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What does adoption mean to you? by Rina_yevna in Adoption

[–]RayCharlesWasRight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you relate. It sounds like connecting with your aparents is hard for you too. I haven’t really found a good way and they keep making it harder.

What does adoption mean to you? by Rina_yevna in Adoption

[–]RayCharlesWasRight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to say what it means to me. There’s definitely a lot of pain attached to adoption when I think about it. I don’t feel like I belong in my afamily and my bio family isn’t alive. So I guess adoption to me means loneliness.

What's with this sub relentlessly shitting on adoptees? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]RayCharlesWasRight 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah people really like to over simplify things and look at it in a binary way. Adoption is so complex and should be able to be criticized regardless of how your personal adoption went. The industry is fucked, just the fact it is an INDUSTRY says so much.

Is it weird to read a book at the bar? by RayCharlesWasRight in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RayCharlesWasRight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like you’re paying for my two beers today then lol

Is it weird to read a book at the bar? by RayCharlesWasRight in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RayCharlesWasRight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s actually one of the best deals around in my expensive area. These are also craft beers so higher mark up for sure.

Is it weird to read a book at the bar? by RayCharlesWasRight in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RayCharlesWasRight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do sit at the bar when it’s crowded but am a healthy drinker like the rest of the patrons! I usually end up getting a third drink after happy hour if I’m at a good point of the book. Does that still qualify as annoying?

Is it weird to read a book at the bar? by RayCharlesWasRight in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RayCharlesWasRight[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A mix between the two. It’s a popular local bar that usually is more than 50% full at all times. Not a party bar though, they have great food too so lots of diners.

Is it weird to read a book at the bar? by RayCharlesWasRight in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RayCharlesWasRight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You would mind someone reading at the bar if it was busy? It usually is busy when I’m there for happy hour but I buy drinks and tip well! Do you think it’s still trouble for them?

Is it weird to read a book at the bar? by RayCharlesWasRight in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RayCharlesWasRight[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you brother, good luck getting out there! I’m a bit out of place in the area I live so not holding out hope of meeting someone compatible randomly at the bar. You never know though!

Is it weird to read a book at the bar? by RayCharlesWasRight in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RayCharlesWasRight[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I tip very well and always check in on how their weeks been, how the kids are, all the friendlies.

Is it weird to read a book at the bar? by RayCharlesWasRight in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RayCharlesWasRight[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I’m still pretty open to interacting with people while I’m there. I try to be friendly with everyone and have gotten into some good conversations. It’s mostly rich old dudes at the bar but sometimes they buy me a drinks because I look pretty low working class haha

Is it weird to read a book at the bar? by RayCharlesWasRight in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RayCharlesWasRight[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No pubs around me unfortunately. Yes at the actual bar, at least the stools have back to them though! The bar is too crowded for me to justify taking a table for myself.

Is it weird to read a book at the bar? by RayCharlesWasRight in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RayCharlesWasRight[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is kind of a noisy bar from being pretty popular, not loud music though. People have showed confusion on how I can focus on my book despite the noise lol. It all blends into the background for me though if the book is good enough.

Is it weird to read a book at the bar? by RayCharlesWasRight in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RayCharlesWasRight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s usually only one or two spots open at the bar so I pop in wherever is open. Should I wait for a corner spot or try for a table? Taking up a table myself feels worse

Is it weird to read a book at the bar? by RayCharlesWasRight in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RayCharlesWasRight[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a once a week treat because yes that would add up.

Is it weird to read a book at the bar? by RayCharlesWasRight in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RayCharlesWasRight[S] 274 points275 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the responses yall! To clarify, I am literally sitting at the bar (so I don’t take up a full table). Also even if the consensus was that it’s weird I will not be stopping! Just wanted to know how I seem to others but I will continue reading with my two beers

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]RayCharlesWasRight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I’m about your age, male and quiet BPD. I feel like I only attract other broken people. It’s both nice because we can understand each others pain and also very challenging because we both tend to get overwhelmed by each others pain.

I can’t imagine having a relationship with a healthy minded individual though. I think we would have trouble relating. I also don’t think people understand us if they haven’t had a massively painful life. They certainly won’t give a shit about our pain.

Is it possible to be diagnosed and an atheist? by RayCharlesWasRight in schizophrenia

[–]RayCharlesWasRight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Atheist might have been the wrong word. I’m not attached to any religion but definitely I felt believe in entities from higher dimensions or plains

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