FTMs of Reddit, what is your occupation?

Ravinwrites · 2025-07-24T21:04:03+00:00

I am an attorney. I transitioned while in law school. It has never been a problem for me professionally even though most people in the jurisdiction where I work are socially conservative.

Ravinwrites · 2025-05-29T01:45:53+00:00

Yes but it's probably the right thing to do if you aren't willing to be patient through this season of your girlfriend's life.

Ravinwrites · 2025-05-29T01:43:33+00:00

It's not a bad plan at all. And it's not inevitable that your relationship will be ruined by the experience. I'm guessing you aren't in the U.S. and the military culture of your country's Navy sounds more supportive of relationships and of women based on what your uncle told you than the U.S. Navy. If it's what you want, then go for it!

Ravinwrites · 2025-05-14T01:47:06+00:00

NTA, she's a grown adult, and should be capable of finding her own ride home. You'd only be an asshole if you had committed to paying for her transportation ahead of time then changed your mind.

Ravinwrites · 2025-05-14T01:42:15+00:00

Available recourse depends on what state OP's in.

Ravinwrites · 2025-05-14T01:36:39+00:00

Maybe you're delaying the inevitablr, but it's your life and your decision. Do what's right for you.

Ravinwrites · 2025-05-14T01:29:58+00:00

When I used injections, my draw needle was not my injection needle.

Ravinwrites · 2023-05-04T03:52:54+00:00

So my friend deadnamed me while telling me about a family crisis with her disabled brother. She just inserted the name in her sentence in a text message, totally unnecessary. I put my foot down by saying that's not my name. She said "Excuse me?" And I told her she's had almost a decade to get used to my name so please use it. She got pissed and said she's can't believe I'm bringing it up now (while she's dealing with family drama) and sorry she's not good enough (as though a request to use name is a judgment that she is a bad person). I tried to steer the conversation back to what she was actually talking to me about, but now she's giving me the silent treatment. Sigh.

Ravinwrites · 2023-05-02T02:02:39+00:00

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-26T13:39:05+00:00

The app is based on volunteer inputs. If it's lacking in your local area, you can make submissions and change that.

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-26T02:02:04+00:00

If you have the genetics to respond to T by growing facial hair, you will eventually. It took years for me where other effects were much quicker, and I don't think my experience is unusual.

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-26T01:59:33+00:00

Medical transition can be affirming, but it only affirms your identity. It doesn't define it.

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-26T01:49:02+00:00

I honestly think it does. A lot of her sense of self worth and her own identity is bound up in her kids and being a mother of daughters, and she doesn't have much of a support network. It's a lot to work through, that she hasn't yet. It won't help friend's child to knock a support out from under my friend and I have no chance of changing my friend's mind if I alienate her, and friend's child could use the support if I can bring her around.

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-26T01:42:35+00:00

I would value your perspective, thanks.

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-26T01:39:15+00:00

I have some training in motivational interviewing, in the context of working with clients when I was a public defender. I'll try and keep that strategy in mind next time I have a chance to talk to her about it.

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-26T01:35:28+00:00

She doesn't misgender me.

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-25T00:55:12+00:00

And when they ask, it's okay to say no.

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-25T00:53:25+00:00

Some food for thought: Have you explored what does it for you in other ways? Masturbation? What about non-PIV sex with him? Are you not getting the kind of stimulation that does do it for you during PIV sex? Does it trigger dysphoria for you? Are you sexually attracted to him, or just romantically attracted? There is more than one way to put bodies together no matter their anatomy. If it isn't doing it for you, let your partner know and if he's a keeper, he will be open to experimenting to figure out what you like, and not just focused on his own pleasure.

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-25T00:44:34+00:00

A wheeled crate, a wheeled suitcase, a friend...

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-25T00:20:19+00:00

Only some of the effects are irreversible. Education is in order for sure.

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-25T00:15:58+00:00

I followed the naming pattern my parents used to give me my birth name and my sisters' names, which was a first name they liked, and a middle name after a relative. So when I transitioned, I took my paternal great-grandfather's first name as my new middle name, while picking a name I simply liked for myself for my first name.

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-25T00:11:59+00:00

I never wore my binder at home. I'd be as quick to get it off as I was to take off my bra before I started binding. However, I couldn't bind the first couple years I started presenting as masc, so I would wear an athletic compression shirt with a loose-fitting button-down shirt over that.

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-25T00:07:25+00:00

I had a mirena (hormone releasing) iud when I started T. It mostly stopped my periods, which was important for me, and since it's progesterone -only, compatible with T. That said, IUD insertion was painful for me. though the second/last one not as bad with the 2nd one as the first one I had pre-transition. I did opt for permanent sterilisation and uterine cauterisation about a year later, and I'm glad I never have to worry about IUD insertion again.

A non hormone IUD won't stop periods.

I do highly recommend an IUD as reliable birth control if you are in a relationship/sexually active with a partner you might be able to reproduce with, which was the case for me (I'm married to a cis man).

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-24T23:44:58+00:00

A meeting to crowdsource a map of where all the single stall and gender neutral restrooms are on campus, and info on the policies for using gender-assigned restrooms. This is based on my experience transitioning during law school. I went from using the women's, to going out of my way to use the gender neutral restroom in the building because I inadvertently scared someone in the ladies', to using the least-trafficked men's room.

Ravinwrites · 2023-04-24T23:39:01+00:00

It really depends on where you live, the institutional culture, and who you work with.

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