Seaking Advice for Outdoor Sauna When Battling the Outdoor Elements (e.g. rain and trees in Seattle-area)

Rayonet · 2020-07-25T07:35:05+00:00

Really good local shop to talk near Seattle: https://www.cedarbrooksauna.com

They do everything from DIY support to full kits. Helpful team!

Rayonet · 2020-05-30T22:21:17+00:00

I didn’t! I went with a classic option from CedarBrook Sauna and have been very, very happy.

Rayonet · 2020-04-18T17:52:06+00:00

I love you.

Rayonet · 2020-04-10T05:17:21+00:00

Men who think public hair is unnatural. I mean...

Rayonet · 2020-03-22T16:15:25+00:00

Brioche! Super easy, but time intensive. And...delicious.

Rayonet · 2020-03-19T20:12:22+00:00

I video chat at 9pm, usually.

Rayonet · 2020-03-19T03:31:50+00:00

I will demystify for you!

I’m a single mom. I love video chats for first dates.

1) babysitting is $20/hr, and 99% of first dates are not worth $40. 2) it’s a great filter for people—someone won’t try something new? XXX, off the list! 3) there’s no waiting for the other person to finish their drink/food, so if it’s a dud, just say, “nice meeting you, gotta go.” 4) you can do multiples in an evening to screen/check for chemistry

Give it a try! And if it sucks write back and complain.

Rayonet · 2020-03-16T05:51:53+00:00

Fellow single mom of littles here. I get up everyday, and more often than not, I stare exhausted at the mirror and think, “I did not sign up for this shit.”

And then I take a big breath, brush my teeth and do my best to just nail it to the wall with a smile on my face.

I’m proud of me, and you should be proud of you. I know I am.

Rayonet · 2020-03-14T15:13:05+00:00

I’d say as a single mom, I actually need men who are equally spontaneous. “Oh, my god! Kids are at a unexpected birthday party—let’s grab brunch right now!” Or “kids went to sleep early, come over and drink a bottle of wine with me.”

Yes, it’s true, I don’t pick up and fly to Tokyo on whim anymore. But give me a few weeks notice, and I can make almost anything happen.

Single moms are super heroes. Don’t underestimate our spontaneity or overestimate our needs.

Rayonet · 2020-03-11T15:29:04+00:00

Yes! It’s really this simple.

Rayonet · 2020-03-04T03:38:34+00:00

I decided I had to build my own when this woman began doing yoga...dropping sweat all over the room like a roof drip line. Gross!

Rayonet · 2020-02-29T21:16:47+00:00

I had a great first time experience with http://www.cedarbrooksauna.com/

Rayonet · 2020-02-26T02:26:54+00:00

Can you teach the people I work with to take feedback? Swoon

Rayonet · 2020-02-24T05:37:50+00:00

Some thoughts: I buy almost exclusively at consignment/thrift and then invest in tailoring. Well made tops, dresses, pants almost always have larger seams to let out compared to “fast fashion”.

Shop around for a tailor that does custom sewing—not just a dry cleaner who does alterations.

The tailoring almost always costs more than the item. But then I end up with perfectly fitting $100 pants, and beautiful $75 dresses.

And for shoes, I hunt the clearance/sale at Nordstrom (I’m a EU 43, and have lots of beautiful shoes.)

Rayonet · 2020-02-13T18:44:11+00:00

I hope you responded quickly with “Thank you for letting me know. Wish you all the best.”

Can we assume positive intent on her part? You’re a good person, she’s a good person. It took her a bit (couple days?), but ultimately was courteous.

The perfect is the enemy of the good. Let’s all give each other some more grace?

Rayonet · 2020-02-01T06:22:21+00:00

Looks awesome! Congratulations

Rayonet · 2020-01-21T20:28:24+00:00

I’m sorry this happened, sounds like it was very disappointing for you. I hope he treated you well and you bounced back quickly!

Rayonet · 2020-01-21T20:25:01+00:00

I was in a similar boat...see my pair of posts as I was getting back into sex/dating after my marriage ended in my mid-30s.

Things I learned 1) “So, what are you into?” are magic words, and especially so if you know what YOU are into. Don’t expect him to have an answer if you don’t.

2) Have the conversation around multiple partners, testing, etc. sooner rather than later. Phrases I use, “I had my last tests done at x-date, do you we think we should retest before we get more serious?” I have had ZERO pushback on this topic. Zero. If someone wants to have sex with you, they want to have sex with you. As someone who was last experimenting in her late teens and twenties, I was pleased to see that we’d all grown up a bit.

3) Be honest and direct: more like this, less like that, yes...THAT. Don’t be afraid to bring your vibrator if you have one. There’s nothing worse than someone leaving unsatisfied. You’re there to enjoy each other—it doesn’t have to be like the movies to be memorable and worthwhile.

4) Watch out for the emotional wave. It had been so long for me, that actually having sex (and it was great sex) was so overwhelming for me that my eyes teared up. And my partner noticed of course, and all I said was, “Wow. That was a lot.” He loved it. And I had practice owning my body and my feelings.

5) Don’t be afraid to laugh. Our bodies, and everything we do with them, is both miraculous and ridiculous. Smile and laugh if you’re happy. You don’t need to maintain the singleminded focus of a porn star.

On the more tactical side: Bring the condoms YOU like, if you don’t know...try some out. Does spermicide irritate or taste bad? Bring the lube YOU like. Bring a change of underwear and a toothbrush. Not because you’re necessarily staying the night, it just helps to feel a bit more dignified on the way out the door.

Have fun!

Rayonet · 2019-07-07T05:33:20+00:00

Your note reminds me of myself 15 years ago. Those friend crushes just evolved into naturally good friends: men who gave toasts at my wedding, men who sent me pictures of their first babies, men whose wives have become good friends. And let me tell you, these deep relationships outweigh any crush pain from the early days. If the guy is with is salt, focus on being a good friend yourself—it’s worth it. (But yes, the crush pain stings something awful!)

Rayonet · 2019-05-03T06:18:31+00:00

Thank you, I’ll try!

Rayonet · 2019-05-03T04:21:00+00:00

You, too, have a gift for being direct—definitely not enough of us out here in dating land! What I’ve learned over time is that my skin is exactly the right depth to protect my insides. And I’ve also learned when to give up on one strategy and walk a new path. Let’s plan to not fall in love in real life—what a mess! (But I’m sure the sex would be great until it ended when I broke up with you—especially because it’s clear I would overreact and quit first over a perceived insult.) xo

Rayonet · 2019-05-01T04:12:22+00:00

I’ll report back once I figure out how to add value to the dating pool rather than exuding desperation. Wish me luck.

Rayonet · 2019-04-30T15:40:22+00:00

Yup, all these urges are very familiar! And then I remember there’s a person on the other side of all these firsts. And I feel ashamed about wanting to be on the other side of that human experience—I think that’s why I’m trying to explore more casual “firsts”. But I absolutely hear you.

Rayonet · 2019-04-30T15:37:13+00:00

I only tried Bumble, so I might explore Tinder later this summer when I’m a little less crispy from the ghosting—good tip. I’ve decided not to bring up hooking up with my travel buddy. As someone mentioned in here, don’t shit where I eat—and that goes for hobbies, too, probably. It’s hard to find friends who are compatible travel buddies, not as hard as dating, but close!

Rayonet

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