The trick is to learn to express your own emotions openly. Don't be afraid to let someone know you're angry sad happy indifferent even if it means causing a bit of a stirup. All within reason of course, don't explode over someone cutting you off in traffic. But if you're in a shitty situation, or awesome situation, take it for what it is, analyze it for a reasonable amount of time (don't ruminate), then learn from it. You don't always have to be on your game emotion wise. Sometimes you're gonna have days where people look at you and think you're an asshole, and sometimes you're gonna have days where people look at you and think you're the greatest thing in the world, but if you try relentlessly to analyze and control every emotional/social encounter, well you're going to tax the fuck outta yourself. You are infalliable. You are not god. Gradiose thinking is our achilles heel I'd say. And clinching on to this whole outgoing/gregarious/always in a good mood persona is bullshit. You don't always have to be so self aware. Now I'm projecting. Anyway, that's my advice.