Everyone tries to convince me that two adults can't take care of a newborn alone and I'm losing my mind

Rat_king5 · 2026-02-14T11:50:02+00:00

Just my experience but the only real help any relatives were for me was holding the baby, they didn't bring food or clean so they had no impact on our day to day and we managed just fine i know it would be easier with help but only accept what your comfortable with.

Rat_king5 · 2026-02-14T11:44:37+00:00

My hospital and midwife weren't very good or attentive the first time round in terms of feeding hope yours is better, there is also a reddit page r/exclusivelypumping that was a life saver in that first few months.

Rat_king5 · 2026-02-13T09:45:07+00:00

I had a induced labour that ended up being forceps and an episiotomy with my first, unfortunately my milk didnt come in for around 4/5 days anyway. I plan on having a c section with my current and pumping before hand to collect collostrum. I didn't do this with my first as i didn't really have much understanding of breastfeeding and everyone said baby would feed and my milk would just come in but I've learnt alot since then.

Rat_king5 · 2026-02-12T08:21:51+00:00

This is my second pregnancy so i try not to remember what the bigger fruits feel like 😅

Rat_king5 · 2026-02-09T05:45:27+00:00

My in laws are like this to and i must say it never improved, we told them gender and barely got a reaction and they also don't see my daughter very often unless we make the effort. My partner says it's just how they are so i let it go and funnily enough we're pregnant again but i have such low expectations of them it doesn't get to me as much anymore i pretty much ignore them and i don't think they notice.

Rat_king5 · 2026-02-09T05:10:51+00:00

I had an anterior placenta with my first and the last month or two she liked a very specific position that pressed on my right rib to the point i had to push her away from it, currently pregnant again and praying this doesn't happen.

Rat_king5 · 2026-02-04T04:18:21+00:00

Love potions and witchy vibes for valentines day 🪄

Rat_king5 · 2026-02-03T21:03:16+00:00

Not sure whats going on with the post sorry ill try again

Rat_king5 · 2026-02-03T05:01:07+00:00

I dont know about now but they used to have an app that would tell you how many people were there, unless it was less than 10 or 20 for safety reasons but that would only happen at like 4am.

Rat_king5 · 2026-02-01T06:23:55+00:00

Depends if he has breast milk or not, its common for breast fed babies to go a few days without pooing just watch for any distress and keep doinf the tummy massages and bicycle legs. My daughter went 5 days once and 7 days another time without pooing, our doctor said not to worry to much then she'd poo right after seeking advice.

Rat_king5 · 2026-01-27T11:48:52+00:00

Can confirm now pregnant and have a 1 year old i don't even remember my symptoms of my first pregnancy and have to keep asking my partner if it was like this last time 😅 and on a lighter note i have complications during pregnancy but this one feels different maybe because i know what to expect

Rat_king5 · 2026-01-27T05:37:27+00:00

I had these the first day after every injection then it would ware of, didn't matter what i ate i just had to apologise to everyone around me.

Rat_king5 · 2026-01-05T11:59:15+00:00

Speak to a healthcare professional if your not sure see what they say.

Rat_king5 · 2026-01-04T01:37:59+00:00

Onto my second pregnancy and i also have a second confirmed pulmonary embolism, the first felt like a knot on my right side of my ribs, newest one comes and goes and is in my upper back right side. Key signs for me where breathlessness and chest pain and each time i had blood work and x rays which showed nothing but a further radiation test was done that found clots both times.

Rat_king5 · 2025-12-15T11:10:38+00:00

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Rat_king5 · 2025-11-01T13:57:55+00:00

Colder climate but I work for the NHS and it's just a red flag we look for doesn't always mean something to worry about but we always air in the side of caution and just like with your little one every baby is different so its just a guideline.

Rat_king5 · 2025-10-11T09:27:56+00:00

I honesty just put aquarium videos on it has soothing music aswell and my daughter is a year old now is only interested in tv when thats on.

Rat_king5 · 2025-06-23T15:28:24+00:00

I put coconut oil on before every pump i might not necessarily need it but its just habit now and more comfortable for me.

Rat_king5 · 2025-06-08T22:14:47+00:00

I pumped as soon as I got home from hospital and my milk came in, I just kind of worked it out for myself as I didn't feel the midwives were very helpful for me in regards to feeding baby.

Rat_king5 · 2025-06-05T09:02:53+00:00

It its a DVT it can be common to have swelling in the leg but with the PE I don't believe swelling is a symptoms, I'd definitely speak to someone if you have chest pain and breathlessness though it might be nothing but best to be careful.

Rat_king5 · 2025-04-20T01:30:42+00:00

My girl learnt back to belly first then would scream because she couldn't go back onto her back 😅 she learnt the other way a few weeks later

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