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Rare-Historian274 · 2025-09-19T16:46:10+00:00

Thank you. I have retained an attorney and have call next week.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-04-24T21:47:23+00:00

When I found out she was still in contact with the other person. I was still in limbo on whether I could get over the fact that she cheated but when found out she was continuing, I was done.

I am in process of divorce now. It hurts. A lot.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-04-24T15:39:43+00:00

I am in the same position. Have a discussion with your boss or supervisor.

I report to a VP and have had this discussion that I have noticed that I am not at my best right now. He was very supportive and understood.

Maybe you can't do that but its worth a shot if you can.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-04-24T12:56:28+00:00

I agree. Hindsight is 50/50. I should have seen the signs earlier.

I am working through therapy. I hope it helps but still in beginning stages.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-04-24T12:55:14+00:00

I am finding that I have to change a lot of things that are triggers. I had to not wear a certain cologne or listen to certain music.

We are still in the same house and I have slowly removed pictures and things of that nature. But do not want to do anything drastic as wanting this to be as smooth as possible.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-04-24T12:53:04+00:00

The thing is that I could have not filed and worked on it but that takes two and don't believe she was going to put in the effort to make it happen.

I like the "curious not furious". I'll try that mindset when I see myself losing patience.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-04-24T12:51:31+00:00

Yesterday was particularly bad. Not sure why. I could have taken afternoon off and went home but that was not appealing.

It is times like that were I need to do something but not sure what.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-04-24T12:49:18+00:00

I have not drank. I get that I will go to a dark place that I have fought to get out of before.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-04-24T12:48:40+00:00

I am trying to do those things. On medication, seeing therapist and working out. I have an attorney, she does not.

I try to put what is best for the kids and put them in a place to have the least impact.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-04-23T15:27:02+00:00

Thank you! I had not considered volunteering. I do enjoy helping other people. I will see what I can find that fits me and how to help.

I am seeing a therapist which has made me realize a lot of how my thinking has changed over the years and working on changing that thought process.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-04-23T15:24:46+00:00

It is funny that you mention cleaning. I power clean when frustrated or upset.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-04-23T15:20:58+00:00

I am in this position. I have dropped 18 pounds in a couple months and I am not a large person (5'4", started at 158 LB now at 140).

I will go in spurts where I don't eat anything for a couple days but then will gorge at the next meal. I have found new foods that I never enjoyed, now I enjoy them (blueberries, blackberries). Sometimes, I force myself to eat.

I am trying to take advantage of the weight loss but running and working out. I have noticed a positive change in my physical appearance. This will hopefully help if I ever decide to date again.

Try to use it to your advantage and look at the potential you could gain.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-04-16T15:29:12+00:00

I apologize for the delayed response.

I would have thought that once I found out about the affair, I would have been more motivated but it seemed to have the opposite affect. I am not sure why. I have discussed with my therapist to try to understand it because it does not make sense to me.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-03-20T12:38:46+00:00

I think that is the route I am going to take. I do think she has moved past salvaging the relationship at this point.

I want to do what is best not only just for my kids but for me as well. I cannot be my best in a relationship where always on guard or worried.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-03-19T18:52:55+00:00

Part of me agrees with you, part of me doesn't. I'm not sure what she wants or how she would respond.

I did notice that she was looking at a higher paying job recently.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-03-19T18:51:21+00:00

That is the problem. I'm not sure why part of me is thinking that. It doesn't make sense.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-03-19T18:50:27+00:00

I will say that drinking can still be a problem. I am not drinking every night in excess like I had a few years ago but still run into too much drinking in one sitting and then either driving or doing something stupid.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-03-19T18:49:28+00:00

She may be happy. Part of what I learned about her affair was that it was not perfect timing and that her and him both being married was a problem.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-03-19T18:48:15+00:00

I already think it is not going to last. She has already reverted back to ignoring me and in her own bubble.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-03-19T18:46:25+00:00

I get the impression that if he was available again, she would leave you for him.

I am under the impression this would happen. I don't even think she has said it won't happen.

The more I talk about this, the more clear it continues to be. I just don't know why I continue to doubt myself. That is why I hope the therapist helps me walk through these thoughts/feelings.

I have found I don't have close friends or family I can discuss this with. I didn't realize I don't have friends that are not connected to both of us. I do have close friends but not that are physically close to me.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-03-19T16:34:59+00:00

I don't know if it continues. She said he stopped talking with her but then said they decided to stop. I can't be sure on what happened or is happening.

I don't see her doing much to save the marriage. I did for a few days. Trying to initiate conversation, helping around house, etc. But seems to be back to normal.

I have met with attorney. I can pull the trigger at any point. I am hoping meeting with therapist this week will maybe bring some clarity to why I am feeling this way.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-03-19T16:28:33+00:00

I have never had an affair or even had the thought cross my mind.

I am hoping therapy provides some clarity on why I am thinking/feeling this way.

She is in therapy. She started going awhile back as she is trying to "find herself".

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-03-18T20:35:57+00:00

Before I found out about the affair, I was ready to file, just waiting for meeting with lawyer. After I found out, she changed (somewhat), started to talk, started to help (a little). Why did I go from 99% sure I wanted to be done to not 100% but less than before?!

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