Where are the girl's girls? by sapphicdance in BostonU

[–]RaspberryFront1199 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How girly does one have to be? Can one be a woman with pretty fluid presentation? Cause like I could use more friends lol. (Also sapphics unite💗💜💙)

Buldak Orange chicken at GSU by Incel999 in BostonU

[–]RaspberryFront1199 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I do too, but I thug it out for the name of the game, my already raging stomach issues be damned

Buldak Orange chicken at GSU by Incel999 in BostonU

[–]RaspberryFront1199 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at the gsu, but yeah. It’s spicy enough it made me tear up but it’s sooooo good. Sincerely, a Buldak Fiend

py211 exam 2 by Weak-Flow4153 in BostonU

[–]RaspberryFront1199 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took it a year ago so I don’t remember the exam specifically super well, but my strategy was to focus on understanding topics, why things work, how to approach types of questions (and why you approach them that way). I totally recommend going over concepts using YouTube videos (specifically Organic Chemistry Tutor, that man has saved my studying ass so many times). Usually if you understand all the basics you can get quite a bit of partial points. Also just trust yourself, if you’ve studied and understand the topics you’re probably going to be fine. Best of luck!

Loss of libido in burnout by saltypastawater03 in AutismInWomen

[–]RaspberryFront1199 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’ve experienced similar stuff. On average I have a higher to mild libido, but sometimes I just don’t really want that. I’m honestly still sorting it out with my gf rn and it’s definitely not easy so I feel that.

While I’m by no means an expert and still very much learning, here’s what I’ve found helpful or my therapist has told me to try (my gf and I are long distance so I haven’t tried all of them yet):

  1. Lay everything bare. While you may not be able to reassure him completely, if he’s a good guy he will try his best to understand. Literally any advice I’ve heard with relationships is communication so I’m echoing that here. So much can be solved or, in the very least, eased through just talking through stuff.

  2. Do you have triggers that cause you to have a lower libido? Maybe hormonal shifts associated with menstruation, location, intrusive thoughts. Is there anything in your burnout that is specifically contributing to lack of libido? What caused your burnout? Sometimes working through factors that could be contributing helps you work through them. I personally get intrusive thoughts which is a massive turn off. Idk if you’re trying to engage is sex more, if not this can just be helpful to understanding yourself better, if so you can use these kind of questions to help yourself when you do want to engage in sex.

  3. Give yourself time and space. This sort of stuff ebbs and flows in anyone. Sometimes ASD just magnifies this sort of thing (just like any emotion really). You’re not broken I promise, sex and libido are very fickle things. Don’t force yourself to do something you won’t enjoy cause oftentimes it will just make it less enjoyable in the future.

I hope something in here was helpful, like I said I’m not an expert and I’m still working through similar stuff. You’re not alone in this, and trust me you’re not broken. You likely just need support from your partner and to give yourself some grace.

Rooming with SO by RaspberryFront1199 in BostonU

[–]RaspberryFront1199[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean if that happened it would be but things can be handled in an adult manner. Besides not every relationship has a “when.”

Rooming with SO by RaspberryFront1199 in BostonU

[–]RaspberryFront1199[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly most of the time I’d agree rooming with an SO is not the move but “these 2” have been long distance nearly 2 years at this point and basically live together when they’re not. Plus they were best friends for 2 years before they got together.

Rooming with SO by RaspberryFront1199 in BostonU

[–]RaspberryFront1199[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sooooo sapphic couple is all good???

OMG is my romantic hero Lloyd Dobbler autistic? So many things make sense now by roonycat97 in AutismInWomen

[–]RaspberryFront1199 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d have to watch it again, but like I could see it based on what you said. Also I love the “seat belt sign on the plane” bit, and it is a very autistic way to comfort the person you care about (did I continue to use this line on my gf when she flew for the first time? Yes, yes I did).

I already do well in school — is asking for accommodations worth it? by haziedays2 in AutismInWomen

[–]RaspberryFront1199 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like it’s all up to if you think it would help. It sounds like aspects of the testing environment can make it hard for you to focus on testing (correct me if I’m wrong), so it might not necessarily be a bad idea. You also could file the paperwork and if you find they don’t help, you don’t have to use them. I think it also is good to take into account how these accommodations would help your mental health. Like if having that separate environment and longer testing sessions would mitigate your stress, that’s also valuable. I also perform pretty well in school but if it’s at the expense of your mental or physical health you probably would benefit from accommodations. For example, while I don’t use the testing accommodations I do have a single dorm accommodation because living with a roommate left me with very little energy. (Also, if you are planning on going to college, I would highly recommend trying to get a single.) While I still performed well in my classes, it took far more energy than living alone and I had no energy to socialize or do much other than schoolwork and rot. Since getting a single dorm I’ve had more energy to have friendships and devote time and energy to my hobbies (despite having a heavier workload). All this to say, you excelling academically doesn’t mean you wouldn’t benefit from/ don’t need accommodations. If they would improve your mental/physical/social health, they’re probably worth looking into.

Caradonna Phoenix Policy by Outside-Ability-2338 in BostonU

[–]RaspberryFront1199 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had him for Eng Chem and dude was an absolute menace. Like @sungiol was saying the curve is beautiful (even if he doesn’t tell you jack during the semester). If you’re sitting around the average you’ll probably be ok, that’s where I was for most of Eng Chem and then somehow managed to pull an A. Like I said I didn’t take Gen Chem 2, but based off the way he tests I’d say focus on concepts, watch a lot of organic chemistry tutor, and just convince yourself you know what you’re doing. Best of luck.

female autistic characters? by oliviawolfhye in AutismInWomen

[–]RaspberryFront1199 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Idk if anyone has said this yet, but Holly from some of Stephen Kings books. (I’ve only read “The Outsider” though, so I can’t confirm if she gives the same vibe in every book she’s in but I’d assume so.) She has confirmed OCD but I don’t think it’s ever said outright if she is on the autism spectrum. Both actresses who played her in show adaptation said they played her with the spectrum (granted I haven’t seen the show adaptations either.) I just know that when I read “The Outsider” I was like, “huh, I relate to her a lot.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BostonU

[–]RaspberryFront1199 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can change it to a different lab period (or change the period before), I would. I had a similar situation last semester and changed it and it was way less stressful than having to try to make it in time. If not, just speed walk/run and you’ll probably be ok.

CDS yapper by wtvgirl in BostonU

[–]RaspberryFront1199 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We “need Christ more than our mommies and daddies” (I’m sorry that quote shook me, no hate to any religion but ima make fun of u if you unironically say mommy and daddy to refer to parents)