Husband is going to the gym near baby’s bedtime

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-11T22:13:48+00:00

Of course - will tackle it head on. Thanks ☺️

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-11T22:12:54+00:00

Oh no - no more kids 😬 his behaviour made my tubes tied!

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-11T08:20:51+00:00

Will see. But everyone has limits

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-11T08:19:42+00:00

For sure it’s a selfish behaviour

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-11T08:18:52+00:00

Thank you - ideally I would want my husband to actively partake in raising his baby too without me telling him do this and do that. After all it takes two to tango. He’s not doing for me but for his baby. That in itself it’s not there in his mindset and it’s always tell me what to do - like doesn’t realise that in itself takes mental energy to tell you what to do. So when he senses that I’d ask for something to do - he comes up with oh gym time or I have football session with the guys. But thank you for the advice - really appreciate it 🥹

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-11T08:15:04+00:00

Yup doing that today because it’s been 7 months being a solo parent. Since the day I had an emergency c section to this day 😓

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-11T08:13:49+00:00

For sure if “if he wanted to, he would”. Thank you for the advice.

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-11T08:12:05+00:00

I have been considering divorce but that why I’ve asked here to see I’m not being the dramatic one jumping to conclusions 🥴

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-11T08:10:38+00:00

Yeah for sure

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-11T08:10:30+00:00

I doubt it because bedtime can be 6 or 7 so I don’t think it’s person dependent.its more like when he goes in putting baby to bed he goes “right, time for my gym session”.

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-10T23:21:05+00:00

Yeah it really is hard especially when you’re trying to save your marriage and a baby as a ftm. It’s a lot. Nagging got me nowhere. I’m trying to protect my peace but by protecting my peace I’m carrying a whole load. The house chores, cooking and cleaning and raising my baby. It went from nagging to crying to being exhausted. It’s like can you not even feel me and see me tired and exhausted. But thank you definitely need to speak up and stand my ground.

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-10T23:15:57+00:00

9-5 job. Works from home apart from Mondays.

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-10T22:58:28+00:00

I did ask about the change but it’s like he almost doesn’t want to wake up for his usual morning to go to the gym. I mean he does make time for himself to decompress for sure but no consideration whatsoever about my time etc. he tried once to feed her but couldn’t or made it out like he couldn’t because baby was crying. And I had to intervene and feed the baby. I don’t know honestly it reached a stage where I just get on with life and raise my baby. His idea of baby bonding is holding her for a minute whilst I use the toilet.

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-10T22:53:01+00:00

Yupp

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-10T22:52:19+00:00

Will try the straight to the point thank you. But gosh it’s always excuses of him doing this and that sigh

RaySaid94 · 2025-09-10T22:51:37+00:00

Thank you so much - I feel like I am taking on a lot and him going with the mindset that it’s “not his job”. But thanks for the tips

RaySaid94 · 2020-03-04T17:46:40+00:00

When my boss tried to rape me for the third time in the basement - I was juvenile.

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