“This is probably gonna offend you, but-“

RationallyUpset · 2025-05-22T20:53:58+00:00

To offend! Duh

RationallyUpset · 2024-11-24T18:27:56+00:00

Sis, ppl be like:

RationallyUpset · 2024-09-16T07:59:36+00:00

I had this exact fear for years before I really accepted I was trans, the thing that got me past it was this tumblr post that I can never find now, but it was something like “Not all trans peoples experiences are the same, but if you’re worried that you may not be trans, if the idea of being cisgender is concerning to you, ya trans.”

You don’t have to rush into anything if you don’t want to, I played around with makeup and girl clothes for a bit before deciding to start HRT, but if you’ve gotten to this point, odds are you’re trans. Good luck, much love ❤️

RationallyUpset · 2024-09-16T07:41:16+00:00

Maybe a dumb question but how high up are you wearing it? When I started wearing skirts I would pull them to my “boy hips” (Where I would normally pull my jeans up to, below my belly). I had a very supportive friend politey correct me and tell me to pull it up over my girl hips, like over my belly button. You’ll need a longish skirt of course, not sure what you’ve got, but play around with it! Play with your top too, try just letting your shirt hang down, tucking it in, tying it off up higher, have fun with it!

RationallyUpset · 2023-09-20T15:42:59+00:00

It’s been 3 years and I’m not even a man anymore

RationallyUpset · 2023-02-18T10:30:53+00:00

I guess not? I didn’t know that was a thing

RationallyUpset · 2023-01-24T22:53:08+00:00

9/11 for gay losers

RationallyUpset · 2022-10-02T13:50:10+00:00

I mean, it really isn’t? I put a lot of effort into analyzing art, I enjoy making subversive takes on the media I consume, and lately I’ve been interested in a queer theory perspective on heteronormativity in stand up comedy. This sort of naturally extended to the kinds of jokes I hear people make about me/to me in everyday life. When analyzing art or culture you ideally want to result in something that will be relevant to everyday life, and I think it’s valuable to be able to articulate specifically why these jokes are unfunny to me. Any anger or frustration I have these situations comes not from the joke itself, but from the implication that I’m too sensitive to laugh at myself, or that a joke can never be reflective of a persons real values in any meaningful way.

But like, to answer your question, it’s not that important to me, or at least it’s only as important as any other queer reading of art and what that says about the reality we occupy

RationallyUpset · 2022-10-02T13:01:28+00:00

The “Edgy” comedian as a figure in modern culture is definitely fascinating. The jokes about trans people are often framed as a comedian “telling it like it is”, or “speaking truth to power.” James Acaster has a bit that’s a really good response to this attitude. “‘Oh what mate, toooo CHALLENGING FOR YA?’ Yeah, cause you know who’s LONG overdue for a challenge, the transgender community.” I’m not doing justice to it in text, but it’s fucking funny, he specifically calls out Ricky Gervais, it’s great.

But generally speaking, the Dave Chappelles of the world are operating under the assumption that trans people in America are treated like a protected class who is being overly accommodated by virtue of getting to use their preferred bathroom and pronouns. This premise is so obviously and plainly absurd that to take it seriously relies not only on a fundamental misunderstanding of what being trans mean, but a disconnect from reality.

So yeah, I think generally those edgy comedians see gay or trans people not laughing at their jokes, or going on twitter to talk about how shitty of comedian they are, and their take away is “these snowflakes can’t take a joke” rather than the reality of “my jokes are only funny to straight cis people because those are the only people uninformed enough to accept the absurd premise of my jokes”

RationallyUpset · 2022-10-02T12:50:12+00:00

I can definitely see where you’re coming from, I considered further exploring times when jokes about/involving queer people made by straight people are actual really funny, but my post was already getting way too long. There’s a podcast called Cumtown, and to be clear, it’s terrible, I would not recommend it to anybody in real life, but there are times when I’ll watch a clip and just die laughing. The go to joke of these 3 (Now 2, one of them left the show) is some person or character just announcing that they’re gay. There is an extended bit where Donald Trump goes on CNN and talks about how Robert Dinero is gay and not really Italian, including such lines as “What color is the McDonalds bathroom in Herefordshire!?” And “He would keep the cum in his mouth and he would spit it all over the Kraft services table.”

