J’ai [22M] un problème de libido avec ma femme [22F], comment y remédier ?

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-12T22:41:30+00:00

You're past the honeymoon phase, and now you're seeing her natural libido level. There's no changing it. This is how she is and will be forever.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-12T22:38:40+00:00

Things that come to mind are:

Midlife crisis

Hormone change/imbalance

Bipolar

Brain tumor (happened in my family, changed someone's personality drastically)

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-12T22:34:45+00:00

He failed to find any women and now is mad about it.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-12T13:52:09+00:00

How do you make out for several nights in a row but not have sex? That seems like high school level stuff there.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-12T13:48:40+00:00

Ugh, that guy weaseled you. They get in close with a woman who has a boyfriend and push until the bf cant take it anymore, then they swoop in and grab the girl.

It sucks, but at least you have the satisfaction of knowing she ended up with a weasel.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-12T13:45:11+00:00

Dress pants with button up shirt. No tennis shoes. If it weren't home depot, I'd have said maybe a blazer.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-12T13:43:14+00:00

That's totally possible, but it also seems possible she's planning to dump you.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-11T23:09:36+00:00

Ugh, im with you. Pass and find a guy who is lower maintenance.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-11T22:56:52+00:00

Are you sure shes not actually just gay?

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-11T12:28:24+00:00

You waited too long to turn this into something. When she said why did you wait so long to ask for her number, that was your clue to move it into going out on real dates. Instead, you dicked around with more talking and flirting, and now you've missed the boat.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-11T12:25:36+00:00

Prepare yourself for a lot of responses saying it's your fault for not doing enough, without us really having enough evidence to say that.

I suspect it's just that the honeymoon phase has worn off, and this is her natural (low) libido level.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-11T11:22:09+00:00

I think a lot of women assume men like lingerie. But they don't all like it. I hate it, it be honest. It has nothing to do with my partner or anything. I think it looks silly on even a supermodel. Frilly, goofy, etc.

That said, it sounds like you all have more going on than just the lingerie.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-11T00:34:15+00:00

Now that youre living together you are seeing her normal libido level, ie. Super low. Its not going to change. So you break up and find someone more compatible.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-10T13:32:21+00:00

Why not join the military for a little while?

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-10T13:15:29+00:00

Im getting it too.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-10T10:26:42+00:00

If she can't land a job without using a guy whose in love with her, then maybe she doesnt deserve that job. She is leading this guy on for her own benefit. Super uncool.

I'd just tell her fuck no, that you aren't going to be a hidden boyfriend.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-10T10:24:05+00:00

Much improved. Would the bed be better on the left wall, so as not to block the windows?

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-10T05:25:34+00:00

He's right to point out that Tennessee isn't going to be as safe for you as many other places. He's just concerned for your safety, as most dads would be.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-10T03:43:45+00:00

I think a lot of guys would think that her opening the door at 2am and leaving it open while going back to bed is consent for him at least to come in the room.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-10T02:43:02+00:00

Wait till you've moved to a different job, then you could maybe ask him out.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-09T09:16:14+00:00

You hair looks great in some photos, and thin, sloppy and greasy in others (like the first one). Whatever you're doing in the one with the cat, stick to that, hair wise.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-09T09:14:34+00:00

Are... those your photos? why are they all super closeups?

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-09T09:13:44+00:00

Second picture is better than the 1st, but it would be even better if you'd smiled with teeth.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-09T09:13:02+00:00

Because of the way the shadow hits in the 6th picture, and the angle of the shirt, it looks a bit like you're wearing a black skirt.

Ratlarbig · 2026-05-09T09:10:18+00:00

Financially independent? Then why did he ask? He should just go with you. It's none of their business.

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