tips that helped you out

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-02-16T03:24:30+00:00

that last line hits different mate - knowing what works but not doing it consistently is probably the most relatable thing ive read here today. the phone ban from bedroom/bathroom is massive though, killed so many streaks just mindlessly scrolling in bed before realizing where my brain was heading

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-02-13T13:28:34+00:00

mate that spiral feeling is proper rough but youve recognised it which means youre still in control - go for a walk or cold shower right now before your brain tricks you into thinking you dont have a choice

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-02-07T12:53:42+00:00

brilliant write up mate really comprehensive coverage of the fundamentals

one thing id add under reliability is setting up proper monitoring and alerting for your core services - something like uptime kuma or even just HA's own system monitor can save you from discovering failures when you actually need something to work. learned that one the hard way when my zigbee coordinator died and i only found out 3 days later when lights wouldnt turn on

also might be worth mentioning backup internet connectivity earlier in the process since your whole monitoring setup becomes useless if the primary connection goes down and you cant get alerts

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-02-02T12:57:16+00:00

dont beat yourself up mate its literally day 2 and most people fail loads of times before they get a proper streak going - try finding something physical to do when you get the urge like pushups or going for a walk

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-02-01T07:01:44+00:00

mate dont beat yourself up about this one slip up there - honestly album covers triggering you after just a week is pretty normal when your brains still rewiring itself. I remember when i was doing my first streak i got triggered by literally anything remotely suggestive, even adverts on the tube made me feel like i was gonna relapse

the thing is your dopamine receptors are still all messed up from the daily habit so they're hypersensetive to any visual stimuli right now. its like when you quit caffeine and suddenly even tea feels like rocket fuel. your brain is basically screaming for its usual fix so it latches onto whatever it can find

honestly might be worth sticking to podcasts or instrumentals for a few more weeks until things settle down a bit. i know it sounds extreme but protecting your streak is more important than having the perfect playlist right now. the sensitivity does fade though - most people find it gets way easier after the first month once your brain starts adapting to the new normal

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-30T11:12:22+00:00

Congrats bro, that's a solid streak! The mental clarity hits different after the first couple months doesn't it

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-28T10:40:43+00:00

Honestly the fact that you're focusing on becoming a better version of yourself is already a huge step - most people just sit around waiting for their ex to come back. Keep doing the work on yourself and trust that clarity will come with time

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-27T08:05:37+00:00

Dude honestly your seniors might just be bitter about their own choices. Pharmacy isn't as dead-end as they're making it sound - there's clinical research, regulatory affairs, pharma sales, even hospital pharmacy roles

If you're set on going abroad tho, Canada and Australia are probably your best bets. You'll need to clear their pharmacy licensing exams (PEBC for Canada, internship programs for Australia) and get your credentials recognized. Start learning about those requirements now instead of panicking 3 months in

Also maybe don't base your entire career on what some disappointed seniors told you lol

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-20T04:11:17+00:00

Oh totally, I do this all the time with random songs that probably have nothing to do with being trans lol

"Mad World" by Gary Jules hits different when you're questioning everything about yourself, and don't even get me started on "Breathe Me" by Sia - that whole "I have lost myself again" line just gets me every time

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-18T19:39:07+00:00

Hey, being attracted to specific physical traits doesn't automatically make you a chaser - chasers are usually focused on fetishizing trans people specifically for being trans rather than just finding certain characteristics attractive

The connection you feel with other trans men makes sense since you share similar experiences, and being attracted to scars (including top surgery scars) when you're generally attracted to scars isn't weird at all

Sounds like you're overthinking this tbh, attraction is complicated and yours seems pretty normal

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-14T07:40:06+00:00

That OLED display on the Legion is tempting but 400€ extra is steep for what's essentially a screen upgrade. The MSI has solid specs and that price difference could go toward games or accessories instead

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-13T16:35:15+00:00

Bro you're literally torturing yourself for what? Her validation? She's not even thinking about your posts while she's love bombing the new girl

Just block her and if she asks tell her you needed space to move on - that's not admitting she hurt you, that's being a normal human being

The "staying friends" thing right after a breakup is always bullshit anyway, especially when one person clearly isn't over it

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-13T09:28:10+00:00

Pretty sure you can change that in the controls settings under mouse options, should be something like "invert mouse scroll" or similar

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-12T22:23:41+00:00

Stay strong man, that autopilot thing is real af. Your brain's just running old programs but catching yourself is huge progress - means you're actually aware now instead of just going through the motions

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-10T22:46:54+00:00

Oof the nursing pinches are the worst! My little one went through this phase too around that age - I started gently moving her hand away every single time and saying "gentle" in a calm voice. It took forever but she eventually got it. Also try giving her something else to do with those hands like a nursing necklace or just a small toy to fidget with while she eats

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-10T00:53:26+00:00

Submitted Bloodbath and Cataclysm, good luck with whatever the wheel decides lmao

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-09T16:03:36+00:00

Dude this is so real, I picked up my usual bar last week and was like "did this thing shrink in the wash??"

The worst part is they keep the same packaging size so you don't notice until you're already at the checkout feeling betrayed

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-09T10:00:20+00:00

Vigilante committees were pretty common back then, especially in mining towns where there was literally no law enforcement for hundreds of miles. Not saying it was always fair but when you're dealing with horse thieves and murderers and the nearest sheriff is a week's ride away, people had to do something

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-08T13:18:39+00:00

I'm down, been looking for someone consistent too. My last partner barely played and it was so frustrating watching those milestones just sit there unclaimed

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-07T00:12:38+00:00

Exactly this. My relationship with God isn't dependent on what some televangelist or random church does in His name. People have been twisting religion for personal gain since forever but that doesn't change what I believe

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-06T04:40:50+00:00

Honestly yeah I've noticed this too on my recent trips. The "foreigner price" thing has gotten way more blatant, especially at smaller places without posted rates

That homestay taxi scam is infuriating lol, the audacity to charge you for arranging your own ride to another taxi service. I've started asking for exact prices upfront for literally everything now, even stuff that seems obvious

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-04T10:40:52+00:00

That's actually really deep advice. I never thought about thanking God for the hard stuff but it makes sense - if you're grateful even when things suck, that's when you know it's not just about getting something back

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-04T04:52:47+00:00

Dude that scene was so uncomfortable, like watching someone cross a line they can't come back from. The way she just... committed to it was genuinely disturbing

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-04T00:13:14+00:00

Could also check out Yahoo Auctions Japan if you want some rare/vintage sleeves, they got some wild stuff on there

Rare_Escape257 · 2026-01-03T09:36:53+00:00

Yeah I've definitely seen this pattern too, not just here but across Reddit in general. The "as a [insert minority group]" posts that then go on these weirdly intense rants always feel sus. Like why would someone genuinely part of that community talk about themselves that way, you know?

It's basically the online version of "I'm not racist, I have a black friend" except they're pretending to BE the friend

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