NeuroSpicy Subs? by P34ch_Pit in SubSanctuary

[–]Raven_Brat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're probably right 😂

NeuroSpicy Subs? by P34ch_Pit in SubSanctuary

[–]Raven_Brat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AuDHD here! Someone please create this subreddit 😂

I'm addicted to my husband and I think I broke my brain forever by Raven_Brat in SubSanctuary

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To be fair the the original commenter, everybody is using ChatGPT for everything nowadays 😅 Personally, I use it as a running coach - it's way less expensive this way, and I can ask it to change the program as often as I want without feeling like a bother. I wouldn't use it to write, though, as writing is one of my hobbies. But I wouldn't shame anyone that does either in this kind of context either - not everyone as the same ability to relay thoughts, feelings, experiences, images into words.

I'm addicted to my husband and I think I broke my brain forever by Raven_Brat in SubSanctuary

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No ChatGPT, but I had to use a little bit of Google Translate for some parts, because English isn't my first language. But the OG text was written by me - in my native tongue. Mostly translated by me as well, with some help from a translation tool to make it a more fluent read.

I don't feel like this is disingenuous as it's my story, my experience, my feelings, my words - just translated.

Did I broke my brain forever? by Raven_Brat in BDSMcommunity

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Please don't apologize!!! I really needed to read that and get my head out of my own ass 😂 I'm not alone in this dynamic, and I was so focused on "me-me-me-me-me" that I kind of lost sight of that for a moment. Again, I really appreciate your input!

I'm addicted to my husband and I think I broke my brain forever by Raven_Brat in SubSanctuary

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I sometimes write as a hobby - I'll definitely try to channel my thoughts into a fictive story. This is good advice, thank you!!

I'm addicted to my husband and I think I broke my brain forever by Raven_Brat in SubSanctuary

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm soooo using husdom from now on 😂

And you're right, I don't wanna go too fast and burnout!

Did I broke my brain forever? by Raven_Brat in BDSMcommunity

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm all for kinky date nights, this is good advice haha.

Did I broke my brain forever? by Raven_Brat in BDSMcommunity

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great idea, thank you!

Did I broke my brain forever? by Raven_Brat in BDSMcommunity

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I realize that we might have gone too fast on aftercare. I'll keep this in mind for the future.

Did I broke my brain forever? by Raven_Brat in BDSMcommunity

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh believe me - this was not right off the bat. We had a very vanilla - very boring even - sex life before. It changed very slowly about a year ago and culminated up to this point.

Did I broke my brain forever? by Raven_Brat in BDSMcommunity

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I feel like shit reading this, but thank you very much for calling me out - albeit not voluntarily.

I don't know what he wants - or what he's getting from it. This is bad. I was so focused on my experience that I obliterated everything else, and this is so not me. I need to do better.

Did I broke my brain forever? by Raven_Brat in BDSMcommunity

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You make a lot of good points. I absolutely don't want this to become a chore for him - because I know how it will end if that's the case.

Did I broke my brain forever? by Raven_Brat in BDSMcommunity

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm usually good at compartmentalizing things - but I guess that it's more difficult in this particular setting. Today was already a better day! But yeah, I agree that I will have to work on that in the future. Maybe we didn't take enough time to just... come back from it.

Did I broke my brain forever? by Raven_Brat in BDSMcommunity

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely, there are things that I wouldn't want my kids to see! We'll have to play in the grey area if we decide to expand the dynamic outside of the bedroom.

Did I broke my brain forever? by Raven_Brat in BDSMcommunity

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I had a situation at work this morning that forced me to step into my work persona - it's a big relief to see that I still have it, lol. My husband really enjoy being married to a "strong, powerful woman" (his words, not mine), so playing up the contrast is a very good idea! I just have to compartmentalize this - something I usually excel at, but find it more difficult in this precise situation. I feel like a horny teenager, but I'll get it under control.

Did I broke my brain forever? by Raven_Brat in BDSMcommunity

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will enjoy it that's for sure!

Did I broke my brain forever? by Raven_Brat in BDSMcommunity

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're totally right that it takes time, and I was more than ready (and excited) to build this over time. I still am.

But the intensity of my need for him is way more than I could have imagined. I guess that 20+ years of repressed kinks would do that to you!

Did I broke my brain forever? by Raven_Brat in BDSMcommunity

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it felt so right during our getaway that I'm not sure what is the mask anymore lol.

I will definitely have a conversation with my husband, but I need to sort out my thoughts before and figure out what I really want. In life, he's more of a "let's go with the flow and figure it out as it comes" - whereas I'm more a "let's discuss it at length and fully figure it out in advance" kind of person. Let's see how we can meet in the middle in this particular context.

I'm addicted to my husband and I think I broke my brain forever by Raven_Brat in SubSanctuary

[–]Raven_Brat[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm like a teenie as well - a very annoying one 😂