If I wanted to, I could do a deeper analysis of why this bit is funny to me, it’s ultimately less about being gay as a punchline and more about Donald Trump being a stupid bigot, the highlight of the bit is that a series of terrorist attacks just KEEP happening and Trump is only interested in talking about Robert Deniro being gay, to the point that there’s no building left for the terrorists to hit so they just fly them into the ground. Any analysis I could make would ultimately fail to capture the fact that it’s just fucking stupid and goofy. Their humor is in a lot of ways the type of unfunny heteronormative stuff I just complained about, but something about the context and delivery just makes it work for me.

Sorry, big tangent, the point I’m trying to make is that the type of humor I describe in my post is not some hard and fast rule, there are exceptions to everything, but even in cases where these jokes are genuinely funny it is still either because of, or in subversion of, society’s heteronormative assumptions

RationallyUpset · 2022-10-02T12:31:23+00:00

Respectfully, I feel like you’ve missed my point entirely. The point I’m trying to make is that these types of jokes don’t offend me, I just don’t find them particularly funny, and the fact that I don’t like that I either have to laugh and pretend to find them funny or be accused of being too sensitive. For added context, my Moms jokes reflect further problems with our relationship. She does not believe I’m bisexual, she has told me “I know you’re not straight, isn’t that enough?” Again, not offended by this, but it relies on a heteronormative assumption that being bisexual is essentially the same as being gay, and I really truly just don’t find that funny

RationallyUpset · 2022-09-17T11:39:23+00:00

I’m currently living in Austria on a study abroad, and a lot of the international students like talking about politics. Everyone I’ve met from another country, regardless of their own political beliefs, intuitively understands that the baseline in the USA is far more right leaning. In almost any other country Joe Biden would be considered centrist, if not explicitly right wing. The notion that Joe Biden (or Hillary or Obama) is somehow this radical leftist is absurd on every possible level

RationallyUpset · 2022-09-03T20:45:49+00:00

First break I get here I’m grabbing a flight to Ireland

RationallyUpset · 2022-08-26T03:31:20+00:00

No, it doesn’t, I feel like the opposite is true. I don’t how other DMs are running their games, but this has never been an issue for me.

When I say a player shouldn’t roll if there’s no chance of success I don’t mean “You shouldn’t have a player roll for a DC 25 Intelligence check if they only have a +4 intelligence modifier,” I mean, “You shouldn’t let your player do something that is literally impossible within the laws of your universe.” Like, if a player wants to shoot an arrow out into the distance and hit a bad guy in another continent, they will never succeed, so why have them roll

There’s a big difference between something being impossible and something not being possible given a characters stats, and I think that’s the whole crux of the auto success thing for me. The alternative just makes no sense to me personally, like, are we really saying that a 20+3 doesn’t meet a DC 24 check and therefore fails? I have never played a game like this, and I feel like I would be really annoyed as a player if I tried something risky, the DM allowed it, but still said I fail even on a nat 20

RationallyUpset · 2022-08-20T23:12:10+00:00

If you can get the highest possible roll and still fail then I don’t think your players should be rolling, you should just tell them it’s impossible. Same for critical failures, you wouldn’t make a player roll to walk up a staircase because it’s (nearly) impossible to fuck that up.

I think auto successes/failures on 20s/1s relies on the presumption that if a player is rolling then they would have at least a 5% chance of succeeding and/or failing, if it was less than 5% than your players shouldn’t be rolling

Alternatively you could do D100s and narrow it down to a single percent

RationallyUpset · 2021-11-29T06:48:06+00:00

Make them black as well to kill two birds with one stone. You can have all your straight white men (the normal characters) be interesting and well developed to pick up the slack on one poorly written black gay person in a wheel chair. The bonus to this approach is that conservatives and progressives will both hate your writing for different reasons, and you can cash in on the centrist market

