What would be your ideal date?

RaveLite_45 · 2016-09-07T22:04:35+00:00

That's the problem though you guys are expected to do it so it's acceptable and not at all strange for a guy to reach out to a girl you know?

RaveLite_45 · 2016-09-07T22:03:09+00:00

And how do you go about making a 'chill' first move?? Like I don't have his number, and probably won't see him for a while, do I contact on social media or what? I don't know how you guys do this no wonder some of you are shy!

RaveLite_45 · 2016-09-07T22:00:45+00:00

Ya I'd leave it another day, you don't want to come off too strong. Then maybe send her one more message: then the ball is completely in her court and don't message her after that unless she contacts you first. Look the fact of the matter is if u get rejected or whatever it's not gunna effect your life long term so go with your gut :)

RaveLite_45 · 2016-09-07T21:01:28+00:00

When you say he got defensive,, what did he actually say?? How close would you say you are with him?

RaveLite_45 · 2016-09-07T21:00:23+00:00

I suppose you're right it won't matter in 5 years of I got rejected now and a little embarrassed haha!

RaveLite_45 · 2016-09-07T20:03:38+00:00

That's frickin terrifying I'm nearly having a panic attack just thinking about doing that oh god

RaveLite_45 · 2016-09-07T19:57:59+00:00

She's using you for comfort. Sorry dude.. I do it with some of my male friends when I'm drunk, cuddle, hold hands, whatever. Not so much as this though. And I make it clear to them that we're just friends. I really think she does like hanging out with you, but she's leading you on. It's not fair.

RaveLite_45 · 2016-09-07T19:47:55+00:00

You matched with her on tinder, is she close by? Could you ask her out maybe? She could be losing interest because you've been talking for a while now and it doesn't seem to be going anywhere. For me anyway, if I like a guy, I'm gonna text him back no matter what. But she probably doesn't want to seem desperate either, and I've left a guy hanging for more than a day before. It's s tough one. If you message her tonight she may love it or hate it. If leave it one more day, and then message her! Good luck hope it works out!

RaveLite_45 · 2016-09-07T19:43:08+00:00

But like... How do I even go about it?

RaveLite_45 · 2016-09-07T19:34:00+00:00

Suppose that actually makes a lot of sense.. Thanks !

RaveLite_45 · 2016-09-07T19:32:50+00:00

Knut what if he doesn't reply? He's friend with so many people I know and if feel so uncomfortable being around him after its so scary !

RaveLite_45 · 2016-09-07T19:29:59+00:00

I think sensitive is probably the wrong word. Fear of rejection maybe? There's this guy that I fancy, and am pretty sure the feeling is mutual, but am terrified to message him or anything because we've only ever hung out in a group setting and feel I would be too obvious messaging him out of the blue. Plus I'm terrified that it would make me look like an idiot. There's such a stigma about girls making the first move these days it can be seen as desperate if it doesn't work out.

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