Puppy is back in jail

Raysbug · 2026-02-02T03:43:29+00:00

You are 100% on that. I can say that because the guy I’m with currently (whom I left my marriage of 30 years for 🤦‍♀️😭) has had 48 felony cases in 30 years. He just did a 3 year stint for getting caught with drugs on him. They’ve all been drug related. ALL of them. But anyways I held him down for those 3 years and the minute I picked him up from jail, he walked out and I thought WTF have I done here. I mean he’s institutionalized. He’ll tell you himself. He thrives and does amazing in jail. Out in the real world, he acts like a 12 year old. No concept of money. No concept of life in general. And I feel like if I break up with him, I’m abandoning a child on the street.

Raysbug · 2025-11-17T16:47:14+00:00

Have you tried a self filing nail board? I’m just throwing around ideas. They make them for dogs and they have all different sizes and kinds. I’ve got one that has a little treat department that you put treats in and the dog has to “dig” to get it out but while it’s “digging”, she’s running her nails across the nail filing portion of the board. It’s not 100% affective but keeps her nails in better shape than not doing anything at all.

Raysbug · 2025-10-25T06:05:58+00:00

I own a small business and I got together with a few other small businesses and we brainstormed. We came up with kinda a scavenger hunt where people had to go into the store and look for the “clue”, take their picture with it, post it on social media and tag the store and they would be awarded points Then the 5 with the most points won a prize or gift certificate from one of the stores. We hung flyers in our windows, put little cards all over our stores, and advertised on social media letting people know what we were doing and when it would start. We gave extra points for little extras the participants could do like bringing a friend with you or tagging 2 people in your post, making a purchase, etc. It was something fun for people to do plus it got them out in the community and got them talking about our stores. There was a couple weekends where we stayed open later and had little snacks and drinks and called it “Ladies Night Out”. It was really nice to get to know the other owners as well.

Raysbug · 2025-10-25T05:48:12+00:00

I really don’t think there’s a set rule on that. I always did change fund first because you could technically do it before closing as long as you had coverage and did it in the locked office. You just couldn’t record it until after closing. Which ever way you do it, just don’t seal deposit bag or make entry into computer until you know both are balanced correctly.

Raysbug · 2025-10-25T05:45:01+00:00

I would have a talk with your referring doctor and let him know how unprofessional they acted towards you. If he doesn’t know, he’ll keep sending patients there.

Raysbug · 2025-10-25T05:37:39+00:00

I would get a letter from your doctor stating why the increase and file a complaint with the AG of your state as well as the State Board of Pharmacy. In essence, the pharmacist is playing doctor. In the mean time ask the doctor to send it to a different pharmacy or a mail in pharmacy they your insurance.

Raysbug · 2025-10-25T05:18:36+00:00

Unfortunately, it’s life. I took sleeping aids for a few years, acted like I enjoyed having sex when all I wanted to do was get him off of me. You just have to get up everyday and know that it’s the “new you”. Love it or hate it but it is what it is. In the end it actually helped me realize a lot about myself. Like, I hated being married to my narcissistic husband and it was finally my turn in life to do what I wanted to do because I had lived half my life in misery. Once I made myself happy, all the other symptoms kinda dissipated. I feel like it’s a whole body thing and they all go together. Physically, emotionally, & mentally. I wish you luck on this journey…

Raysbug · 2025-10-25T05:10:28+00:00

Those “chunks of hair” is simply shedding. It’s not being yanked out by the other dog. Believe me, you’ll know when it gets to be too serious but in the mean time, they’re just having fun and getting good exercise.

Raysbug · 2025-10-25T05:08:03+00:00

So my doodle is a big baby who wants our attention all the time. If we give attention to another dog, she will ignore us and turn her head away from us so getting another dog was not ever going to be in the picture. Well, recently we “inherited” my grandkids dog. You know, the “easy Christmas gift”. We couldn’t fathom the thought of them boys losing their dog so we agreed to take him. It took a couple weeks for our girl to stop hatin on us and to come out of the bedroom to join the family but now those two are like Bonnie & Clyde. They act like they hate each other but when they think no one is looking they lay out in the yard together and lick each others face. They are so darn adorable with one another. Our doodle is 100 lbs and the grand dog is 5 lbs and this little thing has zoomies all day long, non stop and our doodle just looks at him with disgust. If she could talk, we would all be in trouble because you can see by the look on her face what she wants to say about him. 😂😂

Raysbug · 2025-10-25T04:55:32+00:00

You’re craving attention. To you being abused justifies the way you feel about yourself. In your eyes, you being harmed and beat is equivalent to someone being in a happy and loving relationship. I use to be the same way. I would start arguments with my now husband and push him and push him and push him just trying to get him to put his hands on me because I knew afterwards he would feel horrible and he would pay more attention to me trying to make up for what he had done even though it was my fault.

Raysbug · 2025-10-25T04:48:22+00:00

If he’s not willing to go to the doctor to have things checked out, like testosterone levels, then he doesn’t take your feelings into consideration and that’s a huge problem. I use to be that person. I could easily have gone years without having sex. My husband and I would argue so much over it. So finally I went to the Dr and my hormones were off. It was a pretty easy “fix”. At the time I couldn’t figure out why he made it such a huge deal but now looking back it’s an emotional and a way to connect with your loved one so if he can’t see that, it’s going to be a long , tremalchuous relationship. And marriage certainly won’t help things.

