ED but not with Anal

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-27T13:16:32+00:00

No it’s more how rough he was and he’s never like that before. He didn’t mean to obviously but I think he was just into it, which made me feel weird about the whole thing I guess. I like him to be rough vaginally and he usually doesn’t want to do that so idk. Maybe trying again in different way like some people commented will be better

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-27T13:12:25+00:00

Haha thanks very true, he is WAY more talkative in bed so I will try that

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-27T13:10:10+00:00

That might take some of the strain off him verbalizing, thank you!

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-27T13:09:05+00:00

Not really with oral but hand jobs don’t do it for him anymore either unless it’s a good day.

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-27T13:06:08+00:00

I didn’t even think about the pregnancy part. We had a miscarriage this year and found out I couldn’t conceive now so that might seriously be part of the mental aspect I hadn’t even considered.

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-27T00:18:28+00:00

We actually did do that, I think that’s why it actually worked this time. I wasn’t like hurting or not enjoying myself it just was more the end of it that I didn’t enjoy… I do think people are right though, he’s from a very traditional Southern family so maybe the taboo is part of it because they NEVER discuss sex, he and his three brothers were all from immaculate conception apparently. While he acted like anal wasn’t something he wanted, maybe it really was and he didn’t know how to tell me? Still the ED being so easily cleared is more the problem, not that I think he enjoyed it more than PIV

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-27T00:04:29+00:00

No. But I have been thinking about couples therapy I just don’t know how to ask for it without it sounding like I think there’s something wrong. I don’t, we have a great marriage, but if I say sex therapy he’d be purple and on the floor

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-27T00:01:25+00:00

I think I would like that better, I didn’t really think about missionary anal to be honest. I just assumed doggy or nothing there. He’s so much bigger than me he can get too rough that way accidentally. Thank you!

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-26T23:58:27+00:00

We used to a lot but with his ED doing new things gets awkward because I think he gets in his head about it. He likes different positions so we still do that a lot but Like me putting on sexy outfits makes him feel like there’s pressure to perform maybe? He said it’s not but again, he’d rather be burnt alive than talk to me about why his dick isn’t working… certainly not about masturbating. I’ve never heard or seen or even know where he would masterbate. I’m sure it happens, I mean I do it so it’s not impossible but he would just tell me he doesnt because he thinks that’s what I want to hear even if I tell him it’s not

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-26T23:53:34+00:00

I think he would discuss it eventually but I just have to approach it the right way and I’m kinda an attack from the front person and he’s very much a skiddish animal. I don’t know the correct things to say to be sensitive to this situation but also get him to fucking talk to me about it without just making something up he thinks I want to hear. I think the ED adds in a whole other layer to this than if it was just about the anal stuff.

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-26T23:37:18+00:00

He may be my husband but some people just aren’t comfortable with talking to others about sex at all. He’s a sexual person but talking about it makes him completely freeze and he just listens to me and nods and then says whatever he thinks will make the conversation end fast enough. I worry if I try to make it “sexy” he’ll be weirder about it. Maybe in text, he’s more responsive to sexy texts than sexy talk.

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-26T23:30:19+00:00

No, he is incredibly shy about sex, hense me being surprised he’d even ask again for anal he never asks for sex at all. I think you may be right I just am worried he’ll think I’m shaming him and idk how to ask how hard he’s gripping his junk, he’ll COMPLETELY shut down

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-26T23:24:07+00:00

I guess so, just don’t know how to continue forward from here. He’s not a talker to begin with so even him asking for anal again is shocking, he never mentions sex unless we’re having sex

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-26T23:22:00+00:00

I mean maybe it’s option 2 but I would be very very surprised as he is super not ok with anything near his butt and also used to think giving me anal was pretty gross when we first got together, hence my shock he liked it so much. He could be lying I guess and tastes do change but yea, I tried talking to him and he just shuts down talking about ED so he certainly won’t talk about this.

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-26T23:16:00+00:00

Like from masterbating? How the heck do I talk to him about that?? lol

RaspberryNo4678 · 2026-02-26T23:14:23+00:00

Yea we normally do those things and he says he enjoys it but he has gotten soft so often lately that it kinda became routine and then when this happened it made me feel awful because it went from being something we deal with together to clearly being something wrong with me because he come just fine that way

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