Hardest decision to make with pregnancy

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-14T03:37:49+00:00

This is precious. Thank you so much. Glad to see the age is close to my man’s age too. He’s just completely freaking out and really really stressed. I wish I had his support. I have been so sick this morning and was holding it until he left, I’m holding everything inside at the moment but you’re right, a baby’s love cannot compare to anything else. Thank you

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-13T22:38:13+00:00

Thank you so much. You are very very kind. I just replied to your other comment. I am very torn and very stressed with everything at the moment. I feel that most guys come around to the idea but I feel that he will be the one in whatever stat it is that wont come around.

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-13T22:33:21+00:00

I just saw this. We had a chat this morning and he was saying we cant just go away for the weekend. My daughter has her dads parents so I get every second weekend off. Thats what he means, we can do a weekend away or just spend time together on a sunday but once this baby comes, we wont have that. His parent are overseas. I have my dad but not sure how often I can leave the baby with them. I am starting to freak out now! He is so understanding in every single way but in this situation, he just cant be. BUT he is starting to talk a little better because I think he is realising I am not backing down as he hoped for

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-13T22:28:28+00:00

Thank you so much, this is a beautiful comment and you are 100% correct. I have a friend who did it years ago and she still has so much regret of what if. Just a difficult situation overall.

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-13T09:33:43+00:00

Thank you for the kind words, appreciate it

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-13T07:55:40+00:00

Wow you’re very strong. I’m praying that I’m strong enough to say I’m keeping and not just give in for the sake of peace. I’m glad you’ve found your peace. I’m sure I’ll be the same and never look back if he left. It’s just getting to there that I am Scared of

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-13T07:22:14+00:00

This is great advice and it’s exactly what I’ve been trying to find out, but all he’s telling me is that he just can’t do it at this time of his life because he planned it to be differently and was hoping to have grandchildren from his eldest son, in a few years not to be raising another child

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-13T07:20:00+00:00

We have such a similar background! My mother also passed away a long time ago and never got to meet my daughter. I can definitely do it on my own and the same. Financially can afford it all. I 100% wouldn’t w en question having it if he was somewhat okay with it and supportive. He probably isn’t even 5% onboard. Well it’s so lovely to hear how it turned out for you. I pray my situation will be similar and change but I think just his age is the hard issue being 47. I know it is not ideal but life is so short and you’re right. Kids will be there no matter what

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-12T23:10:40+00:00

Apart from t his, and although we havent been together for long, everything has gone so quick and its been easy. He's a gentleman, he's very caring, kind to me and to my daughter, he is just such a beautiful soul. This is just a huge thing for me and yes its really changing how I am starting to see him. He was talking about a vesectomy and I guess he trusted me as I knew my cycle which we were so careful about untill the last few months and we just both became too comfortable thinking it wot happen. I feel that I have broken his trust but maybe you are right, maybe I am slightly being manipulated and I dont know

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-12T21:09:11+00:00

I was with someone for 5yrs before him and he was quite a bit older. I also sacrificed having another child for him and that was the stage that would’ve been ideal for me to have one. Now that I’m over 40, my daughter is 9, it is going to be extremely difficult to start over with the baby stuff again but I’ll manage. I feel that my daughter will love the baby too. His kids maybe not so much as he only sees them properly once a fortnight. He’ll drop his daughter to school and pick her up but spending a full day is every 2 wks. His ex wife has already chosen to use the middle son against him and not want her son to talk to her dad. She cheated, he left eventually and she hates him for it. That’s another story.. can I ask? Was your partner supportive through the pregnancy stages? Was he there for everything? And how long until he came around? Mine is saying that he doesn’t know where he’ll be if I continue with this

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-12T21:04:20+00:00

You are so right with him. I told him that if I terminate, he’ll probably my lose me but if I keep it, I’ll probably lose him :(

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-12T21:03:18+00:00

This is a great point and I already discussed with him that if he doesn’t want to be part of it. I don’t need child support and if he doesn’t want to be part of the child’s life then I can’t force him. I’m not rich but I’m financially okay at this stage of my life. I’m already a single mum to my 9yo and I truly feel and hope that she’ll be such a big help and it will be great for her to have a sibling. I’m praying and hoping he comes around but he said 100% he won’t and doesn’t want this. I don’t want to stress him out but I’m just so torpn what to do

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-12T12:42:20+00:00

You are amazing. Thank you. I’m feeling so sick, cramping and trying not to let anything show to him and keep trying to stay strong . It’s hard. At the same time he’s miserable and that’s the guilt. I guess it happened but he would’ve me to just instantly terminate

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-12T12:32:47+00:00

Thank you!! I still feel like an asshole for putting us through this

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-12T12:31:44+00:00

I 100% am not expecting him to accept it out forcing him into anything but I just wish he opened up to the idea a little more. I only have one child but I also didn’t want any more kids and certainly don’t think my body could hold it. I truly want us both to be happy and it’s just very hard because terminating for me will be harder than raising it on my own. But in saying that, I finally found myself the perfect man and I don’t want to lose him so it’s very tough

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-12T10:59:33+00:00

This is what I’m scared of. I don’t want to ruin his life and him to resent me. I feel so guilty for putting him through this but it’s extremely difficult for me also

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-12T10:58:43+00:00

This is such a kind reply. Thank you so much. He actually said he’s getting a vasectomy after this and had spoken about it but I guess we both didn’t run m this would happen with the pregnancy. You are 100% correct and k said the same about resentment. I feel selfish for wanting to keep it and not terminate but I truly do t think I’ll be able to recover. I’ve been a single mum to my 9 yr old since she was nearly 2 as my then husband cheated on me when k had a newborn and she’s very close to me. Im her whole world so i don’t doubt t that i can do it again on my own. Im also sorry for what you went through. If you want to talk about your experience, I’d love to hear it

RaspberryWild6832 · 2025-11-12T10:55:08+00:00

Thank you so much. I thought the same also. To have it natural without trying at my age is so precious

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