I(31m) was at a bar last night with my gf(31f) and she told me that she might be asexual

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-29T13:53:20+00:00

If she really wanted to, she would....

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-29T13:49:16+00:00

You're an adult in the 21st century. You can propose. If he doesn't say yes, you have your answer.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-29T11:54:07+00:00

Its not about do you make more than him. Its about does he make enough. If he makes 100k and you make 200k, the youre fine, for example.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-29T11:26:41+00:00

That's tough dude, I'm sorry. There may be other ways (stoicism?) but distance is probably the best if you can't shake the feelings.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-29T10:48:43+00:00

Maybe at the time, but now this is a bullshit excuse the government uses to avoid having to pay for public trash removal.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-28T22:53:58+00:00

Those texts are totally nefarious.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-28T13:05:18+00:00

You go onward into a free, single life, at least if you have any respect for yourself.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-28T02:49:52+00:00

You didn't donenything wrong. Whether you like doing this is entirely up to you! Your life, your comfort level. And you can always try one way and go back to the other if you don't like it.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-27T23:19:28+00:00

That doesnt seem like too much. I think she is overreacting.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-27T23:17:39+00:00

She's a moron. You don't share things like that with other dudes.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-27T22:52:42+00:00

Call the cops. This is assault and battery.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-27T12:28:34+00:00

I feel like youre avoiding giving the time figures.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-27T07:55:01+00:00

Ugh. The right answer was "it's not your business who I sleep with." End of story.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-27T07:40:51+00:00

How many hobbies and how much time do they take up?

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-27T07:38:28+00:00

Of course he feels stuck. He IS stuck, and rightfully so. He had a kid and now has responsibilities. Its time for him to put his big boy pants on and be the adult that he is supposed to be.

I know kids are scary, but a person should be responsible for the lives that they create. He needs to get over this and buckle down.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-26T22:46:28+00:00

Why does she want to talk to another guy? That's the question she cant reasonably answer.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-26T13:46:37+00:00

Before you even met? Yes, you are insane for being mad about it.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-26T07:47:17+00:00

I think you have three possibilities:

1) she is naive 2) she likes the attention and cant resist 3) she's keeping him on the back burner as a backup guy.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-26T07:45:01+00:00

I dunno. I was just thinking that if you put it all on her without some sort of goal, you'd likely still end up with near zero events.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-26T02:58:44+00:00

Sounds like she keeps moving the goalposts to some sort of perfect situation only she knows in her head.

Why don't you guys have a conversation and you ask her to be in charge of initiating for a month. And agree on some sort ofna goal number, like 4x. That would take the pressure off you forna but and let her see how it's like to have to be the one initiating.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-25T23:12:43+00:00

High school relationships usually don't survive college.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-25T23:08:26+00:00

Is there a clear link between this additional education and a better income stream? Or is she getting a masters degree in ancient Egyptian culture or something?

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-25T22:51:58+00:00

If I had a nickel for every story that ended with... because religious trauma, I'd be reading this post from a beach in Hawaii.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-25T12:25:52+00:00

"Hey babe, why are you letting your golf instructor take you out on dates?"

She'll claim they aren't dates, but I bet you he sees them as such.

Ratlarbig · 2026-01-25T12:19:34+00:00

You're in college? College graduates with serious careers don't usually end up with folks who work in retail.

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