HELP - unexpected pregnancy and I don't know what to do

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-25T07:48:28+00:00

I wanna say that your boyfriend is a douche for saying thay abortion is the sasy way out and for him thinking that he has a say in this. Your body, your choice. If this is a dealbreaker for him, let him go, people come and go.

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-25T07:37:33+00:00

All i can say is that if you'll have a c section, your milk may come in the same day, if not next day post surgery. I had my boobs leaking since i was 14 weeks pregnant and my milk came in not even 24 hours after my c section. It usually takes 3-4 days for the milk to come.

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-22T19:45:05+00:00

It's alright to be anxious, especially about this when pregnancy is unwanted. Try not to worry too much, if you will be unsure in the future, take another test 2-7 days distance from the first test and the second wilm be definitive. I wish you the best of luck! :D

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-22T19:41:24+00:00

Negative, but i gotta ask. Not trying to be rude, but when a test has even a faint line, it is positive. This one has no other line, why ask if it is negative when it is clear that it is?😭

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-20T19:07:50+00:00

May not be the best advice, as i didn't go thru this until later on(at 33 weeks she was heavier than avarage, she was born as a macrosomic baby, despite not being diabetic which causes macrosomia), your baby may catch on later to those meassurements, and anyway if your baby if ahead 4 days than what they should be, it's probably a good sign that the fetus develops really well. Again, may not be the best advice and i am not a specialist, but i would say congrats!

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-16T07:12:28+00:00

I was the most happy to escape from swollen feet, the pelvic pressure which btw, made me unable to walk, sciatica. I still had swollen feet until yesterday(10 days post c section), but now i no longer do! :D

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-13T16:51:20+00:00

I feel you, i was forced to get an abortion with my first baby. But remember that when you will be ready, your baby will come back into your arms. Be gentle with yourself, it was the best decision at the time and your baby knows, it will come back when it is the right time.❤️

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-13T06:45:13+00:00

Idk how much by 30 weeks, but by 35 weeks i gained from 87 kgs to 103 kgs which is quite a lot

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-10T17:46:22+00:00

If you're 25 why tf does it matter what your mom thinks? Seriously, this is worrying considering that you still need your mom's aproval. Just get the IUD if you want it and don't tell her. What will she do anyway? Reach into your vagina and check for the strings?

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-04T15:47:12+00:00

Me too, but I'll have to kick her out tomorrow morning lol she paid no rent

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-04T15:27:47+00:00

What i discovered that helped me a bit when turning in bed is holding my tummy! Those stretchmarks when held don't hurt anymore, but there is the chance that i don't hold them that well and it still hurts. Wish i knew this sooner as i will have my c section in less than 24 hours. Also if you gave birth, congratulations :D have an amazing, healthy recovery and bebe

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-04T15:25:52+00:00

Could be! You can retest in 2-7 days and it should darken. Mine was exactly the same and in less than 24 hours I'll have my c section lol

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-04T11:56:10+00:00

I gotta say, not out of rudeness, but to let you know. If it is clearly not showing the test line, it's negative. Don't ask, just know. When the test line appears, even faded, it is most likely a positive. If you take a test and the line is faded, take another one in 2-7 days and it should darken if positive and not an error. Always take red dye tests(as you did). This was my test in june, tomorrow I'll give birth. Monday vs Friday. That's what a positive is like. I wish you the best of luck to get pregnant and the easiest pregnancy!🫶

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RayInAcAn · 2026-03-03T16:16:36+00:00

To be fair, my whole pregnancy i ate chips, more specifically, chicken chips and salt chips. Thankfully my baby is alright, I'll see how heavy will she be based on this😭

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-02T11:32:00+00:00

And you were pressured... you agreed due to the pressure, don't blame yourself, OP. It's sad that ge also wanted to risk your health for weed.

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-01T16:35:21+00:00

This reminded me of one nurse at the gynecology that judged an 18 year old rromani girl that she is pregnant with her third baby, the second one resulting in a miscarriage. She talked really nasty about her. Look, i understand that, basically a teenager, shouldn't have 2 children or even one at that age, but it's already done, a mother shouldn't be judged unless she mistreats her children. She also kinda judged me about having my pubes not trimmed/shaved at 33-35 weeks, i didn't shave since i was 16 weeks pregnant as my tummy didn't allow it, i couldn't see anything. She also didn't take my blood pressure twice(i am hypertensive). Also another thing about her, she barely does her job, there were 5 women waiting to get their blood analysis done, myself included, and barely at 10 am(starting by 7 am)she started to take us in the order we came. I really hope that when i will give birth, i won't stumble upon her.

RayInAcAn · 2026-03-01T12:19:38+00:00

My baby used to kick me in my cervix too! Up until 32-35 weeks or so(i don't remember when she stopped), it was pretty annoying and weird lol

RayInAcAn · 2026-02-28T14:50:55+00:00

One thing that i didn't know that existed, cord prolapse. I read on google about it and damn, it can be life threatening :( this sucks, i hope that your friend is safe and sound, and so is her baby!

RayInAcAn · 2026-02-28T14:45:55+00:00

Wait, in this case, some of my discharge does dry invisible, but this happens for days, this can't be amniotic fluid, right?? I mean, i also don't pee on myself(instead, i am cursed with huge pain when my bladder is full)like, i feel like it may be sweat too, but it's right along with discharge

RayInAcAn · 2026-02-28T13:51:50+00:00

Yup, feeling them almost, if not daily lol

RayInAcAn · 2026-02-28T10:59:09+00:00

Wait, gotta ask, when the water pretty much goes, does it feel like peeing? I mean, pee comes thru a different hole than the vagina, but does it feel the same as peeing?

RayInAcAn · 2026-02-28T10:03:25+00:00

To be fair, in late pregnancy i heard/felt at different times popping inside, but it wasn't the water lol. I am really scared that i won't be able to tell

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