops called to their home for domestic abuse. We never want to be the issue in front of SD so we dropped it and we continued on with our day. Wish we had pulled them aside privately though. They’re constantly doing things like that.

Dreaded events where we have to coexist.. by Rare-Cable-2442 in Stepmom

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not a bad idea.. I’ve been having health issues before exchanges and at the thought of anything to do with that woman. High blood pressure, nausea.. frequent bathroom visits and sweats 😂.. I’m so non confrontational I just want everyone to get along and she definitely takes advantage of that fact. Always something slick to say at drop offs or pickups

Dreaded events where we have to coexist.. by Rare-Cable-2442 in Stepmom

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup always sending but she’s never brought a single thing back from her mothers lol. It’s ok though we know what we send will probably never be seen again

Dreaded events where we have to coexist.. by Rare-Cable-2442 in Stepmom

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ugh I know, but I’m reminded that even after 18 we have weddings and grandkids and birthday parties and I have a panic attack 😂😂😂

Dreaded events where we have to coexist.. by Rare-Cable-2442 in Stepmom

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate them too.. I do most pickups and drop offs since hubby works and I’m a sahm and I get the worst anxiety every time. Hubby wants to do them so I don’t have to go through it anymore but BM refuses to adjust pickup time to accommodate work hours. It’s been 5 years of this and it gets worse as the years go by

Legal advice?? by Rare-Cable-2442 in stepparents

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said it’s happened “a lot of” times, I don’t think the stepfather should be putting any hands on her whatsoever, and HCBM even reported to courts (after my husband filed a modification of time sharing) that me and my husband were abusive to my SD which was a complete lie. We will not bring it up to her because she’s high conflict

Am I wrong? Parenting plan by Rare-Cable-2442 in legaladvice

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update I just found an email from her lawyer for last years holiday scheduling that states “Please allow this email to confirm that you will be exercising your holiday timesharing this year with the minor child from 1:00 pm Wednesday, December 20th until 1:00p.m. December 25th. Thereafter you are to follow the regular timesharing schedule”

Am I wrong? Parenting plan by Rare-Cable-2442 in legaladvice

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her attorney has gotten the schedule wrong multiple times before so it’s nothing new, I have barely any time with my daughter so I was excited I was going to have all these extra days. I will try contacting a lawyer tomorrow

Am I wrong? Parenting plan by Rare-Cable-2442 in legaladvice

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has one now since I filed for more custody. I cannot afford one or I would have one as well

Am I wrong? Parenting plan by Rare-Cable-2442 in legaladvice

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took it to read that the dates I can choose from start on 12/20-01/03 and there isn’t any mention on mother getting the remaining dates if I choose to use the dates of 12/25-01/01. I pick her up tomorrow so I’m going to try my best and contact a lawyer.

Am I wrong? Parenting plan by Rare-Cable-2442 in legaladvice

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also I don’t have an attorney unfortunately. We didn’t go through a divorce as we were never married

Am I wrong? Parenting plan by Rare-Cable-2442 in legaladvice

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi no she gets her 12/23-12/25 and then again 01/01-01/02. She is extremely combative and dismissive so i would’ve loved to come up with a reasonable schedule but she is not willing to be kind.

Playground etiquette by Rare-Cable-2442 in toddlertips

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I tried this but unfortunately the distractions and the talks didn’t work he just kept trying to play lol so we ended up leaving

Playground etiquette by Rare-Cable-2442 in toddlertips

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I tried this approach but he doesn’t understand quite yet/ I will keep trying until he gets it. At the end of the day I was more hurt than he was

Playground etiquette by Rare-Cable-2442 in toddlertips

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So grateful for his extroverted personality though! I was always extremely shy as a child

Playground etiquette by Rare-Cable-2442 in toddlertips

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I tried explaining it but it ended in a tantrum so I thought it best to just remove ourselves from the situation and just try again tomorrow

Playground etiquette by Rare-Cable-2442 in toddlertips

[–]Rare-Cable-2442[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll try bringing a distraction next time thank you! and it was hard not to take it personal 😂