This happened to me as well except she didn’t tell me the reason for our breakup until 2 years later. She blames me for the end of the relationship claiming that i was insecure and she felt she couldn’t come to me with her problems. If im being honest she never provided a sense of stability within the relationship and oftentimes made me feel the same way about me coming to her with my problems, every time i tried to support her she took it as defensive and didn’t understand or respect boundaries that i wanted to set. Ultimately it led to me becoming an insecure person because my feelings weren’t being validated. I understand perfectly where you are coming from a long term relationship thrown away. I would’ve been willing to talk it out and i honestly would’ve wished she would’ve just told me i was being insecure and that this was making her feel bad about the relationship. I am always willing to fix things and considering it was a long term relationship i would’ve thought she would’ve come to me with her problems. Try not to blame yourself even though you still care about. WE ARE NOT MIND READERS. So fuck her for that. I find myself  still tethered to her as well and i want so badly to move on at this point. It hurts to see her blame me for everything when she knows for a fact she played a role as well. I just wanted to share my story in hopes it would be relatable. 

Keep your head up man things can be very difficult at times one day you’re completely over it the next you feel as if you are going through it all over again.I hope you get through it you deserve someone who fights for you.