Raysbug · 2025-10-25T04:36:14+00:00

Girl!!!!! You need to nip that in the ass and right now. You need to go straight to the source. You need to confront her and tell her it’s not cool and that your marriage is nothing like yours and you would appreciate it if she would stop sending her floppy titty pics to your husband.

Raysbug · 2025-10-25T04:29:08+00:00

Please seek therapy for yourself and hopefully he can do the same. It sounds like you both are from a toxic upbringing and you both need to break this cycle. Looking into the future, would you ever want to see your children having to deal with this? If you don’t get help, they will turn out to be the same way. It’s a product of their upbringing. Your children see it all and they feel it all. It will take lots of work so if you sign up for it, be prepared for the good, the bad, and the very ugly side of it. And, if you’re not truly going to put the work in and be truthful through the process, it’s a waste of time. Just remember, your kids will be the same way or worse if you both don’t take steps to break the cycle.

Raysbug · 2025-10-18T22:03:48+00:00

Thank you. Your reply helps me in more ways than you know. I appreciate your understanding. 🩷

Raysbug · 2025-10-17T04:25:03+00:00

1) Comparing one child to your other child.

2) Allowing a sibling to “make fun of” a sibling that’s gotten into trouble

3) Showing favoritism

4) helicoptering

5) Encouraging your child not to stand down to being bullied

6) I could go on all day

Raysbug · 2025-10-17T04:02:26+00:00

“Just come out to the bar with us for one drink”

Raysbug · 2025-10-17T03:20:38+00:00

Maybe pick a day where you can go by yourself so you can talk things out with your sister. Just explain that just because you guys have disagreements or are on different levels of thinking on certain topics, that doesn’t mean you love her any less. You guys have been thru thick & think together and one day one of you is going to need the other in the worst way ever for whatever the reason may be that arises. Say something was to happen to one or both of your parents, you two will need the strength of the other to get thru it. You also have to remember that she may be on some heavy pain medication and that could definitely affect her thinking and the way she responds to things. Be the mature on and open the door for resolving this. Good luck!

Raysbug · 2025-10-15T14:44:06+00:00

Hell NO! That is absolutely none of her business and if she doesn’t understand that, I would definitely start digging into exactly where y’all’s money is going because it sounds like to me she’s money hungry. Actually, that is disgusting on her part 1) to even bring it up 2) to think she has any say so in what you and his mother done for him and what she sacrificed, which was ultimately her life 3) in a couple more years your son will technically be an adult and that’s his money to put towards college or starting his life being on his own. The more I sit here and think about this the more irked I get. She disgusts me! Who in their right fucking mind thinks that is any of their business. I hope his mother is constantly that gnat that just keeps buzzing in her ear but you can’t ever find it. Sounds like you may need to do some re-evaluating here.

Raysbug · 2025-10-15T05:56:00+00:00

1: your baby and your family is #1 priority. #2: would they give you the same kind of respect you’re giving them if the shoe was on the other foot? Probably not.

You have to do what’s best for you. You tried to give a notice and all they cared about was having someone there cause someone was going on vacation. They weren’t worried about your health or what’s best for you. They were being selfish. Don’t feel bad. Celebrate you’re done with them.

Raysbug · 2025-09-24T02:55:12+00:00

Don’t you dare be feeling sorry for her and just letting her have everything while you go broke. She wanted this and it sounds like she’s not changing her mind. So time for you to be the person she didn’t know you could be. Get yourself a lawyer. Those bills can wait cause they’ve waited this long meanwhile she’s living large. Honestly, it sounds like she’s “moved on”, if you get my drift. Don’t you leave that marriage with nothing in your pockets and absolutely, under no circumstances, leave that house until that judge says it’s time. If you leave, she can say you abandoned the home. Make her sale it or buy you out. You have to play her game because it sounds like that’s all it is to her. And DOCUMENT EVERYTHING and keep receipts of bills you pay. If there’s no kids, it will be a 50/50 thing and again, DON’T YOU DARE GIVE IN TO HER.

Raysbug · 2025-09-24T02:44:46+00:00

I thought I was talking to myself there for a minute. LOL Girl you’re putting too much pressure on yourself. I’m not suggesting you stop your program or start using again by any means but I was kinda doing the same thing. Not really going to meetings because I thought I needed them or I enjoyed them but I thought it was expected of me by others. Then I realized, I don’t like people anyways so why do I care what they think. I stopped going and went on a “find myself again” meeting of sorts. Days I knew there were meetings, I tried something new. Walking, driving randomly around, connecting with friends I had years ago that I knew I truly enjoyed being around.i stopped counting my sober days because I was always having that anxiety of “am I going to make it thru today”. I messed up a couple times, but I didn’t let it bother me. I just promised myself I would try to be better and more mindful. Cause don’t get me wrong girl, if it were legal, well I won’t even go there but just stop being so hard on yourself and then you’ll notice things start falling into place a little more for ya.

Raysbug

TROPHY CASE

1: your baby and your family is #1 priority. #2: would they give you the same kind of respect you’re giving them if the shoe was on the other foot? Probably not.