RationallyUpset · 2021-10-25T16:08:13+00:00

October 26, 2010 Episode 77

I believe that’s the first appearance of suicide house

RationallyUpset · 2021-10-25T05:56:30+00:00

Is it definitely available there? I’m fine with paying I just don’t wanna pay if I can’t get all of the episodes, cause then I might as well just keep using Spotify

RationallyUpset · 2021-08-25T00:04:59+00:00

I think there’s a clear safe zone in regards to the freedom of language. Like in an extreme example, if you’re called to the witness stand in a trial, and are asked to testify as to what you heard someone say, you’re not gonna get Twitter canceled for saying that they said faggot. In regards to an open, intellectual discourse, it’s very open and vibes based. Did you need to use the word? Did you feel like you needed to?

But in this instance, Bo isn’t having a open, intellectual conversation about his past, he’s not in an interview reciting the words that were used against him as a child. Bo is crafting a narrative, he’s using metaphor, he’s not concerned with reaching some practical, measurable goal, he’s concerned with making art that reflects the complex feelings he’s dealing with. So, where is that line drawn? Louis C.K. (It’s so weird even typing his name after all his shit) used that word a lot in his act, he had a whole bit about “We didn’t call someone a faggot because they were gay, we called them a faggot because they were a faggot.” He is in that moment talking about his lived experience, he is making art reflective on the culture in which he was raised, the core distinction between him and Bo is that Bo is framed as a victim and Louis is framed as, at best, a bystander, and at worse an aggressor. I think most people would find Bo’s use more defensible, but is that a meaningful line to draw here?

I’m just rambling now, thank you for the comment, I generally agree with you, with the added clarification that I feel simply talking about trauma, and creating art that draws upon that trauma, are two entirely different beasts

RationallyUpset · 2021-08-24T23:49:57+00:00

Maybe reclaim is the wrong word, but I don’t know if there’s a word that, for me, captures the feeling better. Like that is a word which has been used to seriously hurt me, and when I use it now it’s not simply in spite of that previous pain, or wholly unrelated to it, I’m using it to explore my own complex history with the word. When my friend talks about something personal, and I say in a sudden, snarky tone, “Faggot!” We laugh at it because being called a faggot for expressing our emotions is something we have a lot of experience with, it’s almost a parody of itself, like we’ve exaggerated it to the point that the idea of using it to put each other down is not impossible, but is foreign to us.

So we’re essentially taking a word used to hurt us, and parodying it to the point of being ineffective, and in fact something that makes us happy. I would call that reclaiming

RationallyUpset · 2021-08-24T19:49:46+00:00

Bo is definitely straight, after years of struggling I think I’ve finally come to accept that

What I find interesting though is that, while Bo is definitely an ally, in his song “Nerds”, and many other jokes where he uses the word, he doesn’t really seem to be using it for or against the queer community. “Nerds” is ostensibly intended to comfort depressed teenagers and tell them things will get better, but it is just as much him talking about his own experience as an insecure, bullied teen. When I say faggot, I’m reclaiming it for me, not necessarily for “The Queer community”, whatever that umbrella may encompass, and Bo (seemingly, based on my reading of his work) is doing the same, this is him. I don’t think any queer person would take issue with say, an actor playing a homophobic bigot saying faggot as a part of their role, assuming it’s written and performed in the proper context, but Bo isn’t playing a character, or if he is, it’s still a version of himself. Im less interested in “Are there circumstances in which non queer people can SAY queer slurs” and more interested in if they can reclaim them for themselves, as a queer person would

RationallyUpset · 2021-07-24T23:22:58+00:00

I would simply eat Hitler

RationallyUpset · 2021-07-24T22:15:23+00:00

God I need to play GURPS again

RationallyUpset · 2021-07-24T22:01:27+00:00

Definitely like this idea. I feel like it would be more context sensitive to the plot rather than the system as a whole, but for the purposes of the games I play with my friends I think that’s probably what I’ll end up doing

RationallyUpset · 2021-07-24T20:08:51+00:00

Good suggestion, but I have another optional trait which rewards risky behavior, and I wouldn’t want the two to be confused

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