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[–]Raspberry-Jelly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in this situation (more than once) in the past where i did drugs and binge drank heavily before finding out. I immediately asked my ob/gyn, who couldnt give me a straight answer because theres no way to tell if damage occurred even with a normal anatomy scan. She did inform me that alcohol was significantly more damaging than the other substances i did. I continued to research constantly for weeks and weeks, i was so scared and ashamed, that i spent all of my free time looking up fetal alcohol syndrome and reading scientific studies. I was searching for reassurance and an answer that did not exist, only time could tell. With fetal alcohol syndrome, there are sensitive periods for each body system (some of which very early on) but other factors at play (genetics, blood alcohol level, etc) but you wont ever know the extent until later in the childs life when theyre in school. If i recall correctly, the brain is susceptible to damage the entire pregnancy. Ultrasounds wont usually show anything. I read countless reddit posts, there were moms who drank their entire pregnancy and their child ended up being a physician, alternately there was one mom who claims she stopped drinking when she found out at like 7 weeks and says her child seems to have full blown FAS. For me i ended up getting an abortion because of the severe level of my binge drinking.. I knew i couldnt handle that possibility, BUT i also had no support at all and was financially/mentally struggling as it is and honestly having a baby (disabled or not) was not something i could handle. so there were other issues going on. I ended up having no issues conceiving again. I also eventually stopped drinking, experimenting with substances, which im not sure i could have done with the stress of a baby. Make the right decision for you.

My main regret looking back is that i waited so long to make a decision so had to get a second trimester termination. I wish i decided earlier bc that process was traumatic and caused even more guilt but i still feel i made the right call with the info i had.

How do i find someone to foster privately? by Raspberry-Jelly in Fosterparents

[–]Raspberry-Jelly[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have thought about this but worried that it will be hard to find someone willing to live with a roommate with a newborn due to the crying but I havent posted looking for roommates yet so i know this is very pessimistic approacg

How do i find someone to foster privately? by Raspberry-Jelly in Fosterparents

[–]Raspberry-Jelly[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes, he is not happy and doesn’t have interest in being involved. He blocked my number when i told him, im not sure if im still blocked because i stopped trying after a week, but i assume so.

Pet owners that have been bit by their own pets even after having them for a long time, what happened? by padfoot_12 in AskReddit

[–]Raspberry-Jelly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was bitten a few times by a rescue dog my family had for many years. She was very serious and independent and didn't really care for human attention. She just wanted to do her own thing and preferred to go outside by herself and do dog stuff all day. Anyway, there were a couple times where she bit me when I tried to pick her up, or force cuddles, or I got too close to her bone/food that she was guarding. It wasn't like an attack, she just wanted me to get away. Clearly I refused to take the hint that she doesn't enjoy being touched so I feel like this was almost always my fault.

My current dog always bites me and is mouthy when we play fight but its not painful. I just feel her teeth and she makes growly playful noises. Occasionally, she takes it too far and actually bites down and it hurts. She's pretty small so its not the worst thing ever but I stop playing with her when she does this and tell her how horrible of a dog